Ukwehlukanisa iningi lamacala kuyisimo esinzima kubahlanganyeli bayo kanye nezihlobo zabo, ikakhulukazi uma umndeni ophukile unabantwana. Kuyaqondakala, ngoba ukwakha umndeni, ukungena emshadweni, oshade naye, njengombuso, ungacabangi lokho okunje njengenkontileka ethile nesikhathi esithile. Noma kunjalo, abantu abadala kufanele baqonde ukuthi umndeni (ngisho nokuqala ukugcinwa, njengoba bekusho, ngothando), okokuqala, ngomqondo omkhulu kunazo zonke ibhizinisi lokudala impilo ekhululekile ndawonye, ukuqhubeka komndeni, ukusizana okuhlangene nokuqonda (uhlu lungadluliselwa) .
Okubi kakhulu emva kokuhlukanisa kuzwakala omunye wabashade abangeyona iqembu elalihlukanisa isehlukaniso (ngokuvamile, futhi kumuntu oqale futhi, "ongahambisani nesisindo", kodwa nokho lula). Ukushada nethuba lokuphila ngemva kokuhlukanisa kungabonakala kungenabuhlungu, ngakho-ke iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo singasiza ngandlela-thile. Kulungile, zihlenge ngokwakho, esimweni bese unquma ukuthi ungaqhubeka kanjani.
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Ungasinda kanjani isehlukaniso futhi uhlele impilo yakho emva kwesahlukaniso - iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo:
- zama ukuthula futhi ngesithunzi;
- ubamba "ukushaya", mhlawumbe ucasulwa ngokukhethekile ukuhlola;
- Hlaziya, zama ukubuka isimo kusuka kumaphuzu ahlukene okubuka;
- ukuhlaziya amaphutha akho kanye nabanye abantu, khumbula ukuthi wonke umuntu unelungelo lokwenza iphutha;
- zama ukuthola izinzuzo esimweni esisha, yenza lokho owafuna ukukwenza isikhathi eside, kodwa uhlehlisiwe;
- ukuphazamiseka kakhulu ngomculo, amabhayisikobho, izincwadi, izinto zokuzilibazisa , ukuya kumamyuziyamu kanye nemidlalo yaseshashalazini;
- ukuzindla, ukuhamba kaningi, ukubuka izilwane, izitshalo kanye nezenzakalo zemvelo;
- zama endaweni ethize
izinsuku ezimbalwa (eholidini ohambweni lwebhizinisi, njll), ukuze ushintshe isimo ne-gestalt ebonakalayo (okungukuthi, umfanekiso wezwe), umgwaqo ngokwayo "uphulukisa"; - ungalahlekelwa ukuba khona komoya, impilo ingakapheli, kungenzeka ukuthi ulindele izinto eziningi ezithakazelisayo, uma usulungele, ngakho "thola" ukumomotheka - ngokuzumayo ujwayele;
- zama ukuzithokozisa esimweni - umuzwa wokuhleka usulu uhlukanisa izidalwa ezihlakaniphile ezilwaneni.
- phumula kaningi, ukuphumula okunempilo kuyadingeka njalo;
- ukuvame ukuxhumana nabantu ngezihloko ezithakazelisayo, ukwenza abantu abajwayele ukuxhumana nabo, kufaka phakathi, nokuxhumana nomphakathi.