Ngicabanga ukuthi intombazane enesizotha ingaba evulekile futhi ihlalisane noma ingabe ihlale ibonakala njengomuntu othulile? Uma unamahloni futhi unganqikazi futhi ucabanga nje ngakho, ufuna ukuxhumana nabanye, ukuthakazelisa nokujabulisa, wazi-ungakwenza. Nakuba ekuqaleni ngeke kube lula ukushintsha imikhuba yakho nokuziphatha.
Yini okudingeka uyenze lokhu?
Okokuqala - ukuqonda okukuvimbela ukuba ukhululekile futhi ujabule nokuthi ujwayele ukubhekana kanjani nalo. Cishe, unabangane ozizwa ukhululekile futhi ukhuluma kalula nganoma yisiphi isihloko. Kodwa lapha ukukhulumisana nabantu abangajwayelekile noma abangenasiphelo kubangela ukukhathazeka, ukuhlazeka noma ukwesaba. Wenzani ezimweni ezinjalo? Gwema ukuxhumana? Zibophe ngokuvimbela bese uthula, cishe ungasho lutho?
Uma kunjalo, ngeke usakwazi ukunqoba injabulo nokuzihlukanisa. Kuyoba nzima ukuba ukhulume, futhi ukuziphatha okukhululekile nemvelo ngeke kuphakame ngokwakho ngisho nangesikhathi.
Ngakho-ke, kunendlela eyodwa kuphela yokuzithokozisa kakhulu - ukungashiyi ingxoxo, njengabantu abaningi abavame ukuyenza, kodwa ikakhulukazi uqale izingxoxo nalabo obabona nsuku zonke, kodwa ungasho okuningi. Yenza kuphela okulungile.
Indlela yokufunda ukuba nomphakathi?
1. Uqeqesha ekhaya. Cabanga ukuthi ulungiselela ukukhuluma. Lungiselela imisho embalwa ongaqala ingxoxo nayo. Cabanga ngalokho ongacela kumuntu ozoxoxa naye. Futhi tshela konke ngezwi elimnandi, elimnandi, ubukele izwi lakhe namandla. Lezo "izifundo" zasekhaya zizokusiza futhi uzosho konke okuthandayo, ngokuzethemba nangokuzithoba.
Kukusiza wena namahlaya, izindaba ezimnandi noma izingcaphuno. Khumbula ngokukhethekile futhi uzifake engxoxweni ngethuba elihle. Qoqa ku "piggy bank" yakho yonke into eheha isithakazelo sakho noma eyenza uhleke - kufana nabanye abantu.
Smile. Uyazi ukuthi abaningi abanenkinga yokuqina, njengawe? Futhi kungenzeka ukuthi abazi ukuthi kufanele baziphathe kanjani. Futhi umusa wakho nokumamatheka kuzokusekela futhi kusize ukubhekana nokuhlazeka.
3. Gwema imishwana ye-monosyllabic. Ukuphendula imibuzo evamile - "Ungubani?" Noma "Kulungile, yini okusha nawe?" - zama ukungalokothi "Uvamile" nokuthi "Konke njengokungathi". Ayikho into enjalo ukuthi akukho okwenzeka okusha empilweni yakho! Sitshele ukuthi wenze noma ungenzanga kanjani umsebenzi wesikole, ukuhlolwa noma okungaqondakali, lokho owabukele ku-TV noma okutholakala kuyi-Intanethi. Zibuze: bekube kanjani usuku, ngabe iziphi izinhlelo zakho zangomuso, obani umngane wakho noma intombi ehlangana nabo kubantu ababajwayele.
4. Ukwazi ukulalela nokuzwelana. Ukuba nomphakathi akusho nje ukukhuluma; lapho kubaluleke khona ukufunda ukulalela nokuzwela abaxhumanisi bakho! Abangane bethu bayakwazisa ukubamba iqhaza nokuqonda, ukuzwelana nesimo sengqondo somusa! Bonisa isithakazelo, ulalele, wengeze kusuka kuwe: "Ngempela? Yilokho! "," Ngempela? Ingabe usho lokho ngokwakho? "Noma" Kuhle! "," Kulula! ". Makube oqotho uma ukuphawula kwakho kungukuqamba, kuzobonakala.
5. Khulumisana! Yibani intombazane enenhlalakahle - kusho ukuthintana, uma nje unalo leli thuba. Kufana nokufunda olunye ulimi - uma uyeka ukukhuluma kuso, bese ulahlekelwa ikhono.
Okokuqala, uzothola ukuqina kwangaphakathi, ngakho-ke phinda ubheke "nomphakathi" ngamunye. Kodwa ngomzamo ngamunye omusha uzoba nokuxhumana okuningi.
Vele usabe ukwesaba abanye abantu, nabo abaphelele, njengamahloni nokukhathazeka. Kuphela nje kungenzeka ukuthi bangakwazi ukukhipha lokhu, kodwa uyazi!