Kunzima ukuhlala kunoma yikuphi ukuguga nomuntu othandekayo, futhi ngokuvamile lesi simo esicindezelayo siholela ekucindezelekeni. Kuneziphakamiso eziningana ezingokwengqondo ezithinta ukuthi ungakhohlwa kanjani ngokushesha ngemuva kokuhlukanisa futhi uqale isigaba esisha sokuphila. Inkinga yabesifazane abaningi ukuthi kunzima kakhulu ukuba bafake iphuzu elinengqondo, benethemba lokubuya komuntu othandekayo.
Ungakhohlwa kanjani othandekayo kuze kube phakade emva kokuhlukanisa?
Iphutha elivamile ukukhumbula ukuthi kuhle kangakanani kumuntu wangaphambili, ukuthi uchithe isikhathi ndawonye kanjani, njll. Kubalulekile ukubeka yonke imizwa eceleni bese ubheka isimo ngaphandle. Gxila ezimweni ezimbi, uphawule ukuthi ukuhlukanisa isinqumo esifanele.
Kulabo abanesithakazelo sokuthi ungakhohlwa phakade umthandi wakho, kufanelekile ukunikeza iseluleko esisodwa esibaluleke kakhulu - vula imizwa. Abesifazane benza ngokuhlukile, ngakho-ke umuntu udinga ukukhala kumngane oseduze, kanti abanye bakhetha ukushaya umcamelo noma ukumemeza. Enye inketho - bhala umculi wangaphambili incwadi, lapho usho konke okwakusengqondweni yakho, bese uyishisa.
Yeka masinyane futhi ukhohlwe phakade umthandekayo wakho:
- Iseluleko esibaluleke kunazo zonke izazi zengqondo ezinikezayo ngothando. Khumbula ukuthi lena yindlela kuphela yokuthola inhlonipho nothando kwabanye.
- Sula isikhala sezinto ezingenani okungenani ukuxhumeka kobudlelwano bokuqala.
- Vumela ukushintsha komqondo, ngakho thola into okufanele uyenze. Kungaba umsebenzi, ukuzilibazisa, ukuhamba, ukulungisa, njll.
- Ukuthola ukuthi ukukhohlwa ngokushesha kangakanani umuntu angeke akhunjulwe isinyathelo esibalulekile - ishintsho. Bhalisa ku-salon beauty lapho ungashintsha izinwele zakho, ufunde ukwenza okwenziwe kahle, njll. Iya ezitolo ukuze ubuyekeze ikhabethe lakho. Qinisekisa ukuthi uthenge izinto owake waziphupha.
- Ungahlali wodwa bese uzama ukuchitha isikhathi samahhala nabantu abaseduze. Lokhu kuzosiza ukuphazamisa nokuqonda ukuthi umhlaba awuhambisani nomuntu oyedwa.
- Abaningi baphila ngesimiso - "umkhawulo ukhahlela", kodwa empeleni leli qhinga lisebenza ngokungajwayelekile futhi kuphela uma imizwa yomuntu owayengumthandi wangaphambili engagcini. Kudingekile ukuzinika isikhathi sokushiya esedlule bese ulungiselela isinyathelo esisha.
Ngokushesha noma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuyofika isikhathi lapho kubalulekile ukuhlanganisa ubuhlobo obudlule futhi ubuke isimo sesivele sithulile. Kubalulekile ukudweba ukuthi ungaphinde wenze amaphutha futhi.