Omunye unesithukuthezi ukuba ahlale endaweni yokusebenzela, othile-ukufunda incwadi, nomuntu-ukuze aphile. I-borrowdom ibonakala ngezindlela ezahlukene, futhi ngamunye wethu uhlangane naye izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa empilweni yethu, kodwa akuwona wonke umuntu okwazi ukuthola imithi ephumelelayo kuye.
Izazi zengqondo ziqaphele ukuthi izizathu zokubonakaliswa kwale mizwelo enemibala engalungile zikhona ngokungabi nesithakazelo somuntu siqu kulokho umuntu akwenzayo. Ngamanye amazwi, kubonakala ngezikhathi lapho ungeke ukwazi ukunquma ukuthi yini ofuna ukuzenza kulo mzuzu.
Ukumiswa kwesimo sokudabuka noma isithukuthezi
Lokhu ukuthambekela kuhlale kukhona, futhi izimpande zawo zakhiwa ebuntwaneni, lapho abazali bengakhathaleli ingane yabo. Bavame ukushiya bebodwa, ngaphandle kokuthatha izinto ezithakazelisayo, ngaphandle kokubonisa isithakazelo ekuphileni kwabo, ngenkathi bekhohlwa ukusiza ingane ukuba ithole yona.
Indlela yokukhipha isithukuthezi?
Kukhona indlela eyodwa ephumelela kakhulu: thatha wena kokuthile okuthakazelisayo kuwe. Khetha kusuka kulabo abatholakalayo noma uvele nomdlandla, ibhizinisi elingakhuthaza, likukhuthaze, ligcwalise impilo yakho ngencazelo, engeza ukuthinta ngokomzwelo ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Kodwa into esemqoka ngendlela yokwehliswa yiyona ingxenye yendalo. Thola into ongayibonisa ngayo ubuciko bakho, thola amandla okudala, lapho kunesidingo sokuthutha khona. Thuthukisa, thola izici ezintsha zobuntu bakho.
Kodwa ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nesithukuthezi, uma kungenjalo kumzwelo? Khona-ke kuleli cala ushintshe isimo sakho sengqondo kuso. Bheka ngaphesheya kwesimo sakho. Ingabe lokhu kungaba ukwaneliseka okuvamile empilweni? Uma ungafuni ukwenza noma yini, cabangela inketho ukuthi ukuphumula okumnandi. Umuntu uye wajwayele umzuzu wonke ukuba enze okuthile, kusukela kulokhu nokwesaba, ukuba yedwa nemicabango yakhe, ukuhlangana naye.