Ukukhuluma ngokuthi ungafunda kanjani ukucabanga kahle, kufaneleka ukubhuka okubalulekile. Lokhu akukwazi ukufunda ngokushesha. Zicabange wena, umuntu isikhathi esiningi wayehlala enhle, futhi indlela yakhe yokucabanga yaba umkhuba wakhe, futhi imikhuba, njengoba wazi, ukuqeda akulula. Umsebenzi ukuwubeka umkhuba omubi ngokuthile okuwusizo.
Ukuzibeka emisebenzini ethile, izimpikiswano zithola izizathu eziningi, "kodwa" futhi "uma", ezingenakuthemba futhi ezingavamile ukuholela empumelelweni . Abantu abanjalo bayakwazi ukuthola ngendlela eyisimangaliso kakhulu "inqwaba yamachashaza elangeni" futhi njalo banesitokisini sokuzibambisa uma kwenzeka ukwehluleka. Ama-Optimist yiyona ehlukile ngokuqondile.
Indlela yokucabanga ngendlela enhle?
Okokuqala, udinga ukufunda ukuthi "ukubamba" imicabango engafanele ephakama, ngezinye izikhathi, ngokuzibandakanya. Kucabanga ukuthi okusanhlamvu esikuhlwanyelayo, ngakho izinga lezinhlamvu lizoxhomeka ekuvuneni. Umcabango omubi ngamunye uthathelwe indawo enhle, zama ukungasebenzisi emicabangweni nasenkulumweni yakho inhlayiyana yokungaboni "hhayi."
Udinga ukucabanga kahle, ukhumbule ukuthi uma umnyango ungakapheli, uvula olunye. Mhlawumbe okuthile okwakungasebenzi namuhla kuyinhlangano enkulu nangomuso okulindelekile okubaluleke nakakhulu.
Xhumana nabantu abaphumelelayo nabahle. Ukulahlekelwa, okubhebhethekisana nomkhuhlane, kugweme umphakathi wabo, ngoba akunakwenzeka ukuba ugqozi ugqoke amandla. Abantu abaphumelelayo bangaba othisha abahle bokuphila ngokuzibandakanya, bebonisa isibonelo sabo ukuthi ukucabanga okuhle kungabhubhisa izindonga ezingenakunyakaziswa.