Kungani kungqubuzana phakathi kwabazali nezingane?

Bonke abazali babheke phambili ekuzalweni kwengane yabo. Bazama ukumzungeza ngothando nokukhathalela, banikeze sonke isikhathi sabo kuye futhi batshale kuye konke okubheka ukuthi kuyadingeka. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, ngemva kwesikhashana, lapho umntwana ekhula, izingxabano zivela ngokungenakuphika emndenini.

Ngokuvamile lesi simo sibeka abazali abasha ezincane. Umama nobaba abazi ukuthi baziphathe kanjani nezingane ezikhulile, futhi baqhubekisele phambili isimo ngesenzo sabo esingalungile. Kulesi sihloko, sizokutshela ukuthi kungani kunezingxabano emndenini phakathi kwabazali nezingane, nokuthi zingalungiswa kanjani.

Izimbangela zezingxabano phakathi kwabazali nezingane

Ngokuqinisekile zonke izingxabano phakathi kwabantu abasondelene zivela ngokungaqondani. Ingane encane, engakafinyeleleki iminyaka engama-2-3, iqala ukuzibona njengomuntu ohlukile futhi izama ukufakazela ngawo wonke amandla akhe ukuthi ikwazi ukwenza izinqumo zayo futhi yenza izenzo ezithile ngaphandle kosizo kanina. Ngesikhathi esifanayo kuvela ukuthi akahlali ngaso sonke isikhathi, okuvame ukubangela intukuthelo kubazali.

Ekukhuleni, izingane zinenkinga efanayo. Abantu abasha kanye namantombazane bafuna ukuzihlukanisa nabazali babo ngokushesha, abangabheka ingane yabo ingane encane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umama nobaba bakhathazeka ngokweqile ngomsebenzi wabo futhi banikeza inzalo yabo isikhathi esinganele, okuyinto esikhathini esizayo futhi ngokuvamile kubangelwa ukuxabana komndeni kanye namahlazo.

Abaningi bezengqondo zezokwelapha babona izimbangela ezilandelayo zokungqubuzana phakathi kwabazali nezingane:

• izici zeminyaka, noma izinkinga zengqondo;
• ukungabikho ukunakekelwa noma i- hyperope evela kubazali;
• ukuhlukumeza ngokweqile zombili zombili, ukungathandi ukulalela i-interlocutor;
• ukungamukeleki kombono weqembu eliphikisayo;
• ukungafani kwemibono empilweni, ebonakala ngokuphawulekayo ebusheni;
• ukukhathala ngokweqile kwabazali, "ukukhipha" emsebenzini nakwezinye izinto ezingahlobene nokuphila kwengane.

Yiqiniso, kungaba nzima kakhulu ukuphuma kule nkinga. Ikakhulu uma kwenzeka abazali nabantwana behileleke empini, nabanye abantu, isibonelo, ugogo. Ngokuvamile kulesi simo, igunya lomama nobaba emehlweni endodana noma indodakazi yabo linciphile kakhulu, ngenxa yokuthi akunakwenzeka ukufeza imigomo ethile yemfundo.

Naphezu kwalokhu, abazali abasha kudingeka bazame ukuxazulula impikiswano ngokushesha. Ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga ukuhlala unokuthula ngangokunokwenzeka, ufunde ukulalela ingane yakho futhi uthathe ubukeka obuseduze kakhulu empilweni yakhe yokuphila, imibono kanye nokuthandayo.

Ezimweni ezinzima, lapho yonke imizamo yabazali yokwakha ubudlelwane nengane yabo ihluleka, umuntu angaya kumculi wezokwelapha ozosiza ukudala i-microclimate enhle emndenini futhi athole ulimi olufanayo ezinhlangothini ezimbili eziphikisanayo.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuzo zonke izimo kuyadingeka ukuba ukhokhe ngokukhethekile ukuvimbela kwengxabano phakathi kwabazali nezingane, ngoba ukuphikisana nokungaqondi kahle kulula ukuvimbela kunokulungisa esikhathini esizayo. Izakhi eziyinhloko zalesi siqondiso zilandelayo:

• ukwanda okuqhubekayo ezingeni lokuthuthukiswa kwabazali, ukucwaninga ngezici zeminyaka yengane;
• ukwakheka kwemikhuba yokuzilibazisa yomndeni;
• ukuhlukaniswa kwemithwalo yemfanelo ekhaya phakathi kwamama, ubaba nezingane ezikhulile;
• ukwakha isimo esicacile ekukhuliseni umntwana;
• ukuxhumana okuphoqelekile kwabantu abadala nomntwana, bajwayele izwe lakhe langaphakathi.