Kubazali, izingane zizohlala zingenalwazi, zidinga izeluleko nokusekelwa. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngamunye wethu ufika kulokhu futhi uyithatha kalula, ikakhulukazi emva kokuzalwa kwezingane zethu. Kodwa kukhona empilweni nesikhathi lapho uqhubeka ufuna ukuxazulula yonke into ngokwakho, ukuthakazelisa ekukhuleni kwakho nasekuzimele. Yebo, yebo, sikhuluma ngenkathi enzima kunazo zonke futhi enesisindo - intsha.
Njengoba izingane zikhula, abazali banezizathu eziningi zokukhathazeka, ikakhulukazi, ukuvela kokuphila komuntu siqu ezinganeni zabo: i-languid ihamba ngaphansi kwenyanga kuze kube sekuhlwa, ukuhamba okuhambayo nokuzingeza emnyango nokunye. Abazali bamantombazane bakhathazekile ikakhulukazi, okuyisisekelo, okungenasisekelo.
Hhayi, uma indodakazi yakho ingabangane nabangani bakho - lesi sithombe neso siyazijwayele, futhi ngokujwayelekile uyathula. Kodwa uma izinto zihluke kakhulu futhi indodakazi yakho ihlangana nomuntu omdala ngisho nendoda? Ukusabela kokuqala kweningi labazali ezindabeni ezinjalo kuzoba nokuthula. Ubuchopho obunzima "ngokusizayo" budweba izithombe, lapho umuntu engaziwa esilingwa khona kuzo zonke izindaba zomalume ophilayo ephuca igazi. Kodwa ungagxumi eziphethweni futhi ungenzi "ukunyakaza okuzumayo". Izenzo ezimbi zokuhlukumezeka ngeke nje zisize ukuxazulula le nkinga, kodwa futhi zithinta kakhulu ubuhlobo bakho nendodakazi yakho.
Amathiphu kubazali bamadodakazi
Sinikeza izincomo eziningana ukukusiza ukuxazulula isimo:
- Akekho owamnqabela ukuba ahlangane nomuntu akhethiwe ngendlela ehlelekile - into kuphela oyoyifinyelela ngale ndlela iwukuba uhambele ingane ngokumelene naye;
- khuluma nendodakazi yakho ngokukhululekile, ngayo yonke inhlobo yakho, imizwelo, ithoni, ukukwazisa ukuthi unobungane. Ngendlela ehlakaniphile, zama ukuthola imibuzo ekukhathazayo kakhulu, isibonelo, ubude babo "buye" kangakanani.
- zama ukuthola umngane wakho umngane, bese uthola iseluleko uzofika kuwe, hhayi kumantombazane afanayo angenalutho. Msekele futhi akukho nhlobo ungamangazi noma uphazamise ngokuhlambalaza emoyeni: "Ngikutshele";
- khuluma naye ngokuphila kocansi, uma ungakwenzi lokhu ngaphambili. Uyomangala, kodwa esikhathini sethu se-intanethi nokufinyelela okungenamkhawulo kolwazi, amantombazane amaningi akholelwa yizinganekwane ezithandwayo mayelana nobulili nokukhulelwa , njengokuthi "kusukela okokuqala kungenzeki lutho" njalo njalo. Uma iqiniso lokulala ngokobulili seluvele lwenzekile, ungenzi lokhu kube yingozi, kungcono ukuthatha intombazane ku-gynecologist ukuhlolwa kokuqala kokuvimbela ;
- zama ukuthola ukuthi kungani indodakazi yakhe ishukunyiswa - ngokuvamile ezwa ngaphansi kokuzizwa kokuqala okukhulu, ethathwe intsha ephakanyisiwe ngenxa yothando, izifiso ezilula ziyilo, njengokuthi "impindiselo" yangaphambili, ukubonisa abangane. Uma intombazane ikhulile emndenini ongaphelele, kungenzeka ukuthi kumuntu omdala uyobheka ubaba ngokungazi, ethola kulezi zinsuku ukunakekelwa nothando elahlekile ebuntwaneni;
- Zama ukwazi umngane wendodakazi yakho - ifomu elibucayi, zama ukuthola izinhloso zakhe. Ungabonisi ukuhlukumeza okusobala futhi ungaceli ukushiya indodakazi yakho yedwa.
Khumbula ukuthi okwamanje lo muntu ungaphansi, futhi mhlawumbe ngisho nakwezinga elikude kakhulu kunakho, ngakho-ke, izinhlelo zakho akufanele zibandakanye izingxabano naye; - uma umuntu eya othintana naye - lokhu kakade isibonakaliso esihle. Kungenzeka ukuthi awunawo umehluko omkhulu weminyaka, leli qiniso lingathinta kakhulu ukusungulwa koxhumana naye ngisho nobuhlobo obunobungane naye;
- ucacise ukuthi kungenzeka ukuba nemihlangano ekhaya, ikakhulukazi uma indodakazi yakho inendawo yokuhlala - makabe ngcono futhi "ngaphansi kokuqondisa";
- futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - ungakhathazeki! Ubudlelwano bobulili obuhlukile buyisigaba esibalulekile ekukhuleni.