Ukuzisola okukhulu, ngoba namuhla ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu ababili abubhekwa njengokubaluleke kakhulu ezinsukwini zakudala. Abantu bahlangana, abantu bayathandana, bese ... bahlukanisa. Kufika ukungaqondi kahle kusuka komunye noma ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuvela ukuthi indoda ebonakala ngathi iyingqayizivele futhi ingenakuqhathaniswa akufani nhlobo, futhi ukuhlukana kobudlelwano kuqala.
Lokhu kuyisikhathi esinzima kakhulu ekuphileni kwethu. Uma ukuhlukana kobudlelwane kwenzeka ngokuvumelana, kulula, nakuba bobabili ababambiqhaza bahlangabezana nakho. Kodwa uma omunye wabalingani eshiywa phansi, isimo sibi kakhulu. I-psychology yokuhlukana ubudlelwano iyingozi - ukuwa kwazo zonke izinhlelo, indlela ehleliwe yokuphila. Kubonakala sengathi kukhona ithemba, konke kungagcina ngisho nokucindezeleka isikhathi eside. Futhi umuntu ophonsa, naye, akayona neze into elula.
Izizathu zokuqedwa kobudlelwane
Ukwedlula ubudlelwane kungenziwa ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene. Ubudlelwane obuseduze nokuqhekeka kubonakala sengathi kuyashisa, ngoba umbhangqwana kuvela inhlekelele. Lokhu kungabangelwa izici eziningana, okuzokwenziwa yiqembu elilodwa. Izizathu eziyinhloko zokwahlukana kobudlelwane kungaba lokhu okulandelayo:
- Ukuqaphela ngomunye wabalingani bokuthi into yothando ayikho konke okwakubonakala ekuqaleni. Kukhona ukuwa kwezingqondo, debunking the ekahle owadalwa nathi.
- Izinkinga zomzimba, uma omunye wabalingani ehola ngaphezu kokunye, kanye nemibono ehlukene ezindleko ezidingekayo zezimali.
- Ukwehlukana kobudlelwane obude, lapho umbhangqwana uhlala ndawonye, kungabangela nokuphila, ukubekezela nokulahla ukwehluleka okuncane komlingani wabo, okubonakala ngokucacile emisebenzini yansuku zonke.
- Amacebo ahlukene ngekusasa, imibono ehlukene ngezikhathi zokuphila eziyinhloko nayo ingathinta ubudlelwane futhi ivuse inhlupho.
Ungayiphula kanjani kahle ubuhlobo?
Uma lo mbhangqwana uhlangabezane nobunzima obufanayo, futhi akukho tricks namaqhinga awusizo, futhi imizamo yokugcina ubuhlobo bulahlekile, udinga ukucabanga ngokuphula ubuhlobo. Ukuqaphela ukuthi igebe lomlingani lingaba buhlungu kakhudlwana kunawe, lingabe lihlehlise leli gaba isikhathi esingenamkhawulo. Kodwa uma kungenakuvunyelwa ngokwengeziwe kubudlelwano nomlingani, akuyona into engafanele ukufunda ukuthi ungaqeda kanjani ubuhlobo obungenabuhlungu kubo bobabili abathintekayo. Kukhona ukulandelana kokuhlelwa kobudlelwane obuhle kakhulu, ngaphandle kwempi kanye nezigcawu.
- Zinqume wena 100% ukuthi ufuna ngempela ukuhlukana nobuhlobo nomuntu. Hlaziya yonke imininingwana yobudlelwane bakho futhi uwakhumbule. Yilungele ukuzwakala zonke lezi zizathu kumlingani wakho.
- Hlela ingxoxo ebulalayo kusengaphambili, sinqume indawo nesikhathi sayo. Kuyoba lula kakhulu uma ingxoxo ingabi ingxoxo ende ngokucaciswa kobuhlobo. Ungazami ukwenza iphutha elinjalo njengomzamo wokuqeda ubuhlobo nomuntu ngefoni.
- Gcina ingxoxo ezolile futhi ugcine ibanga lakho, ulungiselele ukusabela ngokomzwelo nokungenakuqhathaniswa komlingani wakho, qinisekisa futhi uzimisele, kodwa hhayi ubuhlungu.
- Uma uzimisele, yenze kucace kumlingani ukuthi noma yikuphi ukuvuselelwa kobudlelwano ngemuva kwekhefu kukhishwe.
Izigaba zokuhlukana kobudlelwane zibandakanya ikhefu ngokuqondile - ingxoxo eyinhloko esihlokweni esinikeziwe, ukuqwashisa komlingani ngesimo, isahlukaniso sokwehlukanisa imvelo kanye nenyama - noma ukuthuthela endaweni ethile yokuhlala, ukulutha umlutha.
Ubudlelwane ngemuva kwegebe phakathi kwalabo abambisene nabo ababili kunganciphisa emva kwengxoxo eyinhloko. Njengomthetho, ukuhlala ubungani ngemuva kokuhlukanisa, ikakhulukazi uma kuyamangaza omunye wabalingani, kunzima kakhulu. Umsunguli wegebe kuhlale kudingekile ukuba alondoloze ukungathathi hlangothi, futhi ngisho nokuthakazelelwa komunye umlingani.