Ngesikhathi sokukhula, ukubaluleka okuyinhloko kutholakala ohlelweni lobuhlobo nemvelo ezungezile nezenhlalakahle, okuzokwenza ukuthi kube nokuqondiswa kwengqondo yentuthuko yengane. Ukubonakaliswa kwentsha kunqunywa ngezimo ezithile zomphakathi kanye nokushintsha indawo yentsha emphakathini. Osemusha ungene ebuhlotsheni obusha nezwe elidala futhi, ngenxa yalokho, isikhundla sakhe somphakathi emndenini, esikoleni, ekushintsheni komgwaqo. Emndenini, unikezwa imisebenzi eminingi enomthwalo wemfanelo, futhi yena uzama ukwenza imisebenzi eminingi "yabantu abadala," ukukopisha ukuziphatha kwabakwa-comrades asebekhulile. Okushiwo yombono wendawo yemvelo yomphakathi kuhlanganisa ngokuphelele ubuhlobo obusungulwa emphakathini, imibono kanye nemigomo ehlose ukuthuthukiswa komuntu ngamunye. Ukuxhumana emphakathini wezenhlalakahle, intsha ihlakulela ngenkuthalo imigomo, imigomo kanye nendlela yokuziphatha, ukuthuthukisa indlela yokuhlola yona kanye nabanye.
Imvelo yomphakathi yabasha - uhlelo
| Intsha | |
|---|---|
| 〖 ngoLwesithathu olulandelayo (umndeni, izihlobo, abangane, ofunda nabo) | ↘ imvelo ende ende (omakhelwane, abezindaba, i-Inthanethi, abafundi besikole) |
| ↓ kunomthelela oqondile (ukuxhumana, ingxoxo, izenzo, isibonelo somuntu siqu) | ↓ unomphumela ongaqondile (amahemuhemu, ukudluliselwa, izenzo) |
Ngaphansi kwezimo ezijwayelekile esikoleni nasekhaya, indawo elandelayo inegalelo elikhulu ezenzweni, emicabangweni nasekubukeni kwentombazane: ulalela imibono yabazali, uxhumane kahle nabangani. Uma intombazane ingatholi ukuqonda phakathi kwabantu abasendaweni eseduze, imvelo ede kakhulu (izwe labantu abangabazi) ingaba nethonya elikhulu engqondweni, ekubukeni nasekuziphatheni kwentsha kunabantu abavela kwimbuthano yangaphakathi. Okuqhubekayo kusukela ebusheni kunombuthano wenkhulumomphendvulwano, kungaphansi kokuthembela kuwo. Abazali noma isikole, okungesizathu esithile sokungathembeki kwentombazane, bangaphezu kombuthano wokwethemba kwakhe.
Umthelela wendawo yezenhlalakahle ezinganeni
Izazi zengqondo zithi ukuxhomeka kwengane ekukhulekeleni kwentando yeningi kubonakala sengathi kungenzeka. Ngezo zonke izenzo zakhe nezenzo zakhe, le ntsha isuselwe emphakathini.
Ngenxa yesikhundla nokuqashelwa, intsha ingenza imihlatshelo yokuphazamiseka, ingene phakathi kwabantu abaseduze, ishintshe amanani abo.
Imvelo yomphakathi ingathonya ingane, kokubili okuhle nokubi. Izinga lomthelela wendawo yemvelo kuxhomeke ekugunyazweni kwabahlanganyeli kanye nentsha ngokwayo.
| Umthelela omuhle | Ithonya elibi |
|---|---|
| • Ezemidlalo, ukuhlanganyela ezintweni zomphakathi, ukuzijabulisa okusha; | Ukuthola imikhuba emibi (ukubhema, utshwala); |
| • ukusungulwa kobudlelwane obuhle; | • ukuzuza nokuthuthukiswa kwezimfanelo zomuntu siqu; |
| • ukuzuza nokuthuthukiswa kwezimfanelo zomuntu siqu; | • ukulingisa abaholi abangahlelekile; |
| • Ukuthuthukiswa kwezifundo. | • ukuwohloka kwezifundo. |
Ithonya lokukhulumisana nabangane bakho kwentsha
Ekhuluma ngethonya lemvelo yomphakathi ekwakheni ubuntu nokuziphatha komuntu osemusha, umuntu kufanele acabangele okuqondene nokuxhumana nabangane bakhe.
Ukuxhumana kubalulekile ngezizathu eziningana:
- umthombo wolwazi;
- ubudlelwane bomphakathi;
- ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo.
Ukubonakaliswa kwangaphandle kokuziphatha okukhulumisana kusekelwe ekuphikisaneni: ngakolunye uhlangothi intombazane ifuna ukuba "njengabo bonke abanye," futhi kwenye, kuzo zonke izindleko, ifuna ukuma nokuvelela.
Ithonya lokukhulumisana nabazali abasha
Ekukhuleni, inqubo yokukhululwa kwentsha evela kubazali iqala futhi izinga elithile lokuzimela lifinyelelwa. Esikhathini sokuguquka, ukuthembela ngokomzwelo kubazali kuqala ukucabangela ingane, futhi ufuna ukwakha uhlelo olusha lobuhlobo, okuzoba phakathi kwalo. Abantu abasha benza uhlelo lwabo lokuziphatha, okuvame ukuhluke kakhulu kulokho abazali abakuthandayo. Ngenxa yolwazi oluhlangene nolwazi, intsha isidingo esibalulekile sokuqaphela ubuntu bakhe nendawo yakhe phakathi kwabantu.
Ukusiza ingane ukuba ivumelane ngokuphumelelayo nomphakathi, imvelo esheshayo kufanele iguquguquke futhi ihlakaniphe.