Umbuzo wokuthi ungaba kanjani igunya eqenjini noma ingane, inentshisekelo kwabaningi, ngifuna ukuhlonipha wonke umuntu. Kulapha kuphela ukufeza lokhu akulula njengoba kubonakala ekuqaleni. Yiqiniso, abanye abantu benza izwi labo nomthetho kubonakale kungekho mzamo omkhulu, kodwa mayelana nemfundo, umuntu akakwazi ukuziphatha ngendlela ehlukile. Futhi wonke umuntu kuzodingeka asebenze kanzima ukuze afinyelele lokho abakufunayo.
Ungaba kanjani igunya lomntwana?
Abazali abaningi bayamangala ukuthi kungani izwi labo ngomntwana lingasho lutho. Eqinisweni, konke kulula - ilunga elimndeni lomndeni nje alikholwa futhi alihloniphi abadala . Futhi abazali kufanele babekwe icala ngalokhu. Amaphutha amakhulu yizikhathi ezilandelayo ekuziphatheni.
- Ngokuvamile abazali basebenzisa izindlela zokucindezela kwengqondo noma ngokomzimba. Ngale ndlela kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuthi kunokuhlonipha abazali ngokuthola ukwesaba kwengane nenzondo.
- Kubuye kwenzeke futhi ukubona ukuthi abazali basebenzisa kanjani amahora amaningi wokwakha nokuziphatha ngendlela efanele "," hhayi ukunikeza ingane nesinyathelo sokuzimela. Umphumela ukucasuka nesifiso sokwenza okuphambene, ngisho noma kuholela emiphumeleni engathandeki.
- Abazali abanobucayi nabancinyane kakhulu abenzi lutho, basebenzisa isimiso esithi "Ngimdala - ngidinga ukuhlonishwa". Le ndlela ibuye ihluleke ukuhluleka, akekho ozohlonipha umuntu aze aqonde ukuthi kungani umuntu efanelwe isimo sengqondo esinjalo.
Kodwa ngisho noma lezi zindlela zokuziphatha zigwetshwa, ingane ayihlale iqaphela igunya lomzali. Ngokuvamile izizathu zalokhu zikhona
- ukungathembeki, ukuzenzisa kwabazali noma ukunciphisa ngokweqile. Iresiphi yokuthola inhlonipho ilula:
- gcina izwi lakho, ngaphandle kwalokho lizofunda ukunikeza izithembiso ezingenanzuzo;
- kuchaza ingane ukuthi ezinye izinto akufanele zenziwe, futhi ungenzi ngokwakho. "Awukwazi ukubhema, kodwa ngingumuntu omdala futhi ngingakwenza" - izenzo ezinjalo zegunya ngeke zengezwe kuwe;
- ningenzi lutho "kulo mdlalo," izingane zizwela kakhulu ekukhohliseni;
- Ungadingi ukuziphatha okuphelele kusuka kwengane, wena ngokwakho uyiphutha;
- okubaluleke kakhulu - hlonipha ubuntu bomntanakho, uqaphele ilungelo lakhe kumbono wakhe, ungasho ukuthi ukuthanda kwakhe kubi kakhulu ngoba awuqondi.
Ungaba kanjani igunya eqenjini?
Lapho befika emsebenzini omusha, wonke umuntu wazibamba ethi: "Ngifuna ukuba yigunya, ukuze balalele umbono wami, futhi ungaphuthelwa."
Umbuso wokuqala nokubaluleke kakhulu, ukuthi ungaba kanjani negunya enkampanini entsha noma phakathi kwabahlobo, umsindo ulula kakhulu - funda