Ngamunye wethu, esesimweni esithile sesikhala nesikhathi, esesimweni esithile sengqondo, ngenxa yalokho, esiphezulu sezenzakalo ezifanayo, abantu ababili bangabahlola ngezindlela ezehlukene.
Okungaphezulu noma okuncane?
Ngamanye amazwi, umuntu oyedwa ingilazi ingaba yingxenye engenalutho, kanti omunye uyothokoza ngenjabulo ukuthi igcwaliswe phakathi naphakathi kwamanzi futhi kukhona into yokucima ukoma kwakho. Eqinisweni, kulesi sibonelo esilula, incazelo eyisisekelo yesimo somuntu womqondo wengqondo iphetha: siyajabula noma cha. Yize le ndlela yokubhekana nale nkinga ivunyeliswa kakhulu futhi imingcele yokwaneliseka ngesimo samanje kanye nesimo sezindaba okwamanje ngezinye izikhathi ihlukumezekile kangangokuthi kunzima ukucacisa izinga elihle emizwa yabo. Okuthile esimweni samanje kuyathokozisa, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, uhlangothi oluphambene nendondo lungasikhathaza kakhulu futhi sithi ngokuqiniseka ukuthi esimweni kukhona okuqhubekayo okuhlanganisa noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, okuncane, asikwazi neze. Isibonelo, unomsebenzi ohloniphekile, okhokhelwa kahle kanye nomuntu okhokhelwayo ngaphezu kokuzikhokhela, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi kufanele usebenze amahora angu-10-12 ngosuku, ngaphandle kokushiya ithuba ekuphileni komuntu siqu, ngakho-ke, usuvele uzizwa uvinjelwe.
Uphi umugqa?
Kunezinhlobo eziningi zezinkulumo zengqondo: ukwesaba, ukuphazamiseka, ukukhungatheka, ukuhlukumezeka, ukucasula (ungabhala ngokungapheli futhi uzame ukuhlukanisa ama-shades abo ahlukene), kodwa cishe ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngendlela eyodwa noma enye, bavumelana nama-"colleagues" abo, ikakhulukazi ngokufanayo ukuthi cishe akunakwenzeka ukuhlukanisa omunye komunye. Isibonelo, umuntu uhlangabezana nesimo sokucindezeleka okujulile, okungukuthi, ukuze "angaboni" wedwa, ngokushesha umemela ku "party", ukuleleka, ukukhathala nokuntuleka kwesifiso, futhi lokhu kuyisimo se-psychosomatic futhi ukholwa, ngokushesha nje lapho impilo yakho ifika eqenjini elikhanyayo futhi , zonke lezi "izivakashi" njengomoya ovuthayo.
Ungasiza kanjani?
Kuze kube manje, kunamasu amaningi, amasu namathiphu aphendula umbuzo wokuthi ungayithuthukisa kanjani isimo somuntu wengqondo. Usizo oluhle kakhulu lokubhekana nokucindezeleka kokuzindla noma yoga. Emasontweni ambalwa okuzilolonga ngobuciko bokujikijela nge-asanas elula futhi uzobe usuvele ubheka ifilosofi emhlabeni wonke wezinkohliso ezikuzungezile, ngokuthula kweBuddha. Indlela enhle kakhulu ukushintsha isimo, futhi kuyadingeka ukukhetha indawo lapho ungakaze ube khona. Ubuchopho bakho buzoshintshela emsebenzini wokuguqula indawo entsha futhi ufundise "ukucindezela okwesikhashana" kulawo maziko anesibopho sokunikeza imizwelo emibi. Ungazama ukuvakasha okwedlulele.
Yiqiniso, izinto eziningi zithinta isimo sengqondo somuntu, kodwa sinikezwa isizathu sokukwazi ukuhlukanisa imbewu emakhokheni futhi sinikeze ukuhlolwa okunengqondo isimo ukuze siqonde ukuthi kufanelekile yini amangqamuzana ethu ahlanzekile noma cha. Kusukela kunoma yisiphi isimo kukhona njalo indlela yokuphuma, kungukuthi ngokuvamile kuvame ukuhluka ngokuphelele endaweni esizama ukuyithola. Bheka inkinga evela engxenyeni ehlukene futhi, mhlawumbe, uyomangala ukuthola ukuthi amanzi eglasi lakho akwanele ukudakwa.