Ukukholelwa emandleni akho, ukuzimela, ukuzimisela, isibindi, ukubekezela-kunamagama amaningi kakhulu ekuthandweni. Kodwa kuye ngezimo, isimo, kuthatha isimo esihlukile. Ingabe enye yezenzakalo eziyinkimbinkimbi kunazo zonke ezingqondweni zanamuhla. Lena uhlobo oluthile lwamandla angaphakathi angakwazi ukulawula izinqumo zakho, izenzo, futhi, ngenxa yalokho, imiphumela yezenzo. Kungenxa yesimo sokuzikhethela umuntu angakwazi ukubeka nje imigomo engenakwenzeka ukuyibuka ekuqaleni, kodwa futhi ukufezekisa, ukunqoba noma yiziphi izithiyo endleleni.
Uhlobo Lwezenzo Ku-Psychology
Kunezinhlobo ezintathu ezivame kakhulu zalesi sici esibalulekile senhliziyo yomuntu:
- Inkululeko yokuzikhethela ibhekiselwa ngamanye amagama njengenkululeko engokomoya. Yile nkululeko yokuthatha izinqumo nezenzo eziwuphawu lokukholwa okujulile. Isibonelo, kufanelekile ukukhumbula indlela abahlali abahlala ngayo. Bayekela kalula imfuyo yezinto ezibonakalayo futhi baphile "hhayi ngokwenyama, kodwa ngoMoya."
- Intando, ebizwa ngokuthi yendalo, ibonakala ngenkululeko yokuzikhethela, ukucabanga, ukubukwa, izahlulelo nokuziphatha komuntu.
- Futhi uhlobo lokugcina luyinto engavumelani nayo eyobe ifakwe isinqumo esinqunyiwe. Kulesi simo, uphoqeleka ukuba ukhethe okudingekayo ngokuphathelene nezimo ezithile ezisekelwe.
Ukuthuthukiswa kwentando
Esikhathini sokusebenza kwengqondo, ukuthuthukiswa kwentando yomuntu kumuntu, kuthiwa okokuqala, kubonisa izimpawu zokuziphatha kwezinye izidalwa eziphilayo. Kukholelwa ukuthi le mfanelo eyaziwayo (okungukuthi, umuntu uyakwazi ukulawula ukubonakaliswa kwentando ekuziphatheni kwakhe) kwavela ngokuvela komphakathi, umsebenzi wezenhlalakahle. Intando ixhunyaniswe nezinqubo ezingokomzwelo nezengqondo ezingqondweni zabantu.
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi inemisebenzi emibili:
- kushukumisa
- ukuqhuma.
Kungumsebenzi wethu oqinisekisa ukusebenza komuntu wokuqala, kanti into engavimbelayo yenza ngokubambisana neyaphambilini futhi ibonakala ngendlela yokuvimbela lezo zenzo zomsebenzi, okungukuthi, izenzo eziphikisana nemigomo yokuziphatha nomphakathi. Ngenxa yokusebenzisana kwemisebenzi emibili, lo muntu uyakwazi ukuthuthukisa izimfanelo ezifunayo, ukunqoba izithiyo endleleni yokufeza lokho okufunayo.
Uma izimo zokuphila zomuntu zingenakulungiswa kusukela ebuntwaneni, kunamathuba amancane okubheka ukuthi izimfanelo zemiqondo ezithandayo zizokwenziwa kuwo. Kodwa ukuzimisela, ukubekezela, isiyalo, isibindi, njll. kungenziwa njalo ithuthukiswe. Ukwenza lokhu, into esemqoka, ukwenza izinhlobo ezahlukene zemisebenzi, unqobe izithiyo zangaphandle nezangaphakathi.
Kodwa ngeke kube okungadingekile ukukhombisa uhlu lwalezo zici ezivimbela ukuthuthukiswa okunamandla:
- ingane eyonakalisiwe;
- ukususwa kwanoma yiziphi izinqumo zomntwana ngokusebenzisa intando yomzali eqinile.
Izakhiwo zentando yokusebenza kwengqondo
- Izakhiwo ezizenzekelayo zibonakaliswa ikhono lokusetha kahle, kodwa futhi ukufeza umgomo. Ngamanye amazwi, uma ungumuntu oshukumisayo, lokhu kubonisa ukuthi ubuntu bakho bunikwe amandla okuthuthukiswa.
- Ukunquma. Impahla elandelayo yentando yikhono lokukhetha ngokushesha nangokucabanga
umgomo walo, ngenkathi ungakhohlwa izindlela zokufezekisa. - Ukubekezela. Isisusa esichazwe kahle asikwazi ukukusiza kuphela ukuthi ufeze lokho okufunayo, kodwa futhi uqinise intando yakho, futhi ngokusebenza kwengqondo, abantu abaphikelelayo babonakala njengalabo abakwazi ukuhlola kahle isimo ngokuthola kulokho okuzobasiza ukuba bafeze umgomo wabo.
- Ukuvezwa. Kulo mhlaba umsebenzi wokuvimbela, okukhulunywe ngaye ekuqaleni, ubizwa ngokucacile.
- Ukuzimela. Uma ungesiye uqobo ngokweqhinga lakho ukubeka umgomo futhi wenze isinqumo owenzile, le ndawo efunayo yenziwa kuwe.