"Ngikhathele yizinto zonke, angifuni lutho!" - ukuthi amazwi angabonakali kanjani, ekuqaleni kokubuka, okungaqondakali. Eqinisweni, isikhundla esinjalo sibonisa ukucindezeleka okuqhubekayo okungasikhathaza thina, besifazane ngenxa yezizathu ezihlukahlukene: noma ngenxa yesizungu esenza ube nomuzwa wokuthi awuyize esikhathini esizayo sokuphila kwakho, noma izinkinga emsebenzini ofuna ukuba ube namandla, naphezu kokukhubazeka kwesifazane, kungaba nezizathu eziningi. Noma kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuqeda igama elithi "ukhathele": bheka nxazonke futhi ubone ukuthi impilo ihle, futhi ngesibonelo sayo, ukuzibonakalisa ukuthi yonke into ingashintshwa.
Kuthiwani uma ngigula ngakho konke?
Okokuqala, akukho into enjalo ukuthi konke kuyisicefe: into enhle empilweni ngempela into ongafuni neze ukuyenqaba: abazali, izilwane ezifuywayo, izinto zokuzilibazisa, ngisho nalawo maqabunga e-autumn aphuzi awela ngaphandle kwefasitela nezinyoni, ukukhala ekuseni, lapho wenza ikhofi - yenza ukuphila kube kuhle.
Ngakho-ke, into yokuqala okufanele uyenze uma ukuphila kukhwabanisa ukubandakanya ukunakekelwa nokugcina imvelo. Kuyadingeka ukuthi ushintshe kusuka ku-ego yakho eyalimala, echaza isimo esinjalo: "Kimi kubi, khona-ke impilo iyesabeka futhi iyangibamba."
Ukhathele ukuphila - yini okufanele uyenze?
Uma unesithukuthezi ngokuphila, khona-ke udinga ukwenza umsebenzi wengqondo kuwe, futhi, nalo, uqinise umzimba wakho, futhi ushintshe indlela yakho yokuphila kancane.
- Qaphela eduze, ufunde izindaba ezimnandi, ubukele ama-comedies. Ungazivumeli udangele, ungakhuthazi umbuso we-dreary: shintsha kulezi zinsuku emsebenzini odinga ukunakwa.
- Uma ukhathele isimiso, khona-ke udinga ukuletha ukuphila okuhlukahlukene: indlela elula yokwenza lokhu kungenxa yemihlangano nabangane abadala, ungabhalisela noma yiziphi izifundo ezithakazelisayo kuwe. Uma ukucindezeleka kunamandla ebusika, neqhwa lilele ngaphandle kwefasitela, bese ushayele umngane wakho omkhulu futhi uhambe ngeqaqa, sledding. Ungenza umehluko empilweni ngosizo lohambo oluya kwelinye idolobha: ukuvakashela izindawo ezithakazelisayo nokuphunyuka esimweni sakho.
- Uma konke okusheshayo kuthatha isithukuthezi, kusho ukuthi kudingeka uzithole. Lokhu kusesha akupheli ngempumelelo nhlobo, kodwa umphumela uyakufanele ukuzama. Cabanga, yikuphi umsebenzi ongakwenza ube nemizwa ejulile nenjabulo? Mhlawumbe kufanelekile ukuzama ukwenza i-yoga, noma ukuthunga, ukutadisha amasu okudweba nokubhala izithombe, noma mhlawumbe uhlale ubuthanda ukubhala futhi ungabeka indaba ethakazelisayo noma uhola ibhulogi elijabulisayo kuyi-intanethi? Zinike isikhathi sakho sokuthola isifundo ozithandayo okungenzeka kube ukubizwa kwakho.
- Futhi, isimo eside eside sokuphelelwa amandla angeke sibe nezizathu eziningi ezingokwengqondo njengezinto eziphilayo: ukuntuleka okuyisisekelo kwamavithamini (ikakhulukazi i-B-complex) engabangela isimo se-asthenic. Uma uzizwa unengxabano ehlala njalo, kufanele uxhumane ne-neurologist obeka ama-antidepressants, kepha akufanele ufake noma yiziphi izithemba ezikhethekile kuzo: amaphilisi anomphumela wesikhashana, futhi uma ungafundi ukubhekana nokucindezeleka ngokwakho, kuzodingeka uxhomeke emithini yemithi, futhi lokhu futhi, kungabangela ukucindezeleka.
- Uma ukhathele isizungu, okwenza uhlale ukhale, ngakho-ke, kuyinto efiselekayo ukuthola ukuthi ungumlingani wakho. Ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeke ukuthi, lapho esesondelene nomuntu, owesifazane usenomuzwa wokuthi uyedwa. Lokhu kwenzeka uma umuntu engenalo ukusondelana ngokomzwelo nanoma yimuphi umuntu ophilayo, ngakho into yokuqala okumele ukwenze ukuba nomngani. Kungaba isilwane noma umuntu, lowo omthandayo futhi obaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ubani onganika lolu thando.
- Uma ukhathele ukuqina, udinga ukuthola umuntu ongenawo ukukhombisa izici ezinamandla. Noma kunjalo, ukuze ube namandla kusho ukuthi ukhululekile, ngoba umuntu obuthakathaka uncike kuye. Ukungabaza okunjalo kubonisa ukuthi udinga uthando lomuntu, kanjalo
i-panacea kuphela ukuhlobana okuthembekile. - Uma ukhathele abantu, kufanelekile ukuthatha iholidi elifushane futhi ube yedwa. Uma unomndeni omkhulu - hamba ngesonto kwenye idolobha: phila ehhotela, hamba ukuyothenga, uya endaweni yokubuka indawo, funda izincwadi. Unelungelo lakho, ngakho-ke akukho lutho uma ushiyashika okwesikhashana kusuka endaweni ejwayele.
Wonke la maphuzu kunzima kakhulu ukusebenzisa, uma uthando lungahlali enhliziyweni yakho, ngakho-ke ukwelashwa okubaluleke kakhulu kokucindezeleka ukuthanda nokunika abanye uthando.