Amadoda anenkinga enjalo ukuthi ngisho nalapho benentombazane encane enhle kakhulu enezinhlobo eziluhlaza eduze kwabo, bazobe bebuka abanye besifazane.
Ukuze ungabhubhisi isistimu yakho yezinzwa, abesifazane kufanele bamamukele isithembu esizalwa emadodeni. Uma umuntu ebonisa ubuhle obuhle, lokhu akusho ukuthi uzogijimela kuye ukuze azolwazi.
Yebo, Yebo, kukhona amadoda ahamba ngakwesobunxele. Ngisho noma isimo esinjalo senzeke kanye, khona-ke ukhohlwe ngalokhu okungahambi kahle. Uma sikhuluma ukuthi singenza kanjani esimweni esinjalo futhi sikhohlwe ukuthengiswa komyeni, okokuqala, owesifazane kufanele aqhube isifiso sokuqala nokuqonda: ingabe uzimisele ukuhlala nezinkumbulo zokuhlubuka, kuzoba nezinzwa nemizwa ngokulibaziseka komlingani wakho, ngeke kube nemicabango, ukuthi umyeni uchitha isikhathi nomunye wesifazane.
Indlela yokukhohlwa ukukhishwa komyeni - iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo
Kubalulekile ukuqonda. Mhlawumbe oshade naye uzowa phansi, aqale ukukhala, akhale ngeqiniso lokuthi kwenzeke ngengozi futhi ngeke kuphinde kwenzeke futhi. Bambalwa abafuna ukulalela ukuzithethelela emva kwesimo esinjalo, ngoba babukeka bebuhlungu futhi beyiziphukuphuku. Kodwa kufanelekile ukulalela. Kubuye kuphakanyiswe ukubuza ukuthi ngabe ungubani intombazane, ukuthi ubheka kanjani, ukuthi yini ayithandayo nokuthi wayengenzani. Lokhu kungabonakala kungenangqondo, kodwa kuzokwenza kube lula kubo bobabili bomshado. Emva kwakho konke, uma oshade naye eshintsha, khona-ke kwakukhona isizathu salokhu, okumele siqondwe ukuze sikwazi ukuthethelela futhi sikhohlwe.
Udinga ukwazi ukuthi ungakhohlwa kanjani ukukhashelwa komyeni wakho futhi ulondoloze umndeni wakho. Futhi lokho akukwenzeki emuva akudingeki ukuba uqale ukucacisa ubuhlobo ngokumemeza nokuhlambalaza. Amadoda ayithandi abesifazane abahlambalaza, ngokuvamile abavela kulowo bahamba. Asikho isidingo sokuzama ukuziphindiselela, ngoba lokhu ngeke kunciphise isimo, kodwa, ngokuphambene nalokho, kuyokwenza kube nzima. Udinga nje ukwamukela okwenzekile futhi ungakhumbuli.
Lezi zincomo ezivela ezingqondweni zengqondo zizosiza ukuqonda indlela yokukhohlwa ukukhishwa komyeni wakhe, uma isinqumo senziwa ukugcina umndeni.