Akuyona ize, abazali abaningi bayesaba ukuthi ingane izofinyelela nini ekukhuleni. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, abafana namantombazane abasengozini kakhulu. Kwenzeka ukuthi ukuphazamiseka kwenzeke esenzweni esincane kakhulu, izinzwa zihlale zihlushwa, futhi ukuphathwa kwemizwa yabo nokuziphatha kwabo akunakwenzeka. Ukungaqondi kahle okuncane, inkinga encane - kanti intsha iphenduka intaba-mlilo, abazali nabazali abahlukumezayo, kanye nabafundisi kanye nabo ekilasini endleleni yabo. Yiziphi izimbangela zokucindezeleka ezinganeni zanamuhla? Ungalungisa kanjani isimo? Ake siyiqonde.
Izingozi Zezingozi
Izimbangela zokucindezeleka ezinganeni ngesikhathi sokukhula zihlukene kakhulu kangangokuthi akunakwenzeka ukuzibala. Intukuthelo efihliwe noma evulekile, izinkinga ezinkulu, izimo ezibucayi (kokubili okungokoqobo nokucabanga), ukubonakaliswa kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo lobudlova kubantu abasha - konke lokhu kungabangela ukucindezeleka ebusheni. Uma umuntu omdala onesivunguvungu esivuthiwe ezwa lokhu ngokuzithoba, ingane ingenwa ngaphakathi noma ukucindezeleka okubangela ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo.
Kusukela eneminyaka eyishumi nambili umzimba womntwana ufunda ukubhekana nesiphepho samahomoni, okuvame ukubonakalisa ukuhlupheka kwengqondo ngisho nokugula ngokomzimba. Abazali bentsha kuyadingeka ukuthi bamfundise ukulawula imizwelo, ukuyilawula, okuqinisekisa ukubunjwa kobuntu obumbene futhi obuvumelanayo.
Uma ubona izimbangela ezivame kakhulu zokucindezeleka kwentsha, cishe kuzoba:
- ukunganeliseki ngemininingwane yabo yangokwenyama (isisindo, ukuphakama, ukubukeka, ukunganaki, ubuthakathaka, njll);
- isimo emndenini (izingxabano, ubudlova, ukufa komuntu othandekayo, isahlukaniso, ukulwa, ukuphuza utshwala);
- ubudlelwane nabalingani nabo ekilasini nabothisha (ukuphikisana, izidingo ezithintekayo, ushintsho lwesikole, ukungabi khona kwenqubekela phambili, ukungabi nabangane);
- uthando (kokubili olusabelayo nokungapheli);
- izinto zokuzilibazisa eziyingozi (ukuzibandakanya ezinhlobonhlobo ezihlukahlukene, izidakamizwa, utshwala ).
Ukuhlala isikhathi eside esimweni esinjalo sengqondo somuntu osemusha ugcwele izinkinga ezinkulu, ngakho abazali kufanele bazi indlela yokuqeda ukucindezeleka kwengane bese bembuyisela ekuphileni okuvamile.
Izimpawu
Kufanele uthathe isinyathelo uma uthola izimpawu ezilandelayo zokucindezeleka enganeni yakho:
- ukungabi nokulala okungapheli, ukukhathala, ukwanda nokwehla kwesifiso, ukulala, ukunganaki;
- ukuhlukaniswa kwabazali, abangane, ukuhlukaniswa;
- ukuguquka okubukhali kwemizwa;
- ukwehla kokuzihlonipha;
- ukungabi nokukhathalela;
- ukulutha ugwayi, utshwala, izidakamizwa;
- nesithakazelo ngokweqile ekulahlekelweni kwesisindo.
Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi isikhathi eside ukucindezeleka ngokuvamile kubangelwa ukuwohloka empilweni yangokwenyama. Ukucindezeleka kwengane, ngisho nokushisa kungavuka! Ososayensi baye bafakazela ukuthi umuntu omdala osekhulile, esesimweni eside eseseminyakeni yobudala ubudala, uvame ukugula, futhi ukuzivikela kwakhe kuncipha kakhulu. Yini esingayisho mayelana nokuwohloka kwempilo yengqondo? Intombazane ayikwazi ukucabanga nganoma yini enye ngaphandle kwenkinga yakhe, ihlale ifuna indlela yokuphuma. Yebo, uma itholakala, ngoba ezikhathini zamuva, ukuzibulala phakathi kwentsha sekuye kwaba yize.
Ukulwa nokucindezeleka nokuvimbela kwawo
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Okusemandleni okuvikela ukucindezeleka ezinganeni uthando, ukunakekelwa, ukuqonda, ukunakekelwa, ubudlelwane obethembayo. Intombazane enethemba lokuthi izihlobo kunoma yisiphi isimo zizosekela, ungabuyeli, usize, zivikelwe ekucindezelekeni ngesihlangu esithembekile esibizwa ngokuthi "umndeni"!