Njalo ngonyaka asikona kuphela thina, kodwa futhi izingane zethu zikhula. Futhi usuku lufika lapho umfana ephenduka iminyaka engu-13 ubudala. Lesi yisikhathi esibaluleke kakhulu kubazali nengane. Izwe lezintsha liyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu futhi liyinkimbinkimbi. Ngakho ngezinye izikhathi kunzima ukuqagela ukuthi yisiphi isipho ongayinika indodana yakho ngale nkathi yokuphila kwakhe. Kule minyaka yobudala, abafana basengozini kakhulu, bavame ukushintsha imizwa yabo futhi bafuna ukuzizwa bekhulile futhi bazimele. Isipho esingalungile singacasulwa kalula futhi sidabuke, futhi isipho "somkhaza" singabangela ingane ukuthi ikwazi ukungabi nalutho nokungaqondi kahle. Ngakho yini okufanele nginike indodana yami iminyaka engu-13? Okokuqala, kungaba kuhle ukuzikhumbula wena nabangani bakho kule minyaka. Yini owaliphuphayo? Babefunani?
Ungakhetha kanjani isipho esifanele indodana yakho iminyaka engu-13?
Isipho kufanele sigcizelele ukubaluleka kwengane yakho futhi sibonise uthando lwakho, kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi ukukhula yisikhathi sokuba umuntu, inkulumo ethi "Mina". Ukuqhubeka kulokhu, kuyoba kufanelekile uma into ekhethwe nguwe izohambelana nonyaka nobulili bomntwana.
Uma ufuna ukumangala futhi wenze isipho sokuqala endodaneni yakho, udinga ukucabangela izithakazelo zakhe kanye nogqozi. Uma ingane yakho isebenza, isebenza futhi ijabulela ezemidlalo, khona-ke esinye sezipho ezinhle kunazo zonke kungaba: izikebhe , i-skis, i- snowboard , ibhola lebhola noma ibhasikidi, ama-rollers noma ibhayisikili. Uma umfana wakho efuna ukwazi futhi ethanda isayensi, isipho singaba isibonakaliso, incwadi ethakazelisayo noma chess. Abazali, abanendodana yokuthanda ukusungula nokwenza, udinga ukuqaphela ukuthi abakhiqizi abahlukahlukene noma amamodeli ezindiza bayokujabulela umfana. Futhi njengesipho kungaba: ikhamera, umdlali, umakhalekhukhwini noma i-console yegeyimu.
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi umfana oneminyaka yobudala ubalulekile ekubukeni. Ukuze uvimbele ukuvela kwezinkimbinkimbi, udinga ukumsiza ukuba akwazi ukubukeka okuhle, agqoke izingubo eziphathekayo, abe ngumuntu. Mhlawumbe yisikhathi lapho udinga ukuvuselela ikhabethe lejaha lakho futhi umenzele i-tie noma i-jeans enemfashini ongayithandi nhlobo.
Khumbula ukuthi abaneminyaka engu-13 banabangane abaningi, bangaba nenkampani yabo, ebaluleke kakhulu kubo. Ngakho-ke, ukuba khona kwabangane kuyimfuneko edingekayo yeholide. Ungasebenzisi lolu suku kuphela nomndeni wakho. Kulesi simo, isipho esihle kakhulu noma isithasiselo sizoba yizinga eliphezulu ehlathini, ukuya endaweni yokuzilibazisa, amathikithi ukuya ekhonsathini. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuba uthole ukuthembela komfana, ufunde eduze nabangane bakhe. Uma ukhulumisana kahle nabajwayele indodana yakho, abakwazi ukukutshela ukuthi yini ongakhetha isipho, kodwa futhi usize ukuhlela ukulungiselela iholide ngokwayo.
Yini engenakulibaleka lapho ukhetha isipho?
Uma ukhetha isipho sakho sokuzalwa kwendodana yakho, ungakhohlwa inkulumo edumile: "Izipho zibonisa ukungazi kwethu komunye nomunye". Yenza kucace ukuthi indodana yakho ayiseyona encane, kodwa insizwa, futhi uyayamukela futhi uyayiqonda leli qiniso, uyayihlonipha futhi ulalele umbono wakhe nezifiso zakhe. Khumbula ukuthi lo ngumntanakho futhi akekho omaziyo kangcono kunakho. Kuyoba kuhle uma lesi sipho sizobonisa ukunakekelwa kwakho, ukunakekelwa nokusiza ingane ukuba iqonde ukuthi wabelana ngezintshisekelo zakhe. Kulokhu, uzokulalela, uthembele futhi wabelane ngamaphupho akhe, imibono ...
Ungakhohlwa ukuvuselela isipho sakho ngamazwi mayelana nokuthi indodana yakho ethandekayo kangakanani kuwe, ukuthi uyamthanda futhi ingakwazi ukuthembela ngaso sonke isikhathi ngosizo lwakho, ngoba naphezu kokunyuka kwakhe nokuzikhandla, intsha isengozini kakhulu futhi idinga ukwesekwa nokuvunywa.
Usuku lokuzalwa luyiholide elingasala ekukhunjuleni kwethu izinkumbulo ezinhle kakhulu esikhathini esizayo. Ngakho-ke masithande izingane zethu futhi sizijabulise!