Kwenzeka ukuthi ubudlelwane obude obubonakalayo obuhlala phakathi kwentombazane kanye nomfana ngesikhathi esisodwa kungase kuwile, ngokuvamile kwenzeka ngokushesha kakhulu, futhi owesifazane akanaso isikhathi sokuqonda ukuthi yikuphi okuthandekayo wakhe okhulile kuye. Kodwa-ke, into embi kakhulu lapho umuntu ebika ukuthi uyahamba, kodwa uyaqonda ukuthi uyamthanda ngempela futhi awukwazi ukuthi uzophila kanjani ngaphandle komuntu osevele ethandekayo kuwe. Abesifazane abaningi kakhulu banenkinga enkulu, abazi ukuthi benzeni nokuthi baziphathe kanjani lapho umfana ephonsa. Ngakho-ke sizame ukuqonda lezi zinkinga bese sithola ukuthi isiphi iseluleko sezengqondo ezinikezwa kulawo mantombazane lowo umfana owawuphonsa.
Ungabuyisa kanjani umfana owakushiya?
Musa ukuchitha izinsuku ukhalela emlenzeni uzizwe uzihawukele, ngoba ezimweni eziningi, intombazane uqobo kufanele ibeke icala, ukuthi othandekayo wamshiya. Esikhathini sokuzivikela kwabesifazane kunamasu okwanele angasiza ukubuyisela umfana, kodwa ngaphambi kokuthatha isinyathelo, udinga ukuphazamiseka, futhi othandekayo wakho kufanele anikeze isikhathi esincane ngaphandle kwakho. Ngakho-ke, okokuqala thola isifundo kuwe, wenze imidlalo, ukubukeka kwakho, hamba ukuphumula. Zama ukukhumbuza umthandi wakho nganoma iyiphi indlela, ngoba kungenzeka ukuthi uzoqala ukuzwa isidingo sakho, ekwazi ukuthi wenze okungalungile. Kodwa-ke, ungathathwa, ngoba umuntu angajwayele ukuhlala ngaphandle kwakho noma uthole ukufutheka okusha nakakhulu nakakhulu.
Ngakho-ke, ngemva kokulalela iseluleko esithile kubachwepheshe beze-psychologists, uzoqonda ukuthi ungabuyela kanjani umfana owakushiya:
- Zama ukuqonda ukuthi kungani ubuhlobo bakho buyeke. Mhlawumbe umuntu unenkinga mayelana nokuziphatha kwakho, ukhathele ngesikhwele sakho sonke, abahlaziyi, njll, ngakho-ke zama ukushintsha, ukholwe mina, indoda yakho izoyiqonda esikhathini esizayo.
- Ngemva kwenyanga noma ezimbili, shayela umfana bese ucela insizakalo encane, isibonelo, ukuletha ifenisha ethengiwe, njll, khuluma naye njengomngane futhi uzame ukunikeza izinhloso zakho zangempela.
- Uma ngabe umhlangano wakho uyenzeka, ungayikhumbuli nganoma iyiphi indlela okwenzekile futhi ungabonisi intukuthelo yakho. Yiba nomphakathi futhi ungabonakali, nakuba "amaqhinga" amantombazane lapha angeke awonakele, ngengozi ukuthinteka isandla sakho, ukubukeka okubukeka okuvamile, njll.
- Imihlangano engajwayelekile nomthandi wakho izokusiza ukuphinde uthole isithakazelo futhi. Ukwenza usuku kuvele okungahleliwe (Yebo, kumuntu, ngoba kusuka ohlangothini lwakho kufanele kulungiselelwe futhi kucatshangwe), vakashela izindawo lapho umfana okwenzeka khona ngezikhathi ezithile. Kodwa ungayithathi ekhanda lakhe ukuze uphishekele futhi ngokuvamile uvele phambili, ngaphandle kwalokho lowo muntu "uzobona" nawe.
Ungabuyisela kanjani umfana owakuphonsa ngosizo lomthandazo?
Uma kunjalo, awukwazi ukubuyisela othandekayo, futhi ukuhlupheka kwakho akuyeki, kufanele uphendukele kuNkulunkulu, mhlawumbe uzozwakala futhi othandekayo wakho uyoba nawe futhi. Ngakho-ke, nsuku zonke, ekuseni noma ebusuku ngaphambi kokulala, tshela umthandazo olandelayo, kodwa khumbula, into ebaluleke kakhulu lapha kukhona ukwethembeka: "Nkosi Jesu Kristu, iNdodana kaNkulunkulu. Yiba nomusa futhi ulethe isithukuthezi kanye ne-beech. Kholwa othandweni lwami oluqotho futhi ungathukutheli ngesicelo sami sokufa. Buyisela emuva kimi i-Orthodoxy ethandekayo futhi ungisindise ekuhluphekeni kwengqondo. Vumela abahambayo babuyele maduzane,
Ungabuyisela kanjani umfana owakushiya ngesakhiwo?
Kukhona enye indlela ongayisebenzisa ukuze ubuyele othandekayo, lokhu kungumqambi . Kodwa-ke, ngaphambi kokuba uqale umkhosi wamagic, kufanele ucabange ngokucophelela, ngoba noma yikuphi ukupela kunemiphumela, okungeyona emnandi kakhulu, ukuyibeka ngobumnene. Ngakho-ke, thatha isitulo uphendule phansi, ufake ikhobe itiye kuyo futhi, uthele usawoti lapho, uthi: "Amanzi azohamba, ayoba omile. Njengoba ufuna ukuphuza, uzoza kimi . " Ngemuva kokuthi itiye liphumile emkhatsini, lishiye elangeni bese ulinda ukubuya komuntu othandekayo.