Kunoma yikuphi, uma uzithola udinga ukukhuluma nomchwepheshe wezengqondo, khona-ke udinga ngempela lokhu. Uma uthole izibonakaliso zokucindezeleka (okungenzeka kwezinye izimo zingathatha amafomu amahle kakhulu) noma ezinye izinguquko ezingajwayelekile futhi ezimangalisa ekuziphatheni kwakho okukukhathazayo nokuthi awukwazi ukuchaza, ikakhulukazi kuwe kudingeka nje uxhumane nomchwepheshe ongcono. Lona iseluleko sokuqala nesibaluleke kakhulu esinganikezwa ngamacala anjalo.
Ingabe kufanelekile ukungabaza?
Ungacabangi-uzibuze ukuthi ngabe isazi sezengqondo sizokusiza uma ucindezelekile nokuthi uzokuphilisa ngosizo lwe-psychotherapy noma ukulungiswa kwengqondo. Ngokuqinisekile futhi ngokuqinisekile, isazi sezokwelapha sizosiza. Okungenani unqume ukuba khona kanye nemvelo yenkinga bese ucebisa ukuthi wenzeni okulandelayo. Futhi, mhlawumbe, ngokuphambene nalokho, kuzokuqinisekisa, ukukuchazela ukuthi isimo sakho samanje siyindlela ejwayelekile yokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo esikhungweni esithile sokuphila. Ngokuvamile, kumelwe siqonde ukuthi isimiso sengqondo ngumqondo ojwayelekile, umuntu ngamunye kulo mqondo uhlukile, umhlaba kuwo ubonakala ngendlela yawo.
Yiyiphi isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo okufanele sikubheke?
Ikheli kunoma yisiphi isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esenza ukuba uthembele (okungenani ngokuhlola kwangaphandle kanye nezeluleko zabanye abantu). Izazi ze-Psychologists ne-psychotherapists zimelela izikole ezahlukene neziqondiso, ngakho-ke izindlela zokwelashwa kwengqondo ezinikezayo zingafani kakhulu. Esimweni ngasinye sokukhonkolo, izindlela ezehlukene zokucwaninga kwengqondo zizophumelela umuntu othize (okungenani, lokhu kuyimbono yesazi sengqondo esaziwayo kanye nesazi sezifo zengqondo uK. G. Jung, omunye wabamele abavelele kakhulu ekuthambekeni kwengqondo, umsunguli wezokwelapha kwengqondo).
Futhi kuthiwani uma engabhekana nayo?
Ezimweni ezithile (uma esebenze ngokufanele umbuzo), isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo singanqaba nokuphathwa kokucindezeleka, isibonelo, ukuqaphela icala elingalungile iphrofayli yakhe, noma ukuqaphela isimo esidinga ukubamba iqhaza akuseyona ingqondo ye-psychotherapist, kodwa isazi sengqondo esibeka imithi efanele (ngezinye izikhathi lezi zindlela kudingeka zihlanganiswe) . Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukubhekana nodokotela wezengqondo ekubonisweni kokuqala kokubonakala kokucindezeleka, ukuze isimo sokucindezeleka (esingalungiswa ngosizo lwe-psychotherapy) singabi yisifo esibucayi esidinga ukusetshenziswa kwemithi yokwelapha. Ngakho, ekuqaleni, kungcono.
Naphezu kwazo zonke ezingenhla, kunezeluleko eziningana zomhlaba wonke kulabo abaye babhekana nokucindezeleka ezinkathini zokuqala. Iseluleko esinjalo sisekelwe ezimbangela zaleso simo.
Iseluleko sengqondo sokucindezeleka
- Funda ukuphumula . Abamele umsebenzi wengqondo bavame ukubhekana nokucindezeleka, ngoba abantu abanjalo abavame ukuzibeka ngokweqile. Udinga ukuzidela ukuze uphumule futhi ushintshe kwezinye izinto. Noma yiluphi uhlobo lwemisebenzi yangaphandle lufanelekile.
- Ukuphumula nokulala . Ukuntuleka kokulala okungapheli, okuholela ekutheni ukhathele, kungasheshe kube yimbangela yokucindezeleka, ngakho kubalulekile ukuqapha ukuphumula nokulala.
- Thela umphefumulo . Kuvame ukwanele ukuthulula konke okuqongile, ukuxoxa ngezinkinga zokucindezela nokuthola ukuqonda nokusekela. Ungalondolozi konke okukuwe, thola umuntu ongakhuluma nge-sore futhi uthole iseluleko esinengqondo kanye nokukhokhiswa kwamandla ukuqeda konke okukuholela esimweni esinjalo.
- Ukuphila okunempilo . Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi isimo sempilo yethu, kufaka phakathi kwengqondo-ngokomzwelo, ngokuyinhloko sikhathalela indlela yokuphila. Utshwala ngobuningi futhi ngokusetshenziswa njalo, ukungondleki okungalungile nokuntuleka kokuphumula okulungile kuyindlela efanele yokucindezeleka. Sebenzisa amahora ambalwa ngeviki ngokuzilibazisa , izinto zokuzilibazisa , njalo kaningi emoyeni omusha, bheka okuhlangenwe nakho okusha futhi awusoze waba nesikhathi sokushukela nokudangala.