Siyazi ukuthi ukwaneliseka komuntu kuyimfuneko edingekayo yokwakhiwa kobuntu, ngaphandle kwalokhu lekhwalithi ayikho into eyenzekayo - umuntu uzobhujiswa ezinkimbinkimbi kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okungafani. Kodwa iyini incazelo yokuzwanela, lokhu kusho ukuthini?
Incazelo yokwaneliseka
Incazelo yombono wokwaneliseka kulula ukunikeza, incazelo ingabanjwa kuphela emva kokufunda leli gama. Ukwaneliseka yilapho sikwanele ngokwethu, sifundile ukuxhumana nomphakathi ngendlela yokuthi asidingi usizo olukhulu oluvela kwezinye iziqu ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umqondo wokwaneliseka usebenza, kokubili kumuntu, nakumphakathi nanoma yisiphi isistimu.
Psychology of self-sufficiency
Abanye abalobi bathi ngokwehlukana mayelana nokwaneliseka kwamadoda nabesifazane, kodwa lokhu akufanelekile, ikakhulukazi kunikezwe okwenzekayo kwamanje. Namuhla, abesifazane bazama ukungatholi amadoda nganoma iyiphi indlela, baze baphumelele ekuphumeleleni emikhakheni yamadoda amakhulu. Ngakho-ke, ukuhlukanisa ukuzithelela kubesilisa nabesilisa akuyona into enengqondo. Kodwa nokho, ake sibheke amaphuzu afaka lo mqondo.
- Ukwaneliseka kuboniswa ukungabikho kwesizungu. Uma kunjalo, kusho ukuthi umuntu akakwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kwabanye, kodwa umuntu oncike kwabanye akakwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi unelungelo.
- Ikhono lokuphila ngedwa lisibonakaliso sokwaneliseka. Lokhu kuboniswa amandla okuhlomisa izimpilo zabo ukuze badle, baphuze futhi bagqoke izindleko zabo, futhi baphile kahle endaweni yabo yokuhlala, okungenani kususwe.
- Futhi, umuntu owanelisekile akasoze enza ngokuvumelana nomyalo womuntu, uzoqondiswa yizigwebo zakhe kuphela. Umuntu onjalo akakwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi yisigqila, uyakwazi ukwenza umbono wakhe ngalokho okwenzekayo, futhi angakholelwa ngokungaqondile izinkulumo zomunye umuntu. Ngokwemvelo, lokhu akusho isimo "Ngiyazi konke okungcono kunabo bonke abantu, angizwa noma ngibona noma ubani." Ukuze ulalele umbono womunye umuntu, ungacela iseluleko, futhi ngezinye izikhathi kuyadingeka, kodwa kusadingeka ulandele indlela yakho.
- Abantu abakwanele banomkhuba omuhle - ukuhlala ngaphandle kokubheka imibono yabanye. Umuntu onjalo akadingi ukuvunyelwa kwabanye abantu noma abangani ukwenza lokhu noma leso sinqumo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi umuntu uthatha umthwalo ogcwele wezenzo zakhe. Ngakho-ke, ukulahlwa noma ukuvunywa kwabanye kuba impendulo kuphela, kodwa akuyona into ebalulekile.
- Ukwaneliseka kusho ukukwazi ukuzivumelanisa nokushintsha isimo sezemvelo ngenkathi uhlala "ehhashi." Isibonelo, umuntu angaphumelela, owaziwayo ekuhlanganiseni, kepha kwakukhona abazali abanenkinga noma abacebile, isiteshi sezezimali sivinjelwe futhi konke kuphelile lapho, lo muntu akazi ukuthi yini okufanele akwenze, udangele futhi udidekile. Angeke abe ngokwanele, uma kunjalo, esikhundleni sokuzisola ngelahlekile, ngabe uthola izindlela zokubuyisela isikhundla sakhe. Ukulahlekelwa (imali, othandekayo) akusho ukuthi uzokulahleka.
- Isimo esibalulekile akukhona nje kuphela ukuba khona kwamakhono amakhono engqondo, amakhono kanye namakhono, kodwa futhi ulwazi lokuthi kuphi, nini nokuthi ungayisebenzisa kanjani futhi nini. Umuntu owanelisekile uhlale encike enhlanhleni, uthanda kakhulu ukulinganisa okunembile.
- Ukubiza umuntu ngokwanele, kudinga ukungabikho kokunamathiselwe okugulayo. Kunjalo ukubiza noma yikuphi ukucabangela komuntu
(into, umqondo, umuntu), ngaphandle kokuthi akukho khona okungenakwenzeka. Ukuhlukanisana nothando kubangela ubuhlungu obungokomzwelo nokuhlupheka okukhulu.
Ukuzindla ngombono wokwaneliseka, ukuzethemba, okunamandla nokukhangayo kubonakala, kodwa lo mqondo unolunye uhlangothi. Ukwaneliseka kungagula futhi. Kuyinto eyodwa uma umuntu engadingi ukwesekwa komunye umuntu, futhi nakakhulu lapho egwema lokhu kusekelwa ngawo wonke amandla akhe. Ingabe uzizwa umehluko? Ungahambi ngokweqile, ukwamukela usizo akusho ukuthi ubuthakathaka.