Ubuhle besifazane, njengakho konke okunye emhlabeni - kuphila isikhathi esifushane. Ngesinye isikhathi, ngisho nenkosikazi ethandayo kakhulu nenkululeko ivela nomqondo wokuthi sekuyisikhathi sokushada. Mommies, ukuhamba ngokuzenzekelayo nabahamba ngezinyawo emgwaqweni, abangekho njengabashiya ubusha babo ngeze, ngisho nangabe kunjalo, baba yisisulu, futhi izimoto zomshado ezinamabellane kanye namabhande asetshenziselwa yonke indawo ayisekho esicasulayo, futhi zibangele ukuzwa okuncane nje kokuncipha.
Yebo, uma ufuna ngempela ukushada, kudingeka uthole ngokushesha umyeni. Indlela yokwenza ngayo - akuyona umbuzo wokuqala, okokuqala udinga ukunquma ncamashi, kungani ukheshisa le nqubo: isikhathi "siqinisa" noma ingabe iyinto evamile?
Kungani ushada masinyane?
Kubalulekile ukuphendula lo mbuzo ngokwakho. Iqiniso liwukuthi ukugijimela ekwenzeni izinqumo ezijulile akusizi njalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngakho-ke, ukukhetha okusheshayo komyeni kanye nokubhalisa "ukukhanya okusheshayo" kubhalisi kungashintsha isahlukaniso esisheshayo. Hlola izizathu ezingezansi nezizathu, futhi uma ziyizinto ezibaluleke ngempela, futhi ingozi yokudala umndeni onomuntu ongajwayelekile akukhathazeki, khona-ke sifunda ngokushesha izinto ezilandelayo ukuze sishade.
Ungashada kanjani masinyane futhi ngempumelelo?
Ukuphumelela kule nsimu akulula: izinto eziningi ezingenakucatshangelwa: akekho owaziyo ukuthi yini ezokhethwa eminyakeni eyishumi, futhi okuthandwa kwakho esikhathini esizayo kunzima ukubikezela. Ngakho-ke, umgomo oyinhloko wokukhetha oshade naye kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufanelwe nawe manje. Uma kukhona "amaminithi amancane" - angesabi, akhona. Kodwa uma uqaphela ngemuva kwakhe isiphuzo sokuphuza utshwala, imishini yokugembula, ukulutha izidakamizwa noma isimo sengqondo sokukhathazeka ngokobulili besifazane - sibalekele kuye.
Iyini hero yakho?
Ukuze ushade ngempumelelo, qaphela la madoda:
- ohlakaniphile futhi ohlakaniphile (okuhle ngomsebenzi);
- Uthanda izilwane (hhayi umuntu ononya);
- ukuphana (ngeke kube nezinkinga, njengokuthi "uzenzele ingubo entsha");
- unomthwalo wemfanelo (ngeke wakhe ukwakha umoya nokuthembisa lokho okungenakwenziwa - kuyoba nezinkohliso ezimbalwa);
- ukukhuthele (emva kweminyaka emihlanu yomshado ngeke ube nomuzwa wokuthi ushade "umswakama wezintambo" - isilwane esilula kunazo zonke ukuphila okunomthelela kanye nayo yonke imiphumela elandelayo).
Uma uhlangana nendoda okungenani izimfanelo ezintathu zokuqala, lesi yisikhathi sokucabanga ngomshado naye.
Kungakanani ukuthola umyeni ngokushesha?
Abantu - njengewayini, bakhuthaze isikhathi. Ngakho qaphela ngesinqumo esisheshayo.
Njengoba ukuphila kungenakulinganiswa, futhi empeleni, ungakwazi ukuhlangana nomyeni wakho wesikhathi esizayo noma kuphi, bese wenza ukuphila kwakho kusebenze ngokwengeziwe: hamba ku-cafe, ukwakha amehlo (ukubukeka okuhle amahora angu-24 ngosuku, akukho okukhanseliwe), ekuhambeni, imibukiso, ama-rollerdromes, ama-cinemas kanye nezinye izindawo zomphakathi, ngezwi, kwandisa amathuba okuhlangana nomuntu ofanelekayo.
Ithiphu: Imibhangqwana engu-21% ithole umlingani wabo ozayo, imibhangqwana engu-27% ezindaweni zomphakathi, kanti imibhangqwana engu-16% inezijwayele ezivamile. Ngakho isiphetho: sikhuluma ngokuningi, sivame ukwenza "ukukhishwa ekukhanyeni" futhi sibheke ozakwabo.
Ungashada kanjani masinyane?
Lapho umuntu etholakala, evivinywa, futhi ehlangabezana nezidingo ezincane, kufanele aqinisekiswe ukuthi angashada. Nazi ezinye iziphakamiso zokuthi ushade ngokushesha kanjani:
- Funda okuhle komkayo (hhayi ukuqonda okuqhamukayo komfazi ofanelekayo, okungukuthi umfazi ozimisele ukuchitha impilo yakhe yonke).
- Ngisho noma imibono yakhe mayelana nomkakhe ayifani neyakho, yenza sengathi: bese ubuyela "ngendlela yakho."
- Mjabulise futhi ungamcindezeli kakhulu: kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufuna ukushada kangakanani, kodwa awukwazi ukuvumela okuningi ezinsukwini zokuqala zokuxhumana.
Yini futhi ongasiza ekushadweni masinyane?
Izinto ezimbalwa ezizosheshisa umshado:
- amafutha abizayo namnandi;
- ukupheka okuphekiwe okuzenzekelayo;
- ifulethi elihlanzekile nelikhululekile lapho uhlala khona: makangithole ukuthi uyisimpi esihle kakhulu futhi uyakwazi ukwenza isidleke esiphuthumayo ngisho nasendlini ethi "indlu yenkosikazi" lapho ufuna ukuhlala khona.
Abantu abazokusiza ukuthi ushade ngokushesha:
- Abazali: kumele bakhombise ukuthi bayathokoza ngokukhethiweyo wakho futhi kakade bathanda "umkhwenyana wesikhathi esizayo";
- abangane: laba bantu kufanele bakwenze kucace ukuthi ungakwazi ukuchitha isikhathi ndawonye nabo.
Ukuqonda ubuciko "bomshado osheshayo" akulula, kepha ngokulandela lezi zeluleko, uzokusheshisa ukusesha kwakho futhi ukwazi ukuhumusha iphupho lakho empeleni.