Ukuveza imibono ezindabeni zokuphila kuyisibonakaliso somphakathi wentando yeningi, kodwa kubalulekile ukuguqula zonke izindlela zokuziphendulela emibhalweni ephakade nokuthi kuzokwenzekani eminyakeni eyi-100 uma sibonisa isimo sengqondo "esingavumelani" nesisekelo sezindinganiso zomndeni-ukuzalwa nokukhuliswa kwezingane. Kuyini lokhu okungenakho ingane - ukukhetha amanani akho noma isicupho?
Childfree - ngubani lo?
Izinganefree ngabantu abaneminyaka yobudala abaqaphele ukuthi banqume ukuthi bangabi nabantwana futhi bakhe impilo ngokusekelwa inkululeko yabo. Uma ubeka kahle ukuthi ubani ongenaye ingane, kufanele uqonde ukuthi abafakiwe kubantu abangenayo impilo yabo yokubeletha ingane noma labo abayeka ukuzalwa kwengane iminyaka embalwa ngenxa yezizathu ezithile. I-Childfree yenza ukhetho - ukwenqaba ukuqhubeka ibe yinto ephakade, ngezinye izikhathi kubonisa isikhundla sayo, besebenzisa izindlela eziningi zokuvimbela ukukhulelwa - ukwenza inzalo.
Izinganefree - umkhuba wesikhathi noma ukuphambuka?
Ukuthuthukiswa komphakathi kusekelwe ekuqhubekeni komndeni. Okuhlangenwe nakho okutholakalayo ngaphezu kweminyaka ngokuvamile kuvunyelwe isizukulwane esincane ngezindlela ezisheshayo ezindabeni ezifundwayo. Ukubeletha nokukhulisa izingane kungenye yezimfuno zomuntu futhi ukuthuthukiswa kwe-backgammon ngayinye kwakha ngendlela evamile yomphakathi. Njengoba kuvela inqubo yokukhululwa, ukunyakaza okusha kakhulu - indlela yokuntuleka kwezingane - kwakhiwa. Kwabaningi abantu abahlukumezeka ngokwengqondo, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda izizathu zalesi sikhundla, ukuhlukanisa le nkinga zibe izingxenye ezimbili:
- isimo sezenhlalakahle - ukungabi khona kwezindleko ezihlobene nokuzalwa nokukhuliswa kwezingane;
- isisekelo sengqondo - ukuhlukumezeka kwengqondo, ukudluliselwa ebuntwaneni, ezingeni elingenakuqhathaniswa elakha isifiso sokungabantwana.
Psychology chayldfri
Abazali bomthetho onjalo bafaka phambili izingxabano kanye nezimpikiswano zokuthi ingane engavamile ingajwayelekile futhi izindinganiso ezibalulekile zomuntu ngamunye kufanele zibe yindawo yokuqala. Ukulimaza umsebenzi noma ukulingana ngenxa yengane kuyinto eyisiphukuphuku futhi engalungile, futhi ukunakekela ozelwe akudingeki ukuba uchithe isikhathi nemali. Uma esemncane umuntu okhulelwe ngengqondo eveza isimo esinjalo - uyesaba umthwalo wemfanelo, ukungabi nalutho lokuphila, okuyinto evamile. Ngokungafaniyo kuzwakalisa isimiso sokuphila "esingenasidingo" esivela emlonyeni, esabanjwe emphakathini, esilondolozwe ngokwezimali, abantu abavuthiwe.
I-Philosophy ye-Childfree
Ukuveza impilo yakhe kuqala, imibono yezingane ezingenabantwana ilandela imithetho yomuntu siqu futhi iyanelisa izidingo zomuntu siqu, yakha ubudlelwane emigomeni yothando lwamahhala kanye nezinjabulo zobulili. Ezweni lanamuhla, wonke amaqembu 'okucabanga ngokulinganayo' inganefrey akhiwe ngokuvulekile, kodwa into efana nalokhu ngokuvamile ibhekwa njengokungcoliswa komphakathi, ukwehla ngokomoya.
Childfree and Childhead - yini umehluko?
Kukhona umehluko phakathi kohlobo luni lwe-teafree ne-headhead yengane. Uma owokuqala ephethe izingane ngokuzithoba, iqembu lesibili liyizitha ezizondwa zezingane, hhayi kuphela labo abangazalwa ngempela, kodwa bonke abanye, ngokusemthethweni, babika ngokuvulekile. Baveza imibhikisho emibhikisho ngokumelene nabesifazane abakhulelwe, bazivumele bona baqalekise amanina nabantwana ezindaweni zomphakathi kanye namanethiwekhi e-inthanethi. Abaphathi bentsha abanesihluku ngabantu abanobunzima obuncane, abadinga ukwelashwa okunekhono kubachwepheshe.
Izinganefree - izinzuzo nokuqeda
Ukubiza izinzuzo zokungabantwana, singasho ukuthi ukuzalwa nokukhuliswa kwezingane kuthatha iminyaka eminingana yokuphila. Ukwakha umsebenzi womuntu owenza isinqumo sokungabi umama kalula. Izindleko zamandla omzimba zancipha zibe mncane, isibalo asihlohli, kunesikhathi sokuphumula okufanele, ungakwazi ukuchitha isikhathi samahhala nemali ngokuthanda. Indoda enjalo isho isikhundla sakhe ngokuntuleka kwemithwalo yemfanelo kanye nemithwalo yengqondo. Ngemuva kokulalela izimpikiswano ezinjalo, umuntu angase athi negama lezilinganiso eziphawulekayo - izinkinga zokungabantwana:
- ukuphila kulahlekelwa incazelo yalo: iminyaka eminingana yokuphila okungenandaba nokuqeda amandla okubangela impumelelo;
- ingane iyinhloko engokwemvelo yomndeni, ngenxa yezinto ezithandayo, amalungu omdala angaya ekuxolelaneni, ukwehlisa izimiso. Umuntu omncane anganikeza umuntu omdala isifundo, aqonde umhlaba ngokukhanya okuhlukile kuye, abe ngumthombo wothando lwangempela nokuziqhenya;
- umzali, ekhulisa ingane, enethemba lokuthola imvume ekugugeni noma ekuguleni, lapho abangane nabajwayele bezokhathazeka ngokwabo.
Kungani wonke umuntu enzonda ukungazali ingane?
Ukwamukela nokuqonda isikhundla se "ophikisanayo" kwabanye abantu kuba inkinga. I-chayldfri engqondweni ehlukumezayo ibangela abantu abaningi ukuthi bangabe besabela kahle futhi akuyona umgomo lapha - ukuba baphile ngokuphila ngaphandle kokuba nezingane, kodwa ku-propaganda esebenzayo nokuhleka usulu kwezisekelo zomndeni nokuzala, umama wesifazane. I-Childfrey Hunter yafanisa inqubo yemvelo yokuzalwa nokukhuliswa kwezingane ezihlotsheni zezilwane ezincane, lapho abantu abaphansi abahlakaniphile bekwazi khona. Izitatimende ezinjalo ziningi zinokuziphatha okubi futhi zibangela ukusabela okunamandla kokuphazamiseka.
Ungaba kanjani chillyfri?
Ukukhangisa okusebenzayo kwe-chayldfri - ukuthambekela kwemfashini eyenza umuntu akhethe ukuchitha izinsiza zempilo ngamandla akhe, kwavela ngasekupheleni kweminyaka engu-70 yekhulu elidlule. Ukusho ukuthi abantu, abahola ngokucophelela indlela yokuphila engenamntwana ngaphambi kwalesi sikhathi kwakungenjalo-akunakwenzeka, kodwa inkulumo-mlando yomphakathi yokuphila kwe-teafrey ayilungile. Umsunguli wokunyakaza nguMargaret Sanger - umqalisi wemibono ngokulawulwa kokuzalwa.
Izinganefree - Orthodoxy
Imicabango eyinhloko kanye ne-subculture ye-Childfree iphikisana nayo yonke imigomo yobuKristu. Ukuzalwa kwezingane kuyisisekelo sezinkolo zonke, ngaphandle kwabantu abantu abazinikezele ngokuphelele impilo yabo kuNkulunkulu. Umndeni we-Orthodoxy usekelwe ekuqondeni kanye nokubekezela, ukuzinikela ezenzweni zabo - ukuzala izingane, umuntu ushiya indlalifa emhlabeni ozobe esekela imithandazo.
I-Childfrey phakathi kwezidumi
I-celebrity udumo chillyfd ivele eHollywood. Izithombe zabantu abahle abaphumelelayo abangenazo izingane, ezakhiwe emphakathini womphakathi umbono wokuthi ukufinyeleleka ukuqashelwa ngokuyeka ingane kulula kakhulu. Isitatimende sesithombe sokuthi ngeke abe ngumzali, sikhuthaza ukulandela isibonelo esinjalo. Ukukhohliswa kobuntu obujabulisayo kuvusa intukuthelo yothando, kubumba isifiso sokwenza impumelelo ngaphandle komthwalo wezingane.
- I-Jennifer Aniston - I-Childfree. Inkanyezi yochungechunge ethi "Abangane" eneminyaka engu-47 ubudala ayinayo izingane futhi akafuni ukuba nayo, uthi owesifazane ogcwele akudingeki acabange ngane, okungenani okungu-18 ubudala. Ukunakekelwa kwezintatheli mayelana nesibalo sakhe, okungaphezu kokukodwa okushiwo ukuthi ukhulelwe kumdlali we-actress, uphendula ngokuphikisana okubukhali.
- U-Renee Zellweger - I-Childfree. Kuvame ukuchaza lapho uxoxisana nabezindaba ukuthi isitho sikamama siyisigqila kuye, futhi ukubeletha ngokwayo ubugqila. Ukuhlala nabafowenu kumdlali we-actress akuyona inkinga, kodwa akanaso isikhathi sokukhulula izingane zakhe.
- I-Bozena Rynska - I- Childfree . Ezitatimendeni ezingalungile zezingonyama ezingokwenyama mayelana nezingane, izintatheli zivame ukugxila. Wayenombono wokuthi izingane zingaphumelelanga futhi zibe yingozi.
- UZemfira uyinarha. Umculi uye wathi ngokuphindaphindiwe ukuthi umgomo oyinhloko wokuphila ubheka ubuciko, uyaqaphela ukuthi ubulili nemali zibalulekile kuye, futhi izindinganiso zomndeni akuzona yena. Kukhona ulwazi olusiza izingane ezikhungweni zezintandane.
Jennifer Aniston
René Zellweger
Bozena Rynska
Zemfira
Isaga esithi "isibonelo esibi sithathelwana" siyasebenza kuze kube yilolu suku. Eqinisweni lokuthi umuntu unquma ukuphila ngaphandle komntwana, iminyaka embalwa ingabangela isiphepho sokuthukuthela, kepha manje indlela yokuphila isibonelo kwabanye. Ukuguqula ukuguquka kwezehlakalo kungase kube sesikhathini esithile, khona-ke kuyoba nokuzisola kuphela mayelana neminyaka yokuphila engaphathwa kahle, futhi ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbe eminyakeni engama-60-70 abantu bayaqaphela ukuthi benza iphutha - bachitha isikhathi kubathandekayo babo, nalabo abafuna ukungena ukunakekelwa ngaye - cha.