Isimo sengqondo kumamazala-mkhwenyana uyisihloko esibuhlungu sama-anecdotes, amabhayisikobho kanye nezindaba ezivela kumanoveli wesifazane. Kuyenzeka, kufike ngisho nakakhulu ukuthi ngaphambi kokuba indiza ingakhubeki abesifazane bafinyelela rubrikhi yezikhangiso "bathathe umsebenzi oyingozi." Kodwa konke lokhu kungakwenza, uma kungenakugwema, okungenani kuncishiswe imiphumela yokuxhumana. Ngokuvamile, funda futhi uphefumulelwe iseluleko sethu ukuthi ungasusa kanjani uninazala. Qaphela!
1. Uma ungenalo umkhwekazi osemthethweni okwamanje, kodwa usuvele unayo "amandla" okusheshayo ukuxoxa ngekusasa lakho nabathembekile bakho - wenze ukucaca okuphelele kakhulu ebuhlotsheni emva komshado, emisebenzini yakho, kanye nendima "yezivakashi" ekhaya lakho. amalungelo, amandla futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, lapho umugqa ukhona khona. Njengoba uvumelene kusengaphambili, uzogwema usizi, amahlazo, izinyembezi kanye nokuhlukana okungenzeka.
2. Uma umbuzo wokukhipha umamazala ocasulayo akusekho ukucabanga, kodwa iphupho lakho elibi kakhulu empeleni, khona-ke umyeni wakho kufanele abe ngumlingani oyinhloko. Uma ungenayo isikhathi, "umama" wakhe uyomthatha eceleni kwakhe. Hlela ingxoxo enengqondo bese umcela ukuba aphendule imibuzo ethile:
- ngubani obhekene nenhlalakahle yomndeni wakho - ingabe unomyeni wakho noma umkhwekazi wakho?
- ngubani oyinkosikazi endlini yakho - wena noma umama wakho?
- Yimaphi amalungelo umamazana wakho anayo ekhaya lakho, ingabe amandla akhe angenelela ngaphezu kwezipho kubazukulu bakhe kanye nemibuthano kusihlwa, empilweni yakho kanye nasebudlelwaneni bakho ?
- iyiphi indlela evumela ukuthi usebenze, ukuze ubeke wonke amaphuzu angaphezu kwe "futhi" noninazala?
Akusizi ngalutho ukubuza yonke le mibuzo uma uhlala nonina endlini yakhe. Qonda, owesifazane kunanoma iyiphi indala uhlala owesifazane, ovikela indawo yakhe. Unelungelo lokungakunikeli ekhishini, ukuhlanza ikamelo lakhe, ukutadisha nokugxeka okuqukethwe kwakhe, akunikezi nje izeluleko, kodwa imiyalo kanye nemiyalo, njalonjalo kulo moya ... Kuphela ensimini yakho unelungelo naye ukulwa, kuphela lapho engumvakashi, hhayi inkosikazi egcwele. Ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa abesifazane ababili abakho.