Ukuhlehlisa isimo yisimo sokuthi noma ubani uhlangane ngandlela-thile, kodwa kwabanye abantu, le nkinga iba yinto evamile futhi iyaqhubeka ihudula nsuku zonke, uma umuntu engamelana nayo. Abantu abakudala kanye nabaphelelisi bavame ukugwema ukugwema.
Ukuziqhenya - kuyini?
Kuyini ukugwema - incazelo yento ehunyushwe ngesiNgisi "yokumisa" ngokwezwi nezwi isho ukuthi "ukubambezeleka", "ukuhlehliswa" - ukuphakama komuntu ukuba ahlehlise amacala aphuthumayo futhi abalulekile. Ukuziqhenya ngokuvamile kuphenduka isimo esingapheli, okwenza kube nezinkinga ezingokwengqondo ngesimo sokucindezeleka okuqhubekayo, ukukhathazeka, okuhlanganisa ukuphila komuntu.
Ukuziqhenya kwengqondo
Ukuziqhenya kokuqaphela ukukhipha amacala angabalulekile ngemuva, ukuze kunakekele okubalulekile embusweni wamanje. Eqinisweni, kwenzeka kaningi ngokuphambene nalokho, futhi izazi zengqondo zibona lokhu njengenkinga enkulu emphakathini wanamuhla. Lo muntu wenza iphutha lokuthi uma ebuyisela zonke izinto ezincane ekuqaleni, "uhlanza" isikhala sakhe ukuze kufezwe indaba ebalulekile, kodwa ngandlela-thile izinto ezincane ziqala ukuqhubekela phambili kwejimethri, futhi ukugxila kubalulekile kuhlehliselwa "kusasa ".
Izimpawu zokuqeda
Thola i-syndrome yokumisa endlini yakho, udinga ukuzibukela emini. Izimpawu zomqashi:
- amacala ahleliwe ahlehliselwa isikhathi esingapheli;
- Isikhathi sokubulawa siphukile njalo;
- zikhona izizathu ezizwakalayo, kungani umsebenzi ongakwenziwanga, isinqumo asenziwe;
- Ukwedlula isikhathi, umuzwa wecala, intukuthelo ngokwabo kanye nokucasula okukhiqizwa abanye;
- ukuqaphela ukuthi inkinga yokuzigwema ikhona;
- ukucindezeleka okuqhubekayo ngenxa yokuqoqwa kwebhizinisi elingenamkhawulo noma elingapheli;
- ukhwaliti energy level.
Izizathu zokugwema
Ukulwa nokugwema ukuphumula ngeke kuphumelele ngaphandle uma kubonakala ukuthi izimbangela zalesi simo, zingaba okulandelayo:
- ukugqugquzelwa okuncane noma ukungabi khona kwayo ngokuphelele;
- ukwesaba ukwehluleka;
- ukuphelela;
- indaba noma umsebenzi odingeka ukufezwa kubangelwa ukulahlwa, ukwenqatshwa ngisho nokuzondwa;
- ukungakwazi ukushintsha ngesikhathi;
- ukungabi nokukhetha kanye nendlela yokudala yamahhala kusixazululo;
- ukucindezelwa kwangaphandle;
- isikhathi esicacile;
- ukungafuni ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo;
- ukungakwazi ukuhlela isikhathi.
Izinhlobo zokuqeda
Indlela yokunciphisa ukuvinjelwa - ngesikhathi sokuqala kubalulekile ukuhlukanisa lesi simo. Ochwepheshe bezangaphandle, izazi zengqondo zezenhlalo: N. Milgram D. Moorer, D. Bathory kwizifundo zabo zokuqeda, baqaphela izinhlobo ezinhlanu:
- Umndeni (nsuku zonke) - ukungakwazi ukulawula isikhathi, ukubambezeleka njengeqhinga elibalulekile.
- Ukuzikhandla ekuthatheni izinqumo kuqukethe ubunzima bokunquma esikhathini esichazwe ngokucacile, lokhu kusebenza ngisho nasezinqumweni ezincane, ezingabalulekile.
- Ukuzigwema ngokweqile kuyisimo esingavamile sokuqeda, ukuhoxiswa ngokuphathelene nanoma yimuphi umsebenzi.
- Ukuzigwema kwe-Neurotic - ukuhlehliswa kwezinqumo ekuthatheni izinqumo ezimweni ezibalulekile, empilweni ethile kanye nasezinkathini zeminyaka yobudala, kungase kuhlotshaniswe nokwesaba.
- Ukumisa okwesikoleni - isici kubantu bamasayense, ezemfundo, abafundi, othisha, kubonakala ekuhlehliseni, kuhlehlise isikhathi sokuthuthukisa amaphrojekthi, ukusebenza kwezemfundo, imisebenzi ewusizo.
Ubuvila nokuzigwema
Izinto ezinjengokuzigwema nokuvilapha azifani neze. Uma ubuvila bungabhekwa njengento engekho lutho kanye nokuntuleka kwesifiso somsebenzi, khona-ke ukuziphindaphinda kubonakaliswa kumkhuba owenzelwe ukuyeka ibhizinisi ngosuku olulandelayo. Isikhuthazo sokuqala singaba namandla, umuntu uhlala phansi ukuze asebenze, kodwa uqala ukuphazamisa ezinye izinto ezimbi, ukhumbula ukuthi udinga ukugeza iwindi, wenze isidlo sakusihlwa futhi njenge-snowball uhlele amanye amacala amaningi adinga ukunakwa kwakho futhi aphelile, ungafika emsebenzini , kodwa kakade akanayo amandla kanye nezinsiza.
Indlela yokunqoba ukuvinjelwa, ukuziqhenya njengobuvila? Umsebenzi kufanele ube wukuqala, kubalulekile ukwabela ama-breaks fixed for rest and relaxation. Ngezinye izikhathi ukuchitha isikhathi kuyindlela yenyama ukuze usakaze isignali mayelana nokuphefumula okudingekile kuyo kusuka esimisweni, izenzo eziqeda amandla. Abakhohlisi, ngokungafani nabantu abavilaphayo, benza izinto eziningi, "baphahla njenge-squirrel esiteshini" izinkinga zabo eziyinhloko: abakwazi ukuhlela isikhathi nokubeka phambili imisebenzi.
Ukuphelela nokuzigwema
Inkinga yokuzigwema kungase kutholakale ngezinye izikhathi kwi-syndrome yokuphelela , uma umuntu esaba ukwenza okuthile okungaphelele, ngoba umuntu ophelele kufanele enze konke "Kulula!", Ngakho kungcono ukuthi akenzanga ngokuphelele kunokwehluleka nokungaphumeleli, kuzodingeka ukuphazamiseka. Ukuziqhathanisa nokuzigwema, izinto ezivame ukungena phakathi. Umuntu ophelelwa ukuphelela uphenduka kabi kakhulu ekugxekeni, futhi lokhu kuyinkinga enkulu yokuqeda ukukhiqiza nokukhiqiza okuncane, ngakho-ke lapha okunye kudingeka "ukuphatha" uphawu oluyinhloko - ukuphelela.
Usizo lokuqala lwabaphelelisi:
- uthatha umthwalo wempilo yakho;
- ukuyeka ukuncika embonweni womunye umuntu;
- qala ukwenza okuthandayo ngaphandle kokwesaba, ukuthi uzogxekwa;
- uma kungekho ulwazi "lokuqala ngokulungile", udinga nje ukuqala "okungenani ngandlela-thile" ukuthola ulwazi nokukhiqiza;
- khumbula ukuthi wonke umuntu wake waqala encane.
Ukuziqhenya - indlela yokukhipha?
Abathandi bebhizinisi lokuhlehlisela "kusasa" ngokungenakuphikisa babhekana nemibono efana nemiphumela ehlukahlukene engajabulisayo, kodwa lokhu akukwenzi wonke umuntu ahloniphe isikhathi njengomthombo, yingxenye encane yabantu kuphela ebona ukungahambi kahle kokuzigwema futhi ukulungele ukuguqula izimpilo zabo. Indlela yokubhekana nokuqeda - izincomo zengqondo:
- funda indlela yokuhlela usuku lwakho;
- Izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu okumele uzame ukuzenza ekuseni, lapho ukuhlushwa kuphakeme;
- phakathi kwezindaba ukwenza amaphuzu amancane okuphumula, noma ukuzikhandla kancane;
- irekhodi edayari yenqubekelaphambili encane nokunqoba kwabo;
- emva kokuqedwa komsebenzi kufanele kulandelwe isikhuthazo.
Ukulwa nokuvinjelwa - ukuzivocavoca
Ngakho-ke, le nkinga iyaqaphela, ngalesi sigaba kubalulekile ukuqala ukusebenzisa amasu okusebenza azoqala indlela yokwenza izinguquko futhi kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi isikhathi esithile kufanele sinikezwe ukuhleleka kokuphila nemisebenzi yamanje. Indlela yokubhekana nokuqeda, ukuzivocavoca:
- Izincwadi ezizayo . Incwadi ibhaliwe yodwa, lapho imiyalezo ithunyelwa khona ngendlela ehloniphekile, ishukumisayo, isibonelo, "Ngithemba ukuthi usuvele uthuthukile / uthuthukile ekutadisheni isiNgisi, ubhala amakhasi angu-10 encwadi." Uma uthumela umlayezo, sebenzisa umsebenzi "ukuthumela okuthunyelwe". Le nqubo elula isisiza ukuhamba ngendlela ehleliwe.
- " Yidla indlovu ." Umsebenzi unzima futhi awunalutho, kodwa uma uzama "ukwephula" yonke indlovu, izingxenye ezincane kakhulu zizoba inqubo ecacile kakhulu, kungabangela ukulahlwa nokwesaba . Le nqubo iwuhlukumezeka komsebenzi waba yizigaba, ukubeka isikhathi esinqunyiwe esigabeni ngasinye bese ufingqa, ukulungisa umgomo noma umsebenzi, uma kudingeka.
- " Kungani kufanele ngenze lokhu ?". Icala kumele lenziwe, ingqondo iyayiqonda, futhi umuntu ongenandaba naye uyamelana futhi angaboni izizathu ezibalulekile zokuqala ukuzenza njengamanje nanoma imiphi imidwebo efana nokuthi "Kudingekile!", "Kumele u!" Akuzwa. Yini okufanele uyenze kulokhu? Zibuze umbuzo othi "Kungani ngidinga ukukwenza lokhu?" Futhi ukuba ngithembeke ngokweqile ekuphenduleni. Uma impendulo ibonisa izici ezishukumisayo: imali, udumo, ukuqashelwa, inhlonipho - lokhu kuzosiza ukugxila futhi uqale ukwenza, uma kungenjalo, kungcono ukuyeka ukuphishekela lo mgomo, ngoba umiswe umuntu, kodwa ubhekwa njengowakhe.
Ukuhlehlisa - ukwelashwa
Ukuziqhenya kuyisifo noma ukuthambekela okukhethekile komuntu, isimo sakhe sokungcola, okungathi uma sifisa, singalungiswa? Ukuhlehliswa kwamacala okwesikhashana akuyona isifo ngomqondo wangempela, futhi ukuphulukiswa kokuziqeda ngendlela engokomfanekiso kuyinkambo yezenzo, ukwakheka kwemikhuba emisha kanye nokuhlanganiswa kwemiphumela. Ngezinye izikhathi, ukugwema izinto kungabonisa ngokungaqondile isifo sokukhathala okungapheli, lapho kungekho amandla okwenza ngisho nezenzo ezivamile zansuku zonke, ama-phobias, kulokhu, kuyoba okungadingekile ukubonisana nodokotela ukuhlukanisa lezi zizwe.
Ukuhlehlisa - incwadi
Ungakwazi ukuhlela usuku lwakho lomsebenzi ukuze konke kudla isikhathi futhi wonke amaphrojekthi abalulekile agcwaliswe ngesikhathi, uma ungenalo amakhono okwanele futhi ufuna ukuvuselela impilo yakho, bestseller owaziwayo "Win Procrastination" nguP. Ludwig we-European coach for development siqu, wakhe le ncwadi, indlela yokunqoba ukugwema, iqukethe indlela eyingqayizivele yokuqeda "ukugula" kwezenzo zokuhlehlisa nokuphila isikhathi esingenamkhawulo. U-P. Ludwig ngesibonelo sakhe uhlolisise lesi senzakalo "esiyinkimbinkimbi" futhi athuthukile izinyathelo eziphumelelayo zokunqoba.
Ngemva kokufunda le ncwadi nokulandela inqubo, izinguquko ezilandelayo ezibalulekile zenzeka:
- yembula amandla okudala omuntu;
- usuku lusebenza kahle futhi lugcwele ngangokunokwenzeka;
- ubuyisela injabulo yokuphila nokuzihlonipha;
- wonke amacala asetshenziswa ngesikhathi.