Izinyembezi ziyindlela yokuzivikela yomzimba futhi zihamba nomuntu kusukela ngesikhathi sokuzalwa kwakhe kuze kube sekupheleni kokuphila. Izinyembezi nokukhalayo kuyindlela yokunciphisa ukucindezeleka okuye kwaqoqwa isikhathi eside futhi kulayishwa ngokomzwelo. Ngemuva kwalokho, sidinga ukukhala ngezikhathi ezithile futhi lokho kuvamile. Kodwa ukukhala nganoma yisiphi isisindo futhi ngokukhamuluka kokubi kakhulu, ngakho-ke kufanelekile ukucabanga ukuthi ungayeka kanjani ukumemeza nokukhala.
Ukuze uthole ukuthi ungashesha kanjani ukuyeka futhi ume ukukhala, kufanele uqale ukukhumbula ukuthi ezimweni eziningi, izinyembezi zosizi ngeke zisize.
Ungashesha kanjani futhi ungakhali?
Into yokuqala yokuyenza esimweni esinjalo ukuqeda imbangela yokukhala. Uma lokhu kungenakwenziwa, kufanele ubheke izindlela ezilandelayo:
- Ikhono lokuphefumula okujulile. Udinga ukuqala ukuqeqesha kusengaphambili, ngoba uma usebenzisa le nqubo phakathi nokukhala okukhulu, kungabangela isifo se-hyperventilation, esizoqinisa isimo somuntu. Okuyinhloko yendlela kanje: Ukuze uhlale phansi, umuntu kufanele athathe umoya ojulile (mhlawumbe ngekhala), ubambe umoya wakhe imizuzwana engu-7 futhi uphume kancane. Kumele kube khona ukuphefumula okuyisikhombisa nokuphefumula. Le nqubo izosiza hhayi kuphela ukuzola ngokushesha, kodwa futhi nokuthuthukisa ukujikeleza kwegazi nokulawula i-hyperventilation.
- Imicabango yethu ivame ukusishukumisa, siqala ukumemeza ngoba othile wenza okuthile okungalungile, njengoba sifuna, futhi sikhala ngoba i-negative iqoqa futhi idinga ukuthululela. Ukuze uqonde ukuthi ungashesha kanjani phansi ngesikhathi sokukhalazeka, kudingeka ufunde ukuthi ungalawula kanjani imicabango yakho. Kudingeka ukwazi ngokucacile ukuthi yimiphi imicabango
kuholele ekuhlaleni futhi ugweme. - Sebenzisa indlela ecacile. Uma kukulimaza futhi kukuhlunguphaze, uma izinyembezi zisuka emehlweni akho bese uziyeka, khona-ke uthatha iphepha bese ucabanga ngalo imbangela yokudabuka. Akudingekile ukuba ube umbhali noma umculi, akudingeki ubhale okuningi futhi uhlanganise noma udwebe isithombe. Ungabhala igama elilodwa ezincwadini ezinkulu, noma ungabhala konke ngokuningiliziwe, ungadonsa okuthile okuzokusiza ukuzola. Futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lapho uzolile, uzokwazi ukuhlaziya umdwebo noma incwadi yakho futhi uqonde ukuthi kungani ngaleso sikhathi uzizwa kabi kakhulu.
Uma ungeke ukwazi ukuzola , nqabe ukumemeza futhi kubonakala sengathi ukuhlupheka ngeke kuphele, yimise futhi ucabange: "Konke kudlula, futhi kuzodlula." Mhlawumbe namuhla kubonakala kuwe ukuphela kwezwe, kodwa kusasa kuzofika usuku olusha futhi le nkinga iyoba yinto esedlule.