Umuntu owazi ukuzwakalisa ngokweqile uyohlale "wakhe" kunoma iyiphi inkampani. Ukuhleka kwenhlanhla kuletha abantu ndawonye. Kodwa kuthiwani uma ungazi ukuthi ungahlekisa kanjani? Ungajoyina kanjani inkampani, ukuthi ungafunda kanjani ukuhleka usulu?
Abantu abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi ikhono lokwenza abantu bahleke isici esingazalwa. Noma kunjalo, lo mbono awukho iqiniso ngokuphelele. Wonke umuntu ngesikhathi sokuphila kwakhe ufunda okuthile. Uthola umsebenzi, iziketi kanye nezikhwama, ufunda imithetho yemidlalo ehlukahlukene, udlala izingoma zomculo, njll. Okufanayo kanye nokuhlekisa. Kungathuthukiswa kanye nanoma iyiphi enye ithalenta. Ukuze ufunde ukuthi ungamangaza kanjani abahlanganyeli emidlalweni ye-KVN noma iKamedi Club, kubalulekile ukutadisha nokuqonda izinyathelo ezikhethekile zenqubo yokudala ihlaya.
Ake sibheke ukuthi singafunda kanjani ukuhleka ngokuhleka ngokutadisha izimiso eziningana zobufakazi:
- ukuphakama kwamanga - ukuphela kwehlaya, njengoba kunjalo, kuqhubeka ukuqala kwayo, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo kuphikisana nencazelo yalo;
- ukuphikisana kwamanga - ukuphikisana kokuphela kwehlaya ekuqaleni ekuqiniseni umphumela;
- isici sokungaqapheliseki ukuphoqeka ngokweqile noma ukugcizelela incazelo eyisisekelo yehlaya;
- ukungaboni ngaso sonke isikhathi - ihlaya elingalindelekile, isigameko esiyingozi noma inkulumo;
- Ukuxuba izitayela - ochwepheshe bezingxabano kanye namahlaya basebenzisa zonke izimiso ngesikhathi esifanayo.
Indlela yokufunda ukuthi ungamangaza kanjani?
Uthi kufanele abe oqotho. Uma uzama ukuhleka usulu ngesihloko ongajwayele futhi esingathandeki kakhulu, akunakwenzeka ukuthi noma yini ehlekile iyovela kuyo. Bonisa ubuqiniso bangempela kuphela endaweni owazi kahle. Ngaphandle kwamahlaya ajwayelekile, cabanga ngezimpendulo ezithakazelisayo kumbuzo ovamile wansukuzonke. Uzocatshangwa ukuthi uyisilwane, uma umbuzo othi "wenza kanjani", uzophendula esikhundleni sokujwayelekile okujwayelekile "okujwayelekile". Kungcono nakakhulu uma impendulo yakho iba igama lokubamba eqenjini lakho. Futhi uzokhunjulwa njengombhali wale nkulumo.
Indlela yokufunda ukuhleka usulu kahle?
Ukuze ube umphefumulo wenkampani kanye ne-ace of wit, kubalulekile ukukhumbula imithetho eminye yokugcinwa okuphoqelekile:
- ingqondo yenani. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi imisho embalwa yezinkulumo ze-jocular izophumelela. Futhi konke okunye okuzobhekwa njengesiyaluyalu esithandayo;
- ukuhlakanipha. Ungahleki ukuhleka nokuhleka usulu uhlobo lwezindaba ezithintekayo ukuthi i-interlocutor yakho ingaba buhlungu kakhulu noma ihlasele;
- ukuzigxeka. Ngokuhlekisa abanye abantu noma izimo, ungaphelelwa yisikhathi ngezigameko zakho. Ngokuvamile, umuntu ozihlambalazayo uqondwa kahle nakwezinye izindawo. Njengabangani nabangane abangajwayelekile.
Futhi omunye umthetho ngaphezulu kusuka emjikelezweni wemibandela ukuthi ungafunda kanjani ukuhleka usulu endaweni. Ungabonisi ngemishini yempi, uma ukhuluma ngezinkokhelo. Ihlaya kufanele lihambisane nesihloko, ngaphandle kwalokho akekho oyoyithatha. Amanye amagama akhulume kule ndawo azokwenza abantu bahleke kakhulu kunama-anecdote angenangqondo, ethathwe, ngokusho, "kusuka kwenye i-opera".
Labo bantu abathi "Angikwazi ukuhleka usulu" akukhohlisi kuphela, kodwa abanye.
Iseluleko esiyisisekelo sokufunda ukuhleka usulu ukuzethemba. Uma umile futhi uphazamisekile, ngenkathi uphahla ngopende lokushisa, akekho ozoqonda ukuthi isitatimende oshoyo siyihlaya.
Uyazi kahle izinto eziyisisekelo zefomu elihle ekukhethekile kwezingcolile. Okunye kuxhomeke kuwe. Hlanganisa ukuze uqale kubangani, ithuthukise ikhono kanye nekhono. Futhi ukwakha ukuzithemba nokuzethemba ngokwezinga eliphezulu. Mhlawumbe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzohlala emlandweni wesikhathi sakho, njengomculi odumile kakhulu.