Ngizonda abantu

Esinye isithangami umyalezo waloluhlobo wanyatheliswa: "Ngizonda abantu, futhi bayangizondayo. Angikwazi ukuhlala emphakathini wezilo, ngizonda abantu ababili, abazenzisi, ababi, abakhohlisayo. Ngizonda abantu abaningi, ngoba bonke banezici. Izwe liyaqhuma phambi kwamehlo ethu. Ngitshele, kungani ngizonda abantu? Ngingahlala kanjani nalokhu? Emva kwakho konke, ukuhlala kuba ngumane ongenakubekezelela ... ". Umlobi womlayezo uyintombazane engaba ngu-15, cishe intsha. Ekuboneni kuqala, kubonakala sengathi empilweni yakhe kukhona okumele kwenzeke ukuzwa imizwa enjalo. Kodwa-ke, namuhla abantu abaningi futhi baningi behlushwa isifo esinjalo njenge-misanthropy - yilo igama lomuntu ozonda abantu.

I-Misanthropy - iyini?

I-Misanthrope, noma indoda enzonda abanye abantu, iningi elingenakuhlukaniswa, igweme umphakathi, ingase ibe nesimo sezenhlalo, ukwesaba umphakathi. I-Misanthropy ingakha isisekelo sefilosofi yonke yokuphila yomuntu, futhi ingaphila impilo yakhe yonke, inzonda abantu futhi ingazi injabulo yobuhlobo bomuntu obuvamile, uthando, ubungane.

Ama-Misanthropes abhekana nokuhlukumezeka kakhulu, noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, bayakujabulela. Ama-misanthropes amaningi angasho ukuthi, "Ngizonda abantu futhi ngiziqhenya ngakho." Kukhona abanye abantu abakwa-misanthropes abagcina ubuhlobo obuvamile, kodwa bambalwa babo. Ama-Misanthropes adelela izici zomuntu ngabanye, futhi akuzona neze ezimbi. Baphinde badlulisele umbono wabo wobuntu kwabanye abantu futhi bakholelwa ukuthi bonke abanye abantu bayazondana.

Imvelaphi enenzondo

Ake sibheke ukuthi kungani abantu benzondana. Inzondo ye-misanthrope ebantwini bonke ingabangelwa izizathu eziningana.

1. Ukungabaza. Umuntu uncike emibonweni yabanye, akabekezeli ukugxeka ekhelini lakhe, ngakho-ke uzama ukugwema abantu ngokuphelele noma ukuthatha zonke izitatimende zabo ekhelini lakhe nama-bayonethi.
2. Ukuzwela kokuphansi. Ukungavikeleki kuvela kaningi kusukela ebuntwaneni. Yimbangela yemicabango yokungahleleki, futhi umuntu ufuna ukuqinisekiswa ngokwakho kwabanye.
3. Umona ngabanye abanesimo esingalingani sezezimali, ubunzima bezinto ezibonakalayo, ukungabi nhlonipho nakho kukukwenza uzizwe unzondo.
4. Imfundo. Lokhu ikakhulukazi kuthinta inzondo yabanye. Sibekezelela zonke izinkathazo zethu nama-phobias kusukela ebuntwaneni.

Kumele wanezele ukuthi inzondo ayibangelwa ngokuqondile ngento enenzondo, kodwa ngesihloko sayo. Okusho ukuthi, umuntu akazondani omunye umuntu, kodwa kunalokho yena ngokwakhe. Ngenxa yokuthi akayena lowo, hhayi njengabanye abanye, lokhu kuyimona futhi kuyinkimbinkimbi ephansi.

Indlela yokunqoba inzondo?

Abambalwa be-misanthrope bazibuza ukuthi benzeni uma uzonda umuntu. Abanesithakazelo ezindleleni zokuphambuka ezimisweni zabo zokuphila, futhi kuyadabukisa. Abantu abanjalo bazokwazi ukusiza kuphela i-psychotherapist eqeqeshiwe, ozokwenza uqondisise, okokuqala, ngokwakho. Kodwa abanye bayakwazi ukuzivuma bona: "Ngiyazonda abantu," bayazibona isimo somphefumulo wabo futhi bacabange ukuthi bangayeka kanjani ukuzonda umuntu, indlela yokunqoba inzondo yabantu. Lokhu futhi angeke kwenzeke ngaphandle kweseluleko sabangqondo be-psychologists abaqeqeshiwe abazosiza ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuqala zokulwa nenzondo.

Okokuqala, udinga ukuthola imbangela yenzondo yakho. Kungani uzonda abantu? Thumela kuwe. Yini ngempela eyokucasula futhi ibangele ukuzwa lokhu okubi? Uma uthola amandla okuvuma ukuthi unomhawu kwabanye abantu, ngoba banezinto ongenakho, khona-ke lesi yisinyathelo sokuqala sokuphulukisa. Kungani uqondisa amabutho akho ekubhubhiseni futhi, masixoxe, akusizi ngalutho, kuwe, okokuqala, umuzwa wenzondo? Beka umgomo futhi uqondise imizamo yakho yokufeza.