Ukuphila komuntu wonke akukhona nje injabulo kanye nezikhathi ezijabulisayo, kodwa futhi nezenzakalo ezibuhlungu, ukudumazeka, izifo nokulahlekelwa. Ukuze wamukele konke okwenzekayo, udinga amandla , udinga ukubona ngokwanele futhi ubone isimo. Ezingqondweni, kunezigaba ezinhlanu ekutholeni ukugwema okungenakugwemeka, ngawo wonke umuntu odlulayo onenkinga enzima empilweni yakhe.
Lezi zigaba zakhiwe yi-American psychologist Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, owayenesithakazelo esihlokweni sokufa kusukela ebuntwaneni futhi wayefuna indlela efanele yokufa. Kamuva, wachitha isikhathi esiningi nabantu abafayo abafa, ebasiza ngokwengqondo, belalela ukuvuma kwabo, njll. Ngo-1969, wabhala incwadi ethi "Ukufa Nokubulala," okwaba yithengisa kakhulu ezweni lakubo futhi abafundi abafunda ngakho ngezigaba ezinhlanu zokufa, kanye nezinye izenzakalo ezingenakugwemeka nezesabekayo ekuphileni. Futhi azikhulumi nje kuphela kumuntu oshonile noma umuntu osesimweni esinzima, kodwa nezihlobo zakhe ezibhekana nalesi simo naye.
Izinyathelo ezingu-5 ekwenzeni okungenakugwemeka
Lokhu kufaka:
- Yeka . Umuntu wenqaba ukukholelwa ukuthi lokhu kwenzeka kuye, futhi uthemba ukuthi leli phupho elimbi lizophela. Uma kungumbuzo wokuxilongwa okubulalayo, khona-ke ukholelwa ukuthi kuyiphutha futhi ufuna ezinye imitholampilo nodokotela ukuphikisa. Vala abantu basekela ukuhlupheka kukho konke, ngoba nabo, benqaba ukukholelwa ekupheleni okungenakugwemeka. Ngokuvamile baphuthelwa isikhathi, behlehlisela ukwelashwa okudingekayo futhi bavakashele abashika-fortune-tellers, psychics, baphathwa ama-phytotherapeutists, njll. Ubuchopho bomuntu ogulayo abukwazi ukubona ulwazi ngokungaqiniseki kokuphela kokuphila.
- Intukuthelo . Esigabeni sesibili sokwamukelwa komuntu ongenakugwemeka okuvuthayo okuvutha ukuthuka nokuzizwela. Abanye baqala ukuthukuthela futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi babuza: "Kungani ngikhona? Kungani lokhu kwenzeka kimi? "Vala abantu nabo bonke abanye, ikakhulukazi odokotela, babe izitha ezimbi kunazo zonke abangafuni ukuqonda, abafuni ukuphulukisa, abafuni ukulalela, njll. Kule nkathi ukuthi umuntu angaxabana nazo zonke izihlobo zakhe bese ebhala izikhalazo ngodokotela. Uyakhathazeka yibo bonke - ukuhleka abantu abanempilo, izingane nabazali abaqhubeka bephila futhi bexazulula izinkinga zabo ezingamkhathazi.
- Ukuxoxisana noma ukuxoxisana . Ezingu-3 kwezinyathelo ezingu-5 zokwenza umuntu ongenakugwemeka azame ukuxoxisana noNkulunkulu ngokwakhe noma amanye amandla aphezulu. Emithandazweni yakhe, uyamthembisa ukuthi uzozilungisa, enze lokhu noma lokho, ngokubuyisela impilo noma enye inzuzo ebalulekile kuye. Kule nkathi lapho abaningi beqala ukuhlanganyela e-charity, bashesha ukwenza imisebenzi emihle futhi banesikhathi sokukwenza okungenani okuncane kulokhu kuphila. Abanye banezibonakaliso zabo siqu, isibonelo, uma iqabunga lomuthi liwela ezinyaweni zalo ohlangothini olungenhla, izindaba ezinhle zilinde, futhi uma kubi, ke phansi.
- Ukucindezeleka . Ezimweni ezine zokwamukela umuntu ongenakugwemeka kungena ekucindezelekeni . Izandla zakhe zidonsa, ukunganakwa nokukhathazeka kukho konke kuvela. Umuntu ulahlekelwa injongo yokuphila futhi angenza imizamo yokuzibulala. Abasondelene nabo bakhathele ukulwa, nakuba bengase bangaboni.
- Ukwamukelwa . Esigabeni sokugcina, umuntu uthola okungenakugwemeka, uyayamukela. Abantu abagulayo ababulalayo balindela ngokuzethemba bese bethandazela ukufa. Baqala ukucela intethelelo ezihlotsheni zabo, beqaphela ukuthi ukuphela kuseduze. Esimweni sezinye izenzakalo ezimbi ezingahlobene nokufa, ukuphila kufaka inkambo evamile. Ihlalisa phansi nabathandekayo, beqaphela ukuthi akukho lutho olungashintshwa kakade futhi konke okungenziwa kwenziwe kakade.
Kumele ngithi akuzona zonke izigaba ezenzeka kule oda. Ukulandelana kwabo kungahluka, futhi ubude buxhomeke emandleni e-psyche.