Ubudlelwano nomuntu othandekayo bungaphazanyiswa nganoma isiphi isikhathi, futhi kungaba khona izizathu eziningi zalokhu. Abanye besifazane bakhuthazelela kalula igebe, kodwa kukhona nalabo amantombazane abagcina ubuhlobo nomthando kuyisivivinyo esinzima, ngakho banesithakazelo sendlela yokusinda ukuhlukanisana nomfana futhi ngokushesha bakukhohlwe.
Ungaphila kanjani ubuhlungu bokuhlukana nomuntu othandekayo wakho?
Uma, ngenhloso yentandokazi, kwadingeka ukuthi uhlukanise nomthandekayo wakho, ke ungahloni futhi ugijimele emva kwakhe, ucele ukuba ubuyele, ngoba nje "uphonsela phansi" ukuziqhenya kwakho. Yiba namandla futhi uzame ukukhohlwa umuntu wangaphambili, futhi ulalele amathiphu alandelayo, uzokwazi ukukwenza ngokushesha kakhulu, ngakho ungasinda kanjani ubuhlungu bokuhlukanisa nomuntu wakho othandekayo:
- Zama ukuyeka ukuxhumana nesoka lakho langaphambili . Uma unqume ngokuqinile ukuthi ufuna ukukhohlwa othandekayo wakho, ungacabangi ngisho nabangane bakhe abaseduze, zama okungenani okokuqala ukugwema ukuhlangana nabantu obajwayele, isikhathi esichithe ndawonye, mhlawumbe ufunde ngezintshisekelo zakhe nezindawo ozithandayo ukuvakashela, ngakho zama ukugwema okokuqala lezi zindawo zihlangene.
- Nikeza imizwelo . Kunzima kakhulu ukugcina ukufutheka kuwe, ngezinye izikhathi ufuna ukukhuluma, ukukhala, ukumemeza, ukunganqikazi, ukuveza imizwelo yakho, unga "ukukhala" kumngane wakho noma umama, noma ungahlala wedwa, kuncike ekutheni ukhona kanjani kuzoba ngcono kakhulu.
- Zama ukuziphazamisa . Thola wena umsebenzi ozodinga ukubuyiselwa kwakho okugcwele, khona-ke ngeke nje ube nesikhathi sokuthola ulwazi kanye nezinkumbulo zabathandekayo bakho. Vumela ukuthi awukwazi ukukwenza uma ubuhlobo , isibonelo, ngena ekuvakasheni, noma
bhala phansi emidlalweni yama-ballroom. - Zizinakekele . Shintsha izinwele zakho (mhlawumbe ngisho ne-cardinally ngokuphelele), ubuyekeze ikhabethe, uphinde uhlale emazweni afudumele, mhlawumbe uzohlangana nomuntu wakho weqiniso.
- Lahla noma yini okukukhumbuza ubudlelwano obudlule . Yiphonsa noma uyiyise "ebhokisini elingemuva" (uma ungaqapheli ukulikhiphela ngaphandle), zonke izithombe, izipho zalo, izincwadi, noma yiziphi izinto ezingakhumbula izinkathi ezedlule.
- Qala ubudlelwane obusha . Ungakugwema ukujwayelana nabantu abasha nabafana, udlala ngothando, uhlangane, ngoba ngokushesha nje lapho uqala ukuhileleka komunye umuntu, khona-ke kulula futhi ngokushesha ungasinda ekuhlukaneni nomuntu wangaphambili.