Amagundane - leli gama elifushane nelinempilo liyiphendule yonke yemibuzo ethi "wenza kanjani?", "Kwenzekeni?", "Kungani kunomuncu?". Nakuba izazi zengqondo zincoma izindlela eziningi zokwelapha "izinzwa" zakho, uthatha izindlela zakho ezivunyelwe ukuthi zenze umsebenzi wazo ngokushesha:
- sweet (bese ukhononda ukuthi udla ukucindezeleka );
- utshwala;
- ugwayi (ngokulandelana, ngokuhambisana nokugqugquzelwa kwama-hormone yenjabulo ukwanda nokukhiqizwa kwe-adrenaline - i-hormone yokucindezeleka eyenza ngempumelelo ukwethuka ngokwengeziwe);
- ekuqaleni, abasizi abawusizo: ukusikhipha, ukugeza, i-aromatherapy, i-teas evuselelayo ne-infusions.
Kungani "kuqala ukubona"? Phela, kunoma yiliphi umagazini labesifazane uzofunda ukuthi ukuze uphuze, kufanele uphuze itiye eliluhlaza, ulalele umculo we-classical, amakhandlela akhanyayo bese uya endlini yokugezela ngolwandle usawoti kanye ne-magnesia. Inkinga yukuthi konke okungenhla akuyona impendulo yombuzo wokuthi ungayenza kanjani imizwa nesifo sengqondo, kodwa ususa okwesikhashana izimpawu.
Ngakho-ke, ngeke sikululeke ukuthi uzonqanda itiye elihlaza. Lokhu kusenzele kithi. Ukuze ukhiphe ukukhathazeka okungenakuqondisisa futhi uzenzele kancane kancane ekucindezelekeni, udinga ukwazi ukuthi ungaqinisa kanjani izinzwa.
"Yakha" izinzwa ezinempilo
Ukuze uphambanise imisipha, kudingeka wenze okungenani umzimba wokuvuthwa. Ukuze sikwazi ukuqinisa ingqondo, thina, ngokufanele, sidinga umzimba ukuze siqinise ingqondo.
I-egocentrism enempilo:
- umsebenzi ukuqaphela ukuthi wena wedwa awukwazi ukusiza bonke abadinga;
- indlela yokufeza - ungazuza kulo mhlaba futhi uwenze ube ophelele, othanda futhi owazi ngokwengeziwe.
Ama-stereotypes:
- umsebenzi ukukhipha isimo sengqondo esingalungile kanye nezinkolelo, hhayi ukwenza "umsebenzi owengeziwe";
- indlela yokuzuza - ukuqinisa i-psyche kuyofika lapho uqala ukubheka izinto ezingenakuqhathaniswa, kepha ukuzitholela izinto ezibalulekile - ukuqonda, ngakho-ke kuyadingeka ukwenza konke ngaphandle kokuphazanyiswa, kuyasiza kakhulu ukungabandakanyeki kokubili futhi okungathandeki.
Ukuqinisa i-psyche kanye nesimiso sezinzwa kubonisa ukuvumelana emacaleni amane okuphila:
- ukuthula kwengqondo;
- impilo yempilo;
- umsebenzi osebenzayo wengqondo;
- ubudlelwano phakathi komndeni.
Imicabango emibi - kude
Kubo bonke abathintekayo ngesihloko sokuthi baqinise kanjani i-psyche, kubalulekile ukuthi bafunde ukuxosha imicabango emibi kusuka kuwe. Kusukela ekuseni, uma usuku lwakho aluzange luqale "ngokusho kwesimiso" (abanye abantu bahluphekile kakhulu uma kukhona okungahambi kahle, njengoba behlela), zijabulise ngaphandle kokuphuma embhedeni - khumbula ubuwula, ihlaya, ukungabi nalutho . "Shaya" ikamelo lakho ngokuqinisekiswa okuqondile (okuqondile nokungaqondile). Isibonelo, ungathola ibinzana elizophakamisa umoya wakho wokulwa nokuhlobisa, ulibeke ngesimo sesithombe odongeni. Zizungeze ngemibala emihle, emibala, emanzini, ezinyoni, ezihlotsheni eziseveni, ezithombeni nabantu abajabulayo.
Izinzwa ezinamandla
Kukhona abantu abathi, njengoba bethi, "ulwandle luyidolo." Okumangalisa ukuthi, ngemuva kwakho konke, kubonakala sengathi abakwazi ukungenwa yilokho emhlabeni, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani, bahlale behlushwa ukugxilwa okuphezulu, futhi akukho zindaba ezizozihola ngaphandle kwe-rut. Abantu abanjalo bafunda ukungafaki imizwelo. Ngokushesha nje lapho uqala ukwethuka, qala, qala ukukhala kanye nabahlaziyi, zibuze, yini oyitholayo? Ukukhishwa - emva "kokuphuma" okunjalo uyozizwa uchithekile. Ukubonakaliswa kwesimo sabo sengqondo kwabanye - bafuna ukuphambanisa isimo sakho sengqondo. Ungalokothi uchithe izinzwa zakho nemicabango yakho, udale amandla okuxazulula izinkinga, futhi ungadlali endaweni yaseshashalazini ephawulekayo.