Uhlobo lobuhlobo ezweni lanamuhla alufani nalokho okwakuyiminyaka emibili edlule. Into kuphela ukuthi ukuziphatha komuntu kuphela kuye kwazuza indlela encane yokukhuluma, kuyilapho umuntu ekwazi ukuthula, ngaphandle kokwesaba impilo yakhe, abe umlinganiso wothando olukhululekile noma ukwethembeka ethuneni.
Bonke abantu kusukela esikhathini esedlule bakha uhlobo oluyinhloko lwamafomu omshado owaziwayo:
- isithembu (isithembu);
- i-monogamy (izwe lakubo);
- polyandry (polyandry).
Ngakho-ke, ukuhlala nomuntu oyedwa kungelutho ngaphandle kohlobo lomuntu owodwa, uhlobo lomndeni, inhlangano yomshado. Lobuhlobo, lapho kungekho indawo yesithathu. Okuphambene nalesi sigaba isithembu. Ezilwaneni eziningi - izidalwa zesithembu.
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ukuzodwa komunye nomyeni kunemithetho yayo. Ngakho isimiso sokuzimela komuntu wodwa ukuthi kungenakwenzeka ngokomthetho ukuzibopha umshado kuze kube yilapho omunye wabalingani esesimweni esibhalisiwe. Lesi simiso sigcwaliswa kuyo yonke imithetho ephathelene nomshado womshado kuwo wonke amazwe entshonalanga.
Kusho ukuthini ukuguquka komzimba?
Ngokusho kocwaningo lwezomlando, u-monogamy wabonakala ngemuva kwesithembu. Kwakukholelwa ukuthi ezikhathini zasendulo kwakubhekwa njengento evamile, lapho umphakathi wesintu uhlala ngokuvumelana nomthetho othi "Ubani ofuna, futhi uwuthathe." Kodwa lokhu akubanga nomthelela ekusindeni komndeni. Ngakho-ke, emva kwesikhathi esithile, ifomu lomndeni lomlando lavela njengomuntu oyedwa.
Ngenxa yakhe, inani lezingxabano zesifazane phakathi kwabantu linciphile. Ngakolunye uhlangothi lukababa, ukunakekelwa kwase kuqalile inzalo.
Kusukela ekuboneni kwengqondo, ukuzodwa komuntu kubantu kumnike umuntu ithuba lokubonisa, elikulo, isifiso sokuhleleka. Kuqinisekisile ukuthi ubuntu buyingxenye yokuzinza ezweni lokungaqiniseki.
Kuyini ukuzithokozisa kwamadoda?
Abaningi banesithakazelo kulo mbuzo hhayi nje kuphela ukuthi yiyiphi indoda eyodwa, kodwa nokuthi ikhona yini. Ngokwezibalo zokuhlola phakathi kobulili obunamandla, cishe amadoda angama-45% akwazi ukuhlala ethembekile kumkawo.
Muva nje, umphakathi uyinganekwane yokuthi ukuzodwa komuntu phakathi kwabantu kuyisimo esivela endaweni yefantasy. Kodwa kwakukhona. Phela, cishe ingxenye yamadoda eplanethi ayanelisekile lapho ethanda eyodwa kuphela.
Kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi odokotela bathola isisindo egazini lamadoda athile. Kwakukhona ukuthi uyakwazi ukwenza uhlelo lwezinto eziphilayo ukuze umuntu akhulume nonkosikazi oyedwa, naphezu kokuba khona intombazane yenhliziyo. Odokotela banombono wokuthi akuwona wonke umuntu okwazi ukuzodwa. umzimba usetshenziselwa ama-pheromone. Kulesi simo, umthengisi akakwazi ukumelana naye, athi, emzimbeni wenkosikazi yakhe. Kancane kancane, uyazijwayele, futhi ubulili kakade into efana ne-cocktail enamandla, okuvela kuyo impilo enhle.
Kusukela kokubheka kokubili umzimba kanye ne-psychology, ukuhlukumezeka kwamadoda kuyasiza. Ngoba ngezikhathi ezinjalo umsebenzi wenhliziyo nokusebenza kobuchopho kuyathuthuka. Ukuzimela kwamadoda kuyisinqumo esinqunyiwe. Kungase kusekelwe kokubili
Abakwa-Sexologists benza ucwaningo ngalolu daba futhi bathola ukuthi amadoda angama-10% awaguquli umthandi wabo ngenxa yokwesaba okufanayo, kanti ama-35% asele - ngoba nje eminyakeni yabo encane "basebenze" kakhulu. Yisigaba esilandelayo esingakwazi ukuwa esilingweni sabesifazane besondo ngenxa yokuthi kulabo abashade nabo bathola konke abaye bekufuna kwabanye besifazane isikhathi eside.
Ukuba i-monogam noma i-polygam kunomuntu wonke. Kodwa, ngaphambi kokwenza izinqumo, udinga ukulinganisa zonke izinzuzo nezingozi.