Abantu basabela ngokuhlukile ezenzakalweni ezizungezile, futhi ngokwemvelo bangahlukaniswa ngamaqembu amabili: izimpikiswano nezifiso. Lezi zici zivamile, kodwa bambalwa abantu abanembile nangendlela efanele abangachaza ukuthi kusho ukuthini isimo esingenakuqhathaniswa nesimo esiphezulu. Kunezinqubo ezithile abantu abazokwazi ukuzihlukanisa ngazo, kodwa endleleni yokuphila umuntu angahamba esuka eqenjini elilodwa aye kwelinye.
Ubani ongumuntu obhekene nokucindezeleka?
Okokuqala, ake sibheke isichazamazwi, lapho kubhaliwe khona ukuthi umuntu obona izinto ezimbi kuphela kunoma yimiphi imicimbi. Kuye, izwe limelelwa ngezinga elikhulu emibutheni emnyama. Abaningi babiza izingqinamba ze-whiners, ngoba bavame ukukhononda ngempilo yabo kanye nokuhluleka ababhekana nakho kaningi. Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi abacindezeli abakwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi abalahlekile, ngoba bangaphumelela empilweni, njalo bebona izinkinga ezingenzeka ngesikhathi. Kumele futhi kuqaphele ukuthi labo abanesifo esibucayi baningi phakathi kwabantu asebekhulile abaye babhekana nokudumazeka nezinkinga eziningi, okubenza baqaphele izinhlangothi ezingalungile.
Ukuqhubeka nokuqonda ukuthi kusho ukuthini lokho, kufanelekile ukuthi leli "ilebula" aliwona umusho futhi ngesikhathi sokuphila umuntu angabheka izinto ngezindlela ezahlukene. Konke kuncike ezimweni futhi uma konke kuhamba kahle, isimo sengqondo sokungabi nalutho siyanyamalala.
Uyini umehluko phakathi kwesimo esibucayi nesimo esiphezulu?
- Abathembalaza bahlaziya ngokucophelela isimo futhi bangaziqedi amandla abo, ngakho-ke kulula ukuba babikezele ngokwabo kanye nokwehla kwabo. Abathemba kakhulu ezimweni eziningi basebenzisa ukucabanga okungenakuqhathaniswa futhi ngokuvamile bavusa ibha, bebhekene nokudumazeka.
- Abantu abanethemba eliphezulu banethemba futhi bakholelwa emiphumeleni emihle yezenzakalo, ezisiza ukuba bangalahli futhi balwele imigomo yabo.
- Ososayensi bakholelwa ukuthi izidakamizwa zinokuhlakanipha okuningi, ngakho-ke nakuba zidabukile, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo zihlakaniphile.
- Abantu abanethemba lokuphila bajabule kakhulu, bebona izinto ezimnandi ezikuvumela ukuba ulwe nemimoya emibi futhi kulula ukubhekana nezimo ezicindezelayo.
Ukuze ungadluli, kungcono ukuthola "igolide elisho" ukuhlola kahle izinto ezungezile hhayi ukwakha ukucabanga.
Ungaba kanjani umuntu othembekile ovela kumuntu oyingozi?
Izazi zengqondo zithi wonke umuntu unethuba lokushintsha ukucabanga kwakhe futhi afunde ukubheka umhlaba ngendlela ehlukile.
Ungakuyeka kanjani ukungabi nesibindi:
- Akudingeki ukuthi ubheke abanecala lokuhluleka kwabo. Cabanga ngabo njengesipiliyoni, okukufanelekile ukuthola isiphetho esifanele, ukuze ungasabhekana nezinkinga ezinjalo.
- Kholelwa ngamandla akho. Ungahlanganyeli ekutheni u-flagellation, ngisho noma kufanele ubhekane nokuhluleka. Ukukholelwa emandleni akho kuzoba yisisusa esibalulekile sokungavumi futhi uzame ukufezekisa impumelelo futhi.
- Zizungeze nabantu abahle, ngoba kokubili isibonelo esihle nesimbi "sithathelwana."
- Khipha impilo yakho izinto ezibuhlungu futhi uzilethele. Uma kufanele wenze umsebenzi ongathandeki, zama ukubhekana nawo ekuseni.
- Funda amabhuku amahle, ubukele amabhayisikobho bese uzungeze ngezinto ezihlukahlukene ezihle. Kunconywa ukuthi uhambe nganoma yisiphi ithuba, ukuthola ukubonakala okusha.
- Isici esiyinhloko somuntu othembekile ngumomothekayo. Zama ukumamatheka kaningi, ngisho nakwe esibukweni. Ukumemeza okuzungezile ungathola imali enhle kakhulu yemizwelo emihle. Lokhu kuphela kusebenza ukumomotheka okuqotho.
- Thola umsebenzi ozophazamisa izinkinga futhi ulethe imizwelo emihle.