Umzwelo wokubambisana uvela ngezikhathi ezithile kunoma yimuphi umuntu. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi umuntu, ngokwayo ukuhlala komphakathi nokuntuleka kokuxhumana kanye nethuba lokuzibonela emphakathini, kwenza kube nokwesaba ukuhlala yedwa.
Ukwesaba isizungu akuyona into ehlukile kubantu abanesimo sezenhlalo ezahlukene, ubulili, ubudala. Akekho umuntu onokuzethemba nangokwethembeka ongasho ukuthi akazange abe nemizwa enjalo.
Ukulingana kuyahlukahluka kwezinye imizwa ngokuhlangenwe nakho okubanzi kakhulu. Kumuntu kungukuhlukunyezwa okungenakubekezela, kepha kumuntu kuyithuba lokucabanga ngokuphila. Uma ukhathalela ukuthi ungakunqoba kanjani ukwesaba isizungu, khona-ke lesi sihloko sithinta wena.
Indlela yokuqeda ukwesaba isizungu?
Ukuze unqobe ukwesaba isizungu, kubalulekile ukulandela imiyalelo yesinyathelo ngesinyathelo.
- Yamukela isizungu sakho. Ziqiniseke ukuthi ukhululekile ukuhlala wodwa nawe. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi phakathi nalesi sikhathi unezinzuzo ezimbili ezingenakuphika, phakathi kwazo kukhona isikhathi esiningi sokukhululeka nokuntula uthando kumuntu.
- Hlaziya izizathu zalesi senzo. Mhlawumbe ukuthuthumela kwakho kuhlobene nokuthi kungenzeka ukulahlekelwa umuntu oyedwa futhi ungumuntu oyedwa.
- Nciphisa izizathu zokwesaba kwakho. Zama ukuthola abangane abasha noma ushintshe indawo yamarobhothi, ukushintsha isimo kuzosiza ukuletha intsha ekuphileni kwakho futhi kunciphise okuhlangenwe nakho okukhathazayo.
Indlela yokubhekana nokwesaba isizungu?
Ithuluzi elilodwa elihle ekulwa nokungalingani ukuzithuthukisa. Njengoba sekushiwo ngenhla, isizungu, njengombuso, sihambisana nesikhathi esiningi samahhala, ngakho ungaphuthelwa umzuzu futhi usebenze ngokwakho. Funda amabhuku, yenza ezemidlalo, uziqaphele. Ngenxa yalokho, ikhono lokuba i-interlocutor elungile, elifundwa kahle nokubukeka okukhangayo kuzokusiza uthole abangane abasha bese ulahla le phobia.