Omubi ungumdlali, ongakhathazeki ngokusebenza. Lesi saga asifaneleki kuphela kubameleli bomsebenzi womphakathi, kodwa futhi kubantu beminyaka yonke, izinhlobo zobuntu nabalingiswa. Akunandaba ukuthi ungumuntu oqinile noma unesihe esihle, empilweni kunezikhathi ezinjalo lapho umshuwalense enganikezwa khona. Futhi uma usuvele usesimweni esinjalo, lokhu akusho ukuthi ukwesaba ngeke kukubambe, uphinde futhi. Yingakho kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi ungakhipha kanjani injabulo ngesikhathi futhi uzihlanganise.
Ungakugwema kanjani injabulo?
Ezimweni eziningi, umuzwa wokuzijabulisa ungumphumela wokwesaba. Ukugxeka nokungaqiniseki kuvimbela umuntu ekudaluleni ngokugcwele amandla akhe namakhono akhe. Umphumela, njengomthetho, ukunganeliseki ngokuphila, ukusola abanye ngokuhluleka kwabo kanye nokucindezeleka. Ngabe ukwesaba ukukhuluma komphakathi, ukuqhuma ukuhlolwa noma ukuqina phakathi kosuku lokuxoxisana kwakudlala kanjani indima ebulalayo futhi lo muntu wayenqatshelwe ithuba lokufakazela ulwazi, amakhono kanye namakhono akhe eqiniso? Izibonelo ezinjalo zitholakala kuzo zonke izinyathelo. Yingakho ukwazi ukuthi yini okudingeka ukwenze uma ukukhathazeka kungenzeki umuntu ukuthi abe nokuqiniseka okukhulu, kodwa futhi abe nomthelela omkhulu endleleni impilo izokhula ngayo.
Konke ukwesaba kwethu kukhishwa kalula ngosizo lwezindlela ezikhethekile nokuzivocavoca. Ake sicabangele ngokuningiliziwe ukuthi singasusa kanjani injabulo ezimweni ezahlukene:
1. Indlela yokunqoba injabulo ngaphambi kokusebenza? Le nkinga ayifanele kuphela izibalo zomphakathi, kodwa nakwabo abaqala ukuhlangana nezilaleli:
- uma usuvele uvele ngemuva, bheka abantu abahlezi ehholo. Zama ukucabanga ukuthi ngamunye wabo kanye nokwesaba ukuhamba ngesiteji. Futhi abanakho okushoyo. Futhi unolwazi kubo olungasiza futhi oluwusizo. Ukuzethemba okulula kuzokusiza ukuba ukhule emehlweni akho futhi uzizwe ukubaluleka kwakho. Khona-ke ukwesaba kuyoba yize;
- indlela yokususa injabulo, uma ngesikhathi senkulumo uqala ukushaya, noma ungenayo umoya okwanele, zama ukuthatha umoya ojulile uphinde uphume izikhathi eziningana ngaphambi kwenkulumo elandelayo. Umoya ngokuphefumulelwa kufanele ugcwalise ngokuphelele amaphaphu, futhi uma uphumelela ngaphandle kwensali ukuze uphume emaphashini. Ungaphinda uhumushe nge-nostril eyodwa, bese uphuma ngomunye. Ukugxila ekuphefumuleni kwakho kuzokusiza ukuqeda imicabango engalungile nentshisekelo;
- ngoba ukubhekana nokukhathazeka kuvame ukuvinjelwa izinga eliphakeme le-adrenaline egazini, udinga ukusiza umzimba ukuwuqeda ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Ukuthi ngesikhathi sokusebenza inhliziyo "ayifuni" esifubeni, noma ingahlanganiswa namabala futhi "ingwenya ayigudluli" kudingeka usebenzise umzimba. Isibonelo, yenza ukuhlala, ukugijima noma izikhathi eziningana ukuze uphume. Uma lokhu kungenakwenzeka, bese usebenza ngezindlela zobuso kuzosiza. Yakha ubuso obuhlukahlukene nama-grimaces, uphoqelela imisipha yobuso ukuba isebenze.
2. Ukususa kanjani injabulo ngaphambi kokuhlolwa, ukuxoxisana noma ukuxoxa? Zonke lezi zimo ezintathu zifana, ngaphezu kwalokho, ngaphezu kwamasu angenhla, ungazama futhi uthuthukise ukuzithemba ekuphenduleni imibuzo ehlukene enzima:
- zama ukuqonda ukuthi yini ebangela ukwesaba nokuqina ngaphakathi kuwe. Uma lokhu kuxoxwa noma ukuhlolwa, inkathi enkulu yokwesaba kuhlobene nokwesaba ukukhuluma ubuwula, ukuveza ukuthi awukwazi kahle futhi ubheke kakhulu ngesikhathi esifanayo;
- indlela yokunqoba injabulo, uma usuvele unqume ukuthi yini ekushayisayo? Cabanga ngokuziphatha kwakho kusengaphambili! Kunoma yimuphi umbuzo okhohlisayo kufanele ube nenhlaya endaweni yokugcina, umbuzo wokuphendula noma ukumomotheka emsebenzini. Into eyinhloko akusho ukuthi ungathuli futhi ungesabi ukusho into engalungile.
Khumbula ukuthi akufanele uphathe isimo esijabulisayo njengokungathi impilo yakho ixhomeke kuyo. Ngeke uyeke ukuba khona uma ungadluli lokhu kuhlolwa noma uthole lo msebenzi. Shintsha isimo sakho sengqondo ngesimo sakho sokwesaba. Yiya kubo ukuze uhlangane futhi uzobe uqiniseka ukuthi akukho lutho olwesabekayo noma olubulalayo oluzokwenzeka.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani, uzobe usukwazi ukuthi yini okufanele ukwenze uma kwenzeka ujabule. Ukuze uzivikele ngokwengeziwe, ungabi ovilaphayo ukuqeqesha ekhaya: ukuhlanya phambi kwesibuko, ukuzethula phambi kwezilaleli, ukuqeqesha imishwana yakho eyinhloko oyoyisho engxoxweni. Ukugqoka okunjalo kuzokufundisa ukuba uqonde umzimba wakho, ukuzithokozisa nesimo sobuso. Ngesimo sangempela, umzimba wakho uzokhumbula ukuthi kudinga ukuziphatha kanjani futhi ikunike ukuqiniseka, okusho ukuthi umbuzo wokuthi ungayinqoba kanjani injabulo ngeke ufaneleke kuwe.