Ubuqili ngeke busombulule izinkinga ezikhona ebuhlotsheni. Umzwa obuhlungu wecala ngemuva kwalokho wandisa kuphela isimo. Umzwelo wecala, ngendlela, ujwayelekile kubantu besifazane ezimweni eziningi. Umbuzo uwukuthi, kungani lokhu kwenziwa?
Amagama ambalwa mayelana nezizathu
Ukuhlukunyezwa kwabesifazane kuncike emithethweni ethile. Abacansi bezocansi bathi inkokhelo ngeke ishintshe ngaphandle kwesizathu, ngokungafani nendoda. Ekuthengiseni owesifazane ukuphoqa okuthile, ukungabi nalo ebuhlotsheni nomlingani womthetho. Amadoda ngokuyinhloko agxile kwezocansi, kuyilapho owesifazane efuna ukuthandana, inhlonipho. Ufuna ukuthandwa.
Umfazi ohlukumeza ukuphinga, njengombuso, uzama ukuvuselela ikhono lokuthanda indoda, ukuzwa isifiso nokukhanga. Uma owesifazane enganelisekile ngomshado, naye unelisekile ngokocansi. Okulandelayo, ake sikhulume ngezibonakaliso zokuphinga.
Akushiyi imidwebo
Amadoda angenayo intuition, kodwa noma kunjalo angakwazi ukubona ukuhlubuka. Oshade naye uzozidela. Izimpawu zokuqala zokukhashelwa komkakhe zingabonakala kalula:
- ngokuzumayo uzwela kakhulu ekubukeni kwakho. Qaphela, umyeni wakho angase angayiboni ngokushesha;
- ebuyela ekhaya nge-bouquet elandelayo, cabanga into ethile ekuqaleni kusengaphambili, noma ushiye emnyango. Ungavumeli izimbali, ngeke zisize, kodwa uzosusa ukuphenywa;
- Ungathathi ebusuku ubiza ucingo endlini yokugezela noma ekhishini, ungakhohlwa ukusula izingcingo nama-sms;
- Ukungafuni kwakho ukwenza umsebenzi we-conjugal ngokuqinisekile kuyophakamisa izinsolo;
- ukuvakashelwa njalo kubangani, amaqembu, lapho "amantombazane kuphela", asebenza kade - konke lokhu umyeni wakho angakuhlola kalula, khumbula lokhu.
Izimpawu ezinjalo zokuphinga kwabafazi njengezingubo ezintsha nezendleko ezibizayo, iphunga le-cologne yamadoda, umusa owedlulele, ukufihleka, ukungabi khona kwamagama othando kumngane womshado kuyothathwa ngokushesha.
Uma owesifazane enomthandi unomphela, uqala ukulalela umyeni wakhe nezingane zakhe. Kungcono ukwenza imisebenzi yakhe emndenini, uhleleke ngokwengeziwe emsebenzini wakhe. Lezi zinguquko zenzeka ngaphansi kwethonya lecala azizwayo. Oshade naye uzama ngalendlela ukubuyisela noma ukulungisa iphutha lakhe. Indoda ingazizwa ukuthi "uhlukile", kodwa ayiqondi isizathu esiyiqiniso.
Izimpawu zokukhwabaniswa kwentombazane, abesifazane nabo bahlale bekhuluma ngomuntu osebenza nabo, umngane. Cishe, uhlale ucabanga ngomthandi wakho ukuthi awuqapheli ngisho nezingxoxo eziningi ngaye. Qaphela, ngoba oshade naye uzoqaphela lokhu. Amadoda asabela ngokungafanele ngokukhaphela, kunokuba abafazi, nakuba bobabili kunzima. Abafazi bakulungele ngokwengqondo ukukhishwa okungenzeka ngumlingani wakho. Ngombono womphakathi, ukungathembeki kubonakala kunalokho njengendoda yesilisa. Abesifazane nabo babonakala ngokuzimisela ukuthethelela ukukhaphela. Ukuthethelelwa kunikezwa owesifazane kalula uma engakaze azwe noma yimiphi imizwa yodukisayo.
Ezingeni elingaqondakali, amadoda aphatha abafazi njengempahla, ngakho kubabuhlungu kakhulu ukuzwa ukuthi umuntu "uphatha" izinto zakhe. Amadoda athambekela ekubeni ngowokuqala ebuhlotsheni nomfazi. Ukwesaba okuqine kakhulu ukuthi umphikisana naye angaba nolwazi oluhle kakhulu embhedeni.
Izazi zengqondo zinikeza iseluleko esiwusizo: uma kungekho bufakazi bokuvukela umbuso, khona-ke "umhlubuki" akwenzeki ukuvuma isono sakhe. Abanye bayavuma ngesikhathi sokuzisola noma ngaphansi kwengcindezi. Lokhu akulutho kodwa ubuhlungu obengeziwe, ohlangothini olukhohlisiwe ngeke lulethe.