Emphakathini wethu, inkinga yokuzibulala inzima kakhulu. Emhlabeni, njalo imizuzwana emibili othile uzama ukuzibulala, futhi njalo ngemizuzwana engu-20 umuntu ufeza umgomo wabo obunzima. Abantu abayi-1,100,000 ngonyaka bafa ngokuqondile ngoba abasafuni ukuhlala futhi bazibeke izandla. Kuyinto engavamile, kodwa inani labantu abafa ngokuzibulala lingaphezu kwenani elibulewe empini. Naphezu kwayo yonke imisebenzi yomphakathi ekuvimbeleni ukuzibulala, kuze kube yilapho ukunciphisa okukhulu kulezi zinkomba kungalungiswa.
Izimbangela zokuzibulala
Ngokwezibalo ezisemthethweni zomhlaba, izizathu zokuzibulala zihlanganisa izinto ezingaphezu kuka-800 ezihlukene. Ukubiza kakhulu kunabo bonke, sithola izibalo ezilandelayo:
- 41% - isizathu esingaziwa;
- 19% - ukuzibulala kufe ngenxa yokwesaba ukujeziswa;
- 18% - abantu abazibulalayo bangabantu abagulayo ngokwengqondo;
- 18% - abantu abazinikele emhlabathini;
- 6% - abantu abazibulala ngenxa yazo zonke izinhlobo zezinkanuko;
- 3% - abantu abangakwazi ukusinda ekulahlekelweni kwemali noma impahla;
- 1.4% ngabantu abondliwa ngokuphila;
- 1,2% - abantu abafunde ngesifo esibi kakhulu (ingculaza, umdlavuza).
Ezimweni eziningi, abantu ngokwabo abazi ukuthi kungani banquma ukushiya izimpilo zabo, yingakho okwezinye izizathu ezisele kungabonakaliswa.
Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi ama-80% ezokuzibulala azithuthukisa ngandlela-thile ngenye indlela banike abanye ukuthi baqonde izinhloso zabo, naphezu kwezindlela ezimboziwe kakhulu. Kodwa abantu abangu-20% bashiya impilo ngokuzumayo. Ngokuthakazelisayo, ama-80% abantu abazibulala bazama ukuzibulala.
Uthando nokuzibulala
Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi ukuthambekela kokuzibulala kuhlobene ngokungahambisani nokuthanda okungathandeki. Nokho, lokhu akunjalo ngempela. Emaqembu ahlukene ahlukene, izimbangela ziyahluka kakhulu. Isibonelo, uma intsha engaphansi kweminyaka engama-16 yothando olungenakuqhathaniswa yakha cishe ingxenye yezo zonke izimbangela zokuzibulala, khona-ke abantu abangaphezu kuka-25 lesi sizathu kungenye yezinkinga.
Kuyinto esemncane, lapho izingane ziphupha kakhulu ngothando, kuba yisizathu esanele sokungaqhubeki phambili. Ikakhulukazi lokhu kusebenza kulabo abesilisa namantombazane abo ukuzibulala kubonakala njengenye yezindlela zokufakazela okuthile kubazali, abangane noma into yothando.
Ngesizathu esithile, lapho useneminyaka eyishumi nambili, ukuzwa kokuqala kwentsha kubonakala sengathi kuyedwa kuphela, futhi ungayinaki iqiniso lokuthi ezimweni eziningi uthando lokuqala luphela ngempumelelo. Kusukela kulokhu, abantu abasha namantombazane baqala ukukholelwa ukuthi esikhathini esizayo balinde ukuhlupheka, nakuba empeleni, uthando lokuqala lukhohliwe masinyane: luvame ukuqhubeka ngesikhathi sesikoleni, nokuningi kwezigameko ezalandela, ezifana nemfundo ephakeme nokuseshwa komsebenzi, ukwehluleka kwangaphambilini.
Ubani ozimisele ukuzibulala?
Isimo sokuzibulala ngokuyinhloko sibonakala kulabo ababhekana nezinguquko ekulahlekelweni isimo sabo sangaphambili senhlalakahle noma izimo zokuphila, njll. Inani eliphezulu lokuzibulala lafunyanwa phakathi kwamaqembu alandelayo:
- izikhulu ezifudumele;
- amasosha amancane;
- waboshwa;
- abahola impesheni yamuva;
- izidakamizwa ezidakamizwa;
- abantu abakhubazekile;
- ukugula ngokwengqondo;
- izidakamizwa ezingapheli (ngendlela, izidakamizwa zenza ingxenye yesithathu yazo zonke ukuzibulala).
Ngokusobala, lezi zigaba zabantu zicabanga ukuthi emva kokuzibulala ziyoba ngcono kunezimo lapho zikhona manje. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isimo somuntu sibalulekile: ishadile futhi ishadile cishe alisoze lazibulala, elingenakutsholwa ngalabo abasinda ekulahlekelweni komlingani noma abangazange bamhlangabeze nhlobo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, lapho kufana nokulingana phakathi kwezinga lemfundo kanye nezinga lokuzibulala, kwavela ukuthi labo abaye bafunda eyunivesithi babengenakwenzeka ukuba bazibulale. Kodwa labo abanezemfundo yesibili engapheli, banesifiso esikhulu ezintweni ezilimazayo.