Kuphila kwabesifazane bonke, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuza isikhathi lapho ebona ukuthi akanayo into ebuhlotsheni bakhe nomyeni wakhe noma indoda ethandekayo. Kunezizathu eziningi zalesi simo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini eyenza ucansi oluhle kulowo mqondo, iningi lethu liqala ukuzitshela ukuthi: "Ngizothola umthandi." Kuhle noma akulungile kakhulu ukuba owesifazane anqume. Kodwa yini ephoqa abesifazane ukuthola umthandi - lokhu kukhishwa ochwepheshe abaningi.
"Ngifuna ukuthola umthandi!"
Abesifazane abaningi banakho isitatimende esinjalo, kodwa akubona bonke abakwazi ukuhumusha lokho okufisa kube yiqiniso. Izingxoxo zingxoxwa, futhi owesifazane onesibindi futhi onesiphephelo kuphela angafaka injabulo yomndeni engozini. Ngakho kungani owesifazane enomuzwa wokuthi "Ngifuna ukushintsha umyeni wami!"? Izazi zengqondo zihlukanisa izizathu ezintathu eziyinhloko ezenza owesifazane ashintshe:
- Okwesithathu kwezinzwa ezintsha.
- Inkinga ekuphileni komndeni.
- Ukunganaki komyeni wakhe.
Ekuphileni, abesifazane abaningi baqala ukufuna abathandi ngokushesha kungakapheli iminyaka emihlanu yokuphila komndeni. Abesifazane abafuna abasha abathandana nabo bavame ukunganeliseki kakhulu ngokwabo nangempilo yabo. Lokhu kuvame ukukwenzeka uma ukuphila komndeni kungokwakho, futhi umlingani ngamunye umatasa ngebhizinisi lakhe. Uma izingxoxo ezinde kanye nobusuku obuthandekayo engasabalulekile kakhulu kumyeni, owesifazane ufuna umthandi.
Kungani udinga umthandi futhi udinga lutho nhlobo?
Ngaphambi kokusesha kwangempela, wonke owesifazane kufanele athole izimpendulo zale mibuzo. Kusukela uma emva kokuxhunywa kokuqala nomunye umuntu ehlushwa ukuzisola, ngeke athole ukwaneliseka, kungaba nokuziphatha noma ngokomzimba. Ngokujwayelekile, izikhangiso "Ukufuna umthandi omncane" kusho okulandelayo:
- umthandi odingekayo ocansini. Uma ubuhlobo bobulili nomngane womshado bushaya kancane futhi babuyisela ukukhanya okwangaphambili akutholakali, abesifazane bayanquma ngalesi sinyathelo;
- Umthandi udinga ukuxhumana. Kulesi simo, isimo sihlukile - embhedeni nomyeni wakhe konke kuhambisane nalokho, kodwa akukho lutho lokukhuluma ngalo. Kulokhu, owesifazane oshadile ufuna umthandi ukuthululela umphefumulo wakhe, wabelane ngenjabulo nosizi, thintana;
- umthandi odingekile wenanveli ebonakalayo. Leli thuba liye labonakala kubesifazane besimanje kungekudala. Nge-intanethi, abesifazane abaningi banelisa izifiso zabo zocansi nezidingo zezingxoxo ezingokomoya. Le ndlela, futhi, iyisiphephelo futhi ingenacala ngenxa yenjabulo yomndeni.
Uphi futhi ungathola kanjani umthandi?
Le nkinga ibhekana nabesifazane abaningi abaye banquma ngezindaba zangaphandle. Eqinisweni, abesifazane besimanje - lokhu akuyona inkinga. Into esemqoka ukuthi lo muntu kufanele athembeke. Thola umthandi angaba nge-Inthanethi noma kunoma iyiphi indawo yomphakathi. Kunconywa ukuthi awunalo ukuxhumana okufanayo, futhi lo mnandi unemfanelo elandelayo:
- bekungakhulumi kakhulu;
- Ngikwazi ukulandela izidingo zakho - hhayi ukuthumela imilayezo yothando nokungafaki;
- Kwakulula ukuxhumana;
- Ngacabanga ukuthi impilo yomndeni ingokubaluleke kakhulu kunayo ubuhlobo nayo;
- babe nesithakazelo njalo kwezocansi;
- babe nomuzwa wokuhlekisa;
- hhayi ukushada.
Izazi zengqondo emhlabeni wonke zincoma ukuthi ngaphambi kokuzama ukuthola umthandi, zama ukubuyisela olahlekile nomlingani womthetho. Uma umfazi efuna umthandi, kufanele aqaphele ukuthi lokhu kuyingozi kakhulu emndenini wakhe injabulo. Ngokwemvelo, ukuxhumana nomunye umuntu-kulula, kodwa kungcono ukuzama ukwenza ubuhlobo nomyeni wakho obucacile futhi obuthandekayo. Lokhu kusiza ukuqinisa inyunyana yomndeni futhi kuyisibopho seminyaka ehlanganisiwe ejabulisayo.