Ukuzibandakanya ithalente futhi uhlobo lobuciko. Abantu abakhulumisanayo bayabumnandi futhi banokuzethemba, abamesabi abantu abajwayele ukuxhumana nabo kanye nokuxhumana okuhle. Ngaphambi kwabo, zonke izivalo zivulekile, zithembeke kakhulu kunokuba zivaliwe. Ukuthola abantu abanamakhono aphezulu okukhulumisana enkampanini ngeke kube nzima, bahlale bephakathi kokunakwa futhi ngokuvamile baba abaholi. Ikhono labo lokuxhumana lizikhanga, ngenxa yalokho, banabangane nabangani abaningi njalo.
Amakhono okukhulumisana namakhono athuthuka esemncane futhi ngokuvamile kuxhomeke ngokuqondile ukuthi ingane iqala kanjani ukukhuluma. Ikhono lokuxhumana lixhomeke esimweni somntwana, kubazali bakhe nabathandekayo bakhe. Ngokuvamile, uma kunezingane ezindala emndenini, ingane ithola ulimi oluvamile nabanye.
Ngokuvamile impumelelo yabantu ixhomeke emakhono abo okuxhumana okuhle. Isibonelo, esikoleni umfundi, ngaphandle kokwazi isifundo, angatshela uthisha izinto eziningi ezithakazelisayo, ngisho noma kungesihloko, kodwa ekugcineni uthola ukuhlolwa okuhle, nomfundi ofunde isifundo, kodwa akakwazi ukuyihambisa ngesimo esihle uthisha, uthola ibhola eliphansi .
Indlela yokuthuthukisa amakhono okuxhumana?
Ukuze ube ngumuntu othakazelisayo, kufanele ulandele amathiphu alandelayo:
- Ungakugwema ukuxhumana. Xoxa yonke indawo: emsebenzini nosebenza nabo, egcekeni nomakhelwane, uhlangane nabangani. Xhumana nabantwana, abadala, asebekhulile. Bonke bangakunika okuthile okuwusizo. Abantu abaseminyakeni bayokufundisa ukuhlakanipha kwabo, futhi izingane zizofaka isifo ngokuzethemba nokungazinaki.
- Jabulela ukuxhumana. Funda ukuphatha ukuxhumana kwakho. Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ingxoxo igelela esiteshini esingathandeki kuwe - shintsha isihloko.
- Ungabi ngokomthetho kakhulu. Uma ufuna abantu bathande ukuxhumana nawe, khubaza. Ungaphenduli imibuzo kumakhosollables. Ukoma kwezimpendulo zakho kuthathwa njengokungafuni ukuxhumana.
- Ukuze kuthuthukiswe ukuxhumana, sebenzisa ukuvocavoca. Kunezinyathelo eziningi zokuthuthukiswa kwamakhono okuxhumana. Isibonelo, ume phambi kwesibuko bese uzama ukukhombisa imizwelo ehlukahlukene ebusweni bakho: ukwesaba, injabulo, ukudabuka, ukudabuka, njll. Le nqubo izokusiza ukulawula inkulumo ebusweni ekukhulumisaneni nokwandisa ukuzethemba.
Funda ukuxhumana kahle. Ukuze ungesabi futhi ungagwemeki, kufanele ube umngane othandekayo. Yini edingekayo kulokhu?
- lalela ngokucophelela umphikisi wakho;
- Ngemuva kokuqedela ukuveza umbono we-interlocutor, phawula izici ezinhle zombono wakhe bese usho ukuthi yini ongavumelani nayo;
- bonisa umbono wakho ngaphandle kokucasula noma ukuhlazisa abanye;
- zama ukuthola noma iyiphi impikiswano isisombululo sokwehlisa.
Lezi zindlela zikhuthaza ukuthuthukiswa kwamakhono okuxhumana kubantu abadala. Leli setha lamaqhinga namaqhinga lilula, kepha liphumelela kakhulu. Emva kokusebenza kwabo ngokuzikhandla, umuntu uyakwazi ukufeza impumelelo emphakathini nasemisebenzini yakhe yomsebenzi.
Izinhlobo zamakhono okuxhumana
Ukuxhumana kuhlanganisa izinhlobo ezimbili:
- amazwi;
- okungabonakali.
Uhlobo lokuqala luhlanganisa amagama, imisho, imisho. Lona uhlobo olulula lokuxhumana. Uhlobo lwesibili lubandakanya ukubonisa ubuso nesenzo. Ulimi lomzimba lungase lisho okungaphezu kwamagama ngokwawo, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuthuthukisa ikhono lokuveza imizwelo nemizwa ngokusebenzisa izindlela zokuxhumana ezingekho emthethweni ukuze kuthuthukiswe amakhono okuxhumana. Ngentuthuko yabo, umsebenzi ochaziwe ngenhla ngesilazi akukubi.
Ukuphelela kwamakhono okuxhumana kungenzeka kuyo yonke impilo. Kungcono ukuthi ufunde lo mkhono, iminyango engaphezulu iyovuleka ngaphambi kwakho. Beka umgomo wokuba umngane omnandi futhi ulwela lo mgomo futhi maduzane uzobona indlela umjikelezo wabangane bakho nabangane owenziwe ngayo, nokuthi ukuphila kwakho kudlulele kanjani kumkhakha omusha.