Ngiyajabula kakhulu uma uhlele isicelo sakho ku-intanethi ngale ndlela, kodwa akazange ubhale, isibonelo "Ungamshaya kanjani umfana kusuka kumngane?" Kungani? Ngoba ungitshela lokhu: usuvele ungumuntu ovuthiwe futhi uqaphela ngokuphelele leli qiniso elilandelayo: abesilisa empilweni yakho bangaba yimizuzu eyishumi nambili, futhi umngane ozinikele, onomqotho ngempela isipho esivela ezulwini. Futhi izipho ezivela lapho, njengoba uyazi, zithululwa kithi, kakhulu kakhulu. Nokho, ku-ajenda sinesihloko esihluke ngokuphelele, okungukuthi, ukuthi singamshaya kanjani umfana kusuka kwenye.
Ngicabanga ukuthi lo mbuzo ukuhlupha ngesizathu. Mhlawumbe kwakukhona isikhathi lapho, ngenxa yalesi senye, wazizwa uchotshoziwe futhi uchithekile ukuthi ufuna nje ukungenelela efasiteleni futhi upheleleke - kokuba uke wafaka lokhu okunye, njenge-pose ye-goose, odongeni oluseduze.
Mhlawumbe, isinqumo esithi "Ngifuna ukudikibala isoka lakhe!" Uye wavela entanyeni yakho ngokungalindelekile kuwe. Noma-lokho nakho kungaba! - Wena nje ngempela, uthanda ngempela lo mfana othile. Ungakhathazeki! Sizokhuluma ngokuthi ungamshaya kanjani umfana - hhayi ngokuthi kungani unqume ukumshaya.
Ngakho, ingabe zikhona izindlela ezikhethekile zokuthola umfana? Angizange ngikubize hhayi ngezindlela, kodwa ngomzila wokuziphatha ocabangayo.
Okokuqala, gcina engqondweni ukuthi ukubukeka kwakho "Ukushaya umfana" kuyodlala indima encane kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, imicabango enjengokuthi "Ngizomthatha kule sidalwa esibi ngokubala okubili!" Akufanele kuvele esimweni sakho se-embryonic. Njengoba, ngempela, abanye - "Ngingawuthola kuphi ukuncintisana nobuhle obunjalo ..." Lokhu kuyisisekelo sokuqala nesisekelo okufanele ufunde.
Umthetho wesibili oyisisekelo nguMthetho wokuPhila okuPhakade. Ngisho ukuthini? Ukubuza umbuzo wokuthi ungamshaya kanjani umfana kusuka komunye, kunengqondo kuphela uma kwenzeka ngandlela-thile uthintana nalo mfana.
Zama ukushintshanisa izinombolo zefoni naye - futhi ungalindeli ukuthi abize kuqala. Mbize yena-ukukuhalalisela ngosuku lwakho lokuzalwa noma iholidi, ukuze uthole ukuthi izinto zikhona. Kodwa qiniseka ukuthi lezi zingxoxo zakho zingabambezeli, futhi ekuqaleni zazincane kakhulu - njengendlela yesimiso esheshayo, esicasulayo, umjovo.
Masizijwayele. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngaphezu kokuthanda kwakhe, izingcingo zakho zizojwayele futhi zidingeke ezingeni elingenakuqaphela. Uthi - linda isikhathi eside! Yebo, kunjalo. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi uzophatha ukumthatha ngesonto noma ngenyanga. Kodwa ngicabanga ukuthi unesithakazelo sokuthi ungamshaya kanjani umfana isikhathi eside, hhayi ukuthi ungamshaya kanjani umfana ubusuku obulodwa?
Uma ubona ukuthi uqale ukusekela izingcingo zakho, zibuze imibuzo futhi ube nesithakazelo ezindabeni zakho, uyeke ukumbiza futhi ulinde. Uma ungalindeli noma yiziphi izingcingo ezivela kuye, kuzodingeka uqale futhi. Uma ekubiza ukuba uthole ukuthi ngabe kwenzeka okuthile kuwe, wahamba eceleni komgwaqo onameva ngesikhombisi esithi " Ungamshaya kanjani umfana ngaphandle komunye," futhi ungaqhubeka.
Futhi ukunyakaza okuqhubekayo kuthatha ukuthi manje udinga ukuthobeka, kodwa ngokuqhubekayo uthatha impande ngemuva - okungukuthi, ebuhlotsheni bayo nomunye. Qala ngomusa umbuze imibuzo ngaye. Lalela ngokucophelela izimpendulo zakhe - ngisho nangezwi lakhe uzokwazi ukuqonda ukuthi uyamphatha kanjani nokuthi unamathele kangakanani.
Ungalokothi umgxeka futhi ungamtsheli lutho olubi ngaye. Ngokuphambene nalokho, mtshele ukuthi bahlangana kanjani nokuthi kuhle kangakanani ukuwabuka kusukela ohlangothini. Lona umthetho wesithathu oyisisekelo womsebenzi othi "Ungamshaya kanjani umfana", futhi ngingayibiza ngokuthi uMthetho Wokuphendula Okuhle.
Nokho, khumbula ukuthi wonke umbhangqwana nganoma yisiphi isikhathi izingxabano. Ngakho-ke, yiba nesineke futhi ulinde, lapho kufika leso sikhathi. Uzokutshela mayelana nokuxabana kwabo - uma nje uphumelele ezimeni zangaphambilini ze-marathon " Ungamshaya kanjani umfana kusuka kumphikisana naye."
Uma ekutshela ngalokhu efonini, mbuze ukuthi ufuna ukuhlangana ukukhuluma ngakho endaweni ekhululekile. Uma ngithi "ukuhlangabezana", ngisho ukuthi lo mhlangano, ngokufanele, akufanele kwenzeke endaweni yokudlala egcekeni lakho, kodwa ekhaya, lapho wena kanye naye ungasala yedwa.
Khumbula lokhu okulandelayo. Ukuzwa kuye ngokuphendula igama elithi "yebo", ungase ucabange ukuthi uzwile kuye inkulumo ethi "Ngingathanda ukuthi le ngxoxo ivele embhedeni." Kodwa akudingeki wenze leli phutha. Angisho umbhede. Umbhede wawuyikhasi lethu lokugcina, lokugcina lamacilongo emdlalweni othi "Ungamshaya kanjani umfana."
Lokho engifuna ukukusho, ungavumeli le ngxoxo ibe khona embhedeni. Mye akhulume, noma kuphi - ekhishini, emgodini, emgodini. Ukube bekungekho endaweni lapho uzomshaya khona ngokushaya.
Enye imininingwane ebaluleke kakhulu - ungamthinti uma nje ekhononda ngomunye. Ukuthinta kwakho ezingeni elingenakuqhathaniswa kamuva kuzokuhlanganiswa naye nenye. Ingabe udinga lokhu? Ufuna ukudambisa umfana kumunye, futhi ungamkhohlisi.
Kodwa lapho ephuma, prilaskay-priboglub, njengoba besho. Kancane kancane futhi uyithinte kalula - noma, njengokungathi ngendlela enobungane, wamukele kalula. Ngithembele, uzokulethela ukuba ulale ngokwakhe ...
Ngiyethemba ngempela ukuthi isikhumba sezimvu sasibiza kakhulu, futhi ngenxa yalokho awuzange uzibuze kancane futhi ucabange: "Awu, kungani kufanele ngenze lokho?"
Masiqhubekele phambili - umgomo, owenziwe ngokuthi "Indlela yokushaya umfana ngaphandle komunye" awungakapheli, futhi izinyathelo zokugcina, njengokujwayelekile, zingaba nzima kakhulu. Funda ngokucophelela lokho engizobhala ngakho.
Qiniseka ukuthi uphume embhedeni kuqala. Isizathu esingcono kakhulu salokhu ukunikela ukuze umlethe ugwayi noma into yokuphuza. Ungalindeli ukuhamba ngaphambi kwakhe uhamba, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umzimba wakho ujabulise kangakanani. Futhi ungenzi iphutha lokumcela ukuthi ungayiphonsa ihembe lakhe - izindlela zethu zokuphikisa lo mfana aziboneli lutho olunjalo.
Ngiyazi ukuthi kuyoba yinto engathandeki kakhulu kuwe ukwazi lokhu okulandelayo - kodwa, noma kunjalo, ngizokutshela lokhu. Okokuqala nokucatshangwa kuphela ukuthi uvele ekhanda lakhe ngokushesha ngemva kokuba "ngemuva" kungumqondo wakhe, okungukuthi, okunye. Futhi isifiso esinamandla kakhulu kulowo mzuzu uzoba nesifiso sokuthi sishabalale ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka - uma kwenzeka umhlangano endlini yakho, noma ngokushesha uma kungenzeka ukukulahla - uma uhlangana endlini yakhe.
Ngakho-ke, vuka, ugqoke (awukwazi ukulala naye futhi namuhla), umlethe ugwayi noma ingilazi ngento enhle kakhulu futhi uhlale emaphethelweni embhedeni. Okokuqala, umcele ukuthi angatsheli lutho - ngoba awufuni ukumlimaza. Yikholelwa ukuthi bayoba kahle - uqinisekile nje. Mtshele ukuthi uma efuna ukuba umngane wakho,
Ngamanye amazwi - menze azi ukuthi isiqephu sesikhathi sokulala asinandaba nawe. Uzobuya futhi - futhi uzobuya ukuze aphinde ahlale nawe embhedeni, futhi hhayi ukuxoxa ngezinkinga zabo nomunye.
Ingabe lokhu kusho ukuthi izinyathelo ezibalulwe ngenhla zizokusiza ukuba uphumelele emncintiswaneni "Ungamshaya kanjani umfana kusuka kwenye"? Cishe ngokuqinisekile - yebo. Kungani "cishe"? Uyabona, kuyini inkinga. Ngemuva kwalokho konke, ngaphezu kwendlela ethi "Ungamshaya kanjani umfana", kukhona ukuhlanekezela - "Indlela yokugcina umfana." Futhi uma umphikisi wakho ekwazi kahle kangcono kunakho - wakhe ... Kodwa lokhu kungenye ingxoxo nesihloko esinye.