Izigaba ezintsha zokuphila ngokuvamile zihlanganisa isidingo sokuthuthukisa nokuthuthukisa, ukuthola ulwazi olusha namakhono, kungakhathaliseki uhlobo lomsebenzi. Futhi umuntu ophetheyo kufanele alungele izinto ezimangazayo ezihlukahlukene zokuphila, ikakhulukazi uma lokhu kumangala ukubuyisela emndenini.
Wonke umzali ucabanga ngokukhuliswa kwengane, mhlawumbe ngisho nangaphambi kokuzalwa kwakhe, kodwa akubona wonke umuntu owazi ukwenza kahle, ngoba zonke izingane zihluke ngokuphelele, ubuntu obuhlukile. Futhi indlela yokusebenza yokufundisa isakhamuzi esithile esincane ayisebenzi njalo kabili. Futhi kuthiwani ngalabo bazali abaye banquma ukutholwa kwengane, imikhuba nokuziphatha okwakhiwe kakade?
Kubonakala sengathi kunzima ukwenza lokho ocabanga ukuthi kuyadingeka? Uqala ukuzama ukungavumeli amaphutha kwabazali bakho, uhlaziye okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu kwabangane bese uzama ukwenza okuhlukile. Ngokuvamile lokhu akwanele. Futhi ungayithumela kanjani ingane ukuthi yini oyifunayo ngempela? Phela, uma unomusa kakhulu nengane, ungayiphatha kalula, futhi ukhule ingane engenasisekelo, "enzima". Ngokufanayo, ungakwazi ukunqoba ngokweqile, futhi phakade ulahlekelwe inhlonipho futhi uthembele kuwe. Futhi ukusola lokhu kuzoba nawe kuphela. Indlela kuphela yokuphuma ukufunda. Futhi esinye sezixazululo ezilula futhi "sesabelomali" ukuthenga incwadi ekukhuliseni izingane.
Ukufika esitolo, izibalo zigcwele izembozo ezihlukene kanye nezihloko ezithintekayo zezincwadi, zikhona eziningi zazo, ngoba iqiniso liyiloqobo. Kodwa ukuthi ungakhetha kanjani ngokuqondile lokho okudingayo, ukuthi ungathenga kanjani incwadi ezoba umlingani wakho kulokhu okungathandeki kuphela kodwa okubalulekile? Izindlela eziningi zisekelwe emibhalweni yesinyathelo ngesinyathelo esitshela indlela yokusebenza esimweni esinikeziwe. Kodwa akuwona wonke umuntu okwazi ukukholelwa umbhali futhi alandele ngokuyimfihlo i-algorithm. Ngaphezu kwalokho, iningi lamasu alisebenzi nje ngokusebenza, noma ahlathulula izinto ezivele zivele zisobala.
Izincwadi zikaPerelopativ zincwadi ngemfundo yabantwana, abalobi abahlukahlukene nabamemezeli, uyaqonda ukuthi kunzima kanjani ukuthola indlela esebenzayo ngempela.
Kodwa kwatholakala isisombululo. Incwadi eyenza ucabange, uthuthuke, futhi ebaluleke kakhulu: ukuthuthukisa umthwalo wakho siqu. Lokhu okubaluleke kakhulu. Ngokuvamile kunzima ukuphendula ngezenzo zabo ngaphambi kwengane, ngoba kulula kakhulu ukumvimbela noma yini, kodwa ngokushesha noma kamuva uzokuphinda. Abalobi bencwadi embukisweni kukhona abambalwa bakaJohn noKaren Miller, abazali bezingane eziyisikhombisa! Laba bantu bayazi ngokukhuliswa kwezingane hhayi ngezwi lokuzwa. Le ncwadi kulula ukufunda, iqukethe imibono ewusizo, izincomo ezilula kakhulu, futhi eziphumelelayo. Indlela yabalobi bencwadi ayibandakanyi izindlela zokukhulisa izingane, futhi ihloselwe ukuthuthukiswa komuntu siqu, okuzosiza ekuthuthukiseni amakhono awusizo ekukhuliseni izingane.
Incwadi ethi "Imithetho Yezinjabulo Ezijabulisayo" yayiyi-godsend kimi. Ihluke ngokuphelele kwezinye izincwadi zezingqikithi ezifanayo. Leli bhuku lizosiza ukuxazulula izinkinga eziningi (kubandakanya izinkinga zesikhathi eside) ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwabazali nezingane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ziningi kangakanani, ngoba akukaze kube yisikhathi sokufunda.
U-Andrew, uyise wezingane ezimbili.