Ngisho nabesifazane ababenzima kakhudlwana bafuna ukudala umndeni, ukushada, ngakho-ke izimpendulo zemibuzo mayelana nokuthi umfazi omuhle kufanele abe yini nokuthi yini owesifazane wangempela okufanele akwazi ukuyenza iyathandeka kuwo wonke umuntu.
Yimiphi imisebenzi yomfazi emndenini?
Umfazi omuhle, kufanele abe njani? Mhlawumbe, ukwenza imisebenzi yasendlini - ukupheka, ukuhlanza, ukugeza. Futhi uma usenendoda yokulala embhedeni, khona-ke iyoba yinto enhle. Kodwa ingabe lezi zonke izimfanelo umfazi ofanelekayo kufanele abe nazo? Ngezocansi, indoda ingaphatha kahle i-1-2 lover, nokuhlanza nokupheka ukuze ifundise inceku. Kubonakala ukuthi amadoda emshadweni awafunanga borscht kuphela elihlwabusayo futhi ocansini ozinzile. Othile ufuna ukuthola esiqhingini isiqhingi senduduzo nokuthula (njengoba kwakunjalo endlini yabazali bayo), futhi omunye udinga umfazi ukuthuthukisa isimo sakhe somphakathi - indoda engashadile ibonakala njengomntwana okhulile nomuntu onomusa, futhi lokhu kungathinteka kakhulu ibhizinisi. Ngakho ukusho ukuthi ungaziphatha kanjani nomfazi, udinga ngokusekelwe ezidingo zomuntu othile. Kodwa ingabe zikhona izikhathi lapho amadoda amaningi angathanda ukubona emkhatsini wabo? Yiqiniso, zikhona, lapha nazo futhi ziqonde.
Umfazi kufanele aziphathe kanjani?
- Imisebenzi yomfazi ihlanganisa ukupheka okukhulunywe ngenhla, ukugeza, ukuhlanza. Kodwa uzovuma, le misebenzi ingenziwa ngezindlela ezihlukene: umuntu angayiphatha njengento ehlazola futhi enesizungu, noma ungathanda ngobuqotho ukujabulisa umthandekayo wakho. Ucabanga ukuthi lokhu kufana nendoda?
- Amadoda ethu azimele, aqinile, akwazi ukubhekana nanoma yiziphi izinkinga. Kodwa basadingeka ukusekelwa, futhi abayifuni kulesi sifo, kodwa besuka kumfazi abathandayo. Uma konke kuhamba kahle, kulula ukukwenza, kepha uma indoda ihlukunyezwa, amagama abonakala ecela amazwi anonya, futhi ufuna ukuhlasela umyeni wakho ngokuhlambalaza. Kodwa awukwazi ukwenza lokhu, ngakho-ke uzokwehlisa ukuzethemba komyeni wakho, futhi umuntu onjalo akanakuphumelela.
- Ikhono lokukhulumisana ibalulekile hhayi kuphela ekuxoxiswaneni nabalingani bebhizinisi, empilweni yomndeni le mfanelo nayo ibaluleke kakhulu. Funda ukulalela indoda yakho ngaphandle kokuphazamisa. Hlonipha umbono wakhe futhi ungazami ukulungisa ngendlela yakhe - indoda ngenxa yothandekayo wayo ingahlehlisa, kodwa ukuziqhenya kwakhe ngeke kumlalele ngaso sonke isikhathi. Vumela umyeni wakho abe yedwa, kusebenza kangcono kunokumtshela ukuthi wenza konke okungahambi kahle, nokuthi udinga ukuthatha isibonelo kumyeni womngane wakhe.
- Omagazini besifazane abakhathele ukuphindaphinda - ukuhlukahluka embhedeni, isibambiso sokuthi lo muntu uzobuya kuwe kuphela. Esikhathini sesiteleka sabashadikazi, sikhumbula ngalomthetho okungenani, kodwa uma sibeka indandatho ethandekayo eminwe, ngesizathu esithile siyikhohlwa ngalomthetho. Ubulili obuvela enjabulweni buba ngumsebenzi womshado, futhi abesifazane abathile abangenakuziphendulela nabo baphatha kabi amadoda abo, bebaphika "ukufinyelela emzimbeni." Lokhu kuyindlela engafanelekanga, ngoba ngubani ojezisa ukuthi kulesi simo akusobala, futhi indoda, ekhathele ukuthola ikhaya ekhaya, izohamba ukufuna ucansi kwenye indawo, futhi iyoba khona.
- Ungakhohlwa ukudumisa umyeni wakho, bonisa ukuthi uyamdinga ngempela. Kukhona izinselele kuwo wonke umuntu, ungenzi indlovu endizeni. Indoda ifuna ukuzwa ekhaya hhayi ngamaphutha akhe (okusho ukuthi umphathi uzokhumbuza okungaphezu kwesisodwa), kodwa mayelana nempumelelo. Amadoda adinga ukuncoma, mhlawumbe ngisho nangaphezulu kwabesifazane. Ngakho-ke ungabhekiseli ekudumiseni umyeni wakho, uyakufanelekela.
- Ungakhohlwa ngenkululeko - udinga isikhathi sokuhlangana nabangani bakho, uhambe ngezindawo zokubukisa nezitolo. Umyeni wakho udinga isikhathi sokuwasebenzisa hhayi, naye unesithakazelo sakhe siqu. Qonda futhi wamukele leli qiniso.
- Imisebenzi yomfazi ingakhulunywa ngokungapheli, kodwa into esemqoka ebuhlotsheni akuyona ukugcwaliseka komsebenzi kumyeni, kodwa isifiso sokwenza okuthile kuye. Luhlobo luni lwenjabulo nokuqonda okuhlangene esingakhuluma ngakho, uma kubalulekile ukuba ufeze umsebenzi wakho, futhi uma ufuna ukwenza umuntu ajabule kunomuntu oseduze nawe, akunjalo? Kuvela ukuthi ukuphendula umbuzo walokho umfazi okufanele abe khona, umane - kufanele abe nothando.