I-Instinct Yomama

Ukuzimela komama kuyisenzakalo esiyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu okwamanje, okuyinto ngaphambili kwakufanele iqondwe njengokuzimisela komama ukuba anakekele ingane yakhe futhi amvikele. Uma ngaphambi kokuba isimo semvelo sokwemvelo sikamama sasingakaze sibuzwe, manje imibono ososayensi kule ndaba ihlukana. Umbuzo uphakanyisiwe embukisweni we-TV ovelele "Bavumele baxoxe" endabeni ethi "Ukukhubazeka koMama ka-Instinct".

Kuvela nini ukuzalwa komama?

Isimiso somama sisindlela esenza owesifazane anakekele inzalo yakhe. Empeleni, kuwumsebenzi onzima ngaphandle kwezinsuku futhi amaholidi amahora angu-24 ngosuku. Ngokujwayelekile, ngokubonakala kwesimiso somama, amaphuzu alandelayo adingekayo:

1. Ubukhona be-sampula ezikhangayo engqondweni. Lapho intombazane ibonile kusukela ebuntwaneni, umama ukondla umntwana, yena ngokwakhe, cishe, uzophindaphinda lokhu empilweni yakhe.
2. Isici esibalulekile ukushicilelwa kwengane ngumama. Lokhu kwenzeka uma ingane isheshe ibeke isifuba sikamama emva kokubeletha, kodwa kuzo zonke ezinye izimo lokhu kuhlale kuphakanyisiwe.
3. Okunye okuhlangenwe nakho okubukhoma okuhlobene nokuzalwa, futhi akunandaba ukuthi kulungile noma kubi. Yingakho isigaba sokudla kanye nokuhlushwa ubuhlungu kubhekwa njengengathandeki.
4. Ukuqonda isimo somama, futhi ngenxa yalokho - kufakwe kuwo. Uma umama eqala ukunakekela ingane, uqala ukuyithanda, futhi ngokushesha uzoba umlutha kuso.

Kulesi simo, isisulu samantombazane sivame ukwesaba ukwesaba, ngoba isimo esisha senhlalo sinikeza owesifazane kakhulu - umqondo wesidingo somuntu siqu, ukuzihlonipha, ukuhlonishwa kwezihlobo nabanye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, noma yikuphi ukungahambisani nomlingani manje kunqume ukuthi umama osemncane ulula kakhulu.

Ukungabi nesikhala somama

Kufakazelwa ukuthi isisulu somama sisungulwa futhi siyaqhubeka sigcinwa hhayi bonke abesifazane. Ukufakaza kwalokhu kungenzeka ukubhekana nanoma yisiphi ikhaya lokubeletha esigodini se-refuseniks - osanda kuzalwa omama abashiya izingane.

Embukisweni ozwakalayo we-TV show "Baye baxoxe", icala lucatshangelwa lapho umama osemncane wengane enesifo esibucayi sokukhubazeka kwengqondo eshiya ingane nomyeni wakhe, wafaka isahlukaniso futhi wathatha enye impahla, nakuba ubaba eqhubeka enakekela ingane futhi ezama ukumbeka ezinzwaneni zakhe.

Yiqiniso, unina wengane wabangela ukulahlwa okubukhali. Ukusho ngokuzwakalayo ukuthi ungamthandi ingane, noma umshiye, uma ungowesifazane, kuyindlela efanele yokusola umphakathi, uma, kubantu, ukuziphatha okunjalo kuhlangabezana nemibhikisho engafaneleki namuhla. Lokhu kufakazela amaphesenti amakhulu omama abangashadile abayeni babo ababalekile nje, beshiya lona wesifazane nengane. Mayelana namadoda anjalo angenzi izinhlelo zethelevishini - lokhu kuyinto evamile. Kodwa lo wesifazane kuthiwa "kufanele" amthande ingane.

Eqinisweni, emphakathini wethu wabathengi, uma kutholakala ingane engaphezu kweyodwa emindenini, futhi lokho kuvame ukuba "ngengozi," kukhona umkhuba ocacile owenzela abasha bokuphila ezintsha. Manje abesifazane balwela ukuzimela, ukuziqhenya. Ukubeletha kushayela owesifazane emkhawulweni othile, kumenze ancike kumuntu, futhi ngokuvamile uhamba nezinkinga zempahla. Akuwona wonke umuntu olungele ukuya kuwo.

Ngokuphathelene nalokhu, inhlangano ye-Childfree - abangenamntwana abangenabantwana - banokuthandwa kakhulu emhlabeni - bangaba nabantwana, kodwa abafuni. Amaforamu yabesifazane enkundleni ayanda ukuphakamisa umbuzo othi "Ingabe kuyinto evamile ukuthi anginakho ukuzalwa komama?". Abaningi banesihawu, abanye batjela ukuthi bathatha kanjani izingane nge-pointer yomunye umuntu futhi bazisola, futhi ngokuvamile kukhona labo abafuna ukuchaza ngendlela engenangqondo ukuthi isitho semvelo sokubeletha kumele sibe khona nokuthi ukungabi khona kwayo kuyisifo.

Eqinisweni, konke kuchazwa ngokulula: ososayensi bakholelwa ukuthi cishe ama-7-8% wabesifazane besimiso somama asitholakali, okusho ukuthi ukungafuni ukuba nezingane kulungele isayensi futhi empeleni kuyinto evamile kwabanye besifazane.