Ukwesaba ukufa kusheshe kuhambele wonke umuntu. Sicabanga ukuthi konke okukuleli zwe nasembusweni wethu kuzophela. Omunye unalokhu ukwesaba kubonakala ngesimo sokukhathazeka okujwayelekile noma ukuguqulwa njengenye inkinga yengqondo. Futhi kukhona labo abakubonakalisa kaningi ukuthi likhula libe yinto eshaqisayo yangempela (isibonelo esicacile ukulungiselela abantu abathile ku-Apocalypse ngoDisemba ngonyaka odlule) noma okungcono into efana nokuphoqa, ekubi kakhulu kunalokho (ukwesaba ukufa).
Ukwesaba ukufa, kancane kancane okuguqukela ekubeni yi-phobia, kuyinkinga okufanele iphathwe ngayo. Unempawu ezifana nalezi:
- Ukuba khona kwesimo esithile sokuzikhukhumeza (isibonelo, umuntu uyesaba ukufa ngenxa yomdlavuza, ngakho-ke angasithola ngaphansi kwehhovisi likadokotela, elivivinya ukuhlolwa kwakhe, linikezwe kakade okweshumi).
- Ukulala okukhathazayo (noma lowo muntu unesifo sokulala).
- Ukulahlekelwa kwesifiso.
- Umsebenzi wezocansi ophansi.
- I-alamu eqeda amandla nokukhathazeka.
- Kunemizwa eminingi emibi, eholela ekugcineni ekuziphatheni okunganele.
Ukwesaba okukhulu kokufa
Ukuzwa ukwesaba ukufa akubonakali kuze kube yilapho umuntu efika ebusheni. Ukwesaba ukufa kusho ngokuzenzekelayo uma umuntu efinyelela ebusheni: intsha ilokhu icabanga ngokufa, ezinye ezimweni ezinzima zicabanga ngokuzibulala, ngaleyo ndlela kwenza ukuba ukwesaba ukufa kube yinto engathandeki. Abanye abasha baphikisa ukwesaba okunjalo ekuphileni okunamandla. Badlala imidlalo yekhompiyutha lapho umlingisi oyinhloko kufanele abulawe khona, bazizwa benqobile ngokufa. Abanye baba yihlazo, bekungabaza ngokufa, behleka usulu, behlabelela izingoma eziyinkimbinkimbi, banomlutha wezinto ezijabulisayo nezesabekayo. Futhi abanye baya engozini engacabangi, bephikisa ukufa.
Kule minyaka, ukwesaba ukufa kudlula lapho umuntu ehlanganyela ekwakheni umsebenzi nokudala umndeni wakhe wesikhathi esizayo. Kodwa, uma kufika isikhathi lapho izingane ezikhulile ziphuma endlini, zithuthela esidlekeni somndeni osanda kudalwa noma abazali ukuba bagcwalise umsebenzi wabo, khona-ke ukuqhuma okusha kokwesaba ukufa, inkinga yobudala obuphakathi, kuza. Sebefinyelele phezulu empilweni, abantu bahlaziya okudlule futhi bayaqaphela ukuthi manje indlela yokuphila iholela phansi ekushoneni kwelanga okubaluleke kakhulu. Futhi kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, lowo muntu akasishiyi ukhathazeka ngokufa.
Ukwesaba ukufa kuvame ukuhambisana nokungazi ukuthi yini ezokwenzeka kithi emva kokufa. Kodwa kukhona abantu abaqonda ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi babanjwa ngenxa yokwesaba ukufa kwabantu abasondelene nabo, ukungabi nokuqonda ukuthi bangaphila kanjani uma bengenabo izihlobo zabo. Ukwesaba ukufa komuntu othandekayo kuyadingeka futhi kunganqotshwa.
Indlela yokuqeda ukwesaba ukufa?
Ukunqoba ukwedlula ukwesaba noma ukwesaba ukufa akuyona inkambiso elula, kepha ukuphila okwamanje ngaphandle kokwesaba ukufa kuvula amathuba amaningi okuphila okujabulisayo kunalokho. Yiqiniso, ukulahlekelwa lokhu kwesaba akukona ngokuphelele okungenakwenzeka, kodwa akusho ukuthi kunengqondo. Ngaphandle kokwesaba ukufa, okungukuthi, enesimo sokungesabi, umuntu angazibamba izindlela zokuqala zokuqapha, ezinemiphumela ebuhlungu empilweni yakhe.
Indlela yokunqoba ukwesaba ukufa ichazwa eBhayibhelini. Kodwa izazi zengqondo zingasiza ekuxazululeni le nkinga.
Ukuze uqalise kunconywa ukuthi ubuke impilo yakho kusuka ekhoneni elihlukile, zama ukuhlala usuku olulodwa. Umuntu akazi ikusasa lakhe, ngakho-ke ungenzi izinhlelo ezikude ngekusasa.
Izazi zengqondo zeluleka ukuba ziqale ziqaphe imibono yazo kwi-akhawunti emva kokufa. Uma, ngombono wakho, emva kokuphila okukhona, khona-ke uyaqonda ukuthi umzimba kuphela ofa, futhi umphefumulo awufi. Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi ukufa ngenxa yakho ngeke kube yinto ebalulekile. Njengoba unqume ngemibono enjalo, uzosiza ukulahla ukwesaba okungaziwa, okuvela ngemicabango yokufa.
Ungasebenzisa futhi indlela ejwayelekile yokuqeda ukwesaba. Okokuqala, faka ukwesaba kwakho. Ngakho-ke, uzobe ukhuthazelela zonke izinto ezimbi ezitholile ngaphakathi kwakho. Bese ukhuluma ngesaba. Mtshele konke okufunayo, wamukele, wamukele ukuthi ukhona futhi uthi okuhle kuye kuze kube phakade, uzizwa ukuthi nguwe kuphela oyinkosikazi yokuphila kwakho, okusho ukuthi unamandla ngaphezu kokwesaba kwakho. Ngemuva kwalokho, susa umdwebo (khetha indlela ofuna ukuyisebenzisa okwamanje).
Ngakho ngeke nje ukhulise ukwesaba ukufa kuwe, kodwa futhi ususe futhi uphinde uzizwe ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuphila ngokugcwele nokujabula.