Ukwesaba kungenye yemizwelo enamandla kakhulu yomuntu, isenzo esenzelwe ukugqugquzela izinsiza zethu nokuqeda into eyenza isiphepho esinamandla semicabango. Ngamanye amazwi, ukwesaba ezingeni lokucabanga kwengqondo kufana nokuhlupheka ngokomzimba. Uma uhamba emlenzeni wakho, ubuhlungu. Le buhlungu ikutshela ukuthi "thatha umlenze wakho, ngoba umthelela onamandla ungasongela ukuphila." Makube exaggerated, kodwa ubuhlungu kuyisixwayiso.
Ukwesaba okufanayo: usubonile ukuthi singazizwa kanjani singalondekile sihamba ngomgwaqo ongenalutho nangomnyama? Kungenzeka ukuthi ungahlaselwa ngalesi sikhathi. Uma ingozi isesimweni somcabango wethu, lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi ukukhathazeka, futhi uma unommese unamathele emphinjeni wakho bese usongela ukuthatha impilo yakho uma unganiki konke ukuhlobisa, yilokho okukhona kakhulu ukuthi ukwesaba kwangempela.
Manje njengoba sesinakuqonda kangcono le miqondo, sizoqhubeka nobunzima kakhulu - indlela yokunqoba ukwesaba.
Ingabe kudingekile ukuba silwe nokwesaba?
Izazi zengqondo ziphikisa ukuthi "ukwesaba" okunempilo kokuwina akudingekile. Ukwesaba kusindise okhokho bethu abakudala ekuqothulweni, ngoba nguye owavuselela umsebenzi wabo wokuphila. Yingakho ukwesaba, njengenye yezimzwelo zakudala, kuqondisa izimpilo zethu namuhla. Ngakho, ngaphambi kokuthola indlela yokunqoba ukwesaba nokwesaba, qaphela ukuthi lokhu kwesaba akukhiqizi.
Ukwesaba okukhiqizayo
Ukwesaba okuwusizo ngumzwelo okuxwayisa ngengozi. Isibonelo, uzizwa ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi wakho, futhi kunezizathu zalokho - izitha zakho zakudala kanye nezincintisana ziye zawela "phezulu" kobuholi, kuphela umuntu ongenalucabango angeke acabange ukuthi uzokwenzenjani naye maduzane. Ukwesaba okunjalo kuyasiza, ngoba kuzokusiza ukuba uphume isimo, ngesikhathi sokuthola indlela yokusindiswa.
Phobias
I-Phobias yenza njalo ukwesaba okukhulu okukuvimbela ukwenza lokhu noma uhlobo lo msebenzi, futhi ungazibolekisi ezinchazweni ezinengqondo. Phobias kukhona ukwesaba okuvela ngaphakathi. Indlela yokunqoba ukwesaba kwangaphakathi kuphazamisa ukwabelana kwengonyama yesintu.
I-Phobias ingadluliselwa ngezizukulwane ngezizukulwane (izakhi zofuzo), ingenzeka ngenxa yokushaqeka okukhulu, futhi abantu abanokucabanga okungenangqondo-okungaqondakali kubonakala bengababi.
Uma unquma ukunqoba le phobia, sincoma ukuthi uzibuze imibuzo embalwa.
Isibonelo, abaningi bakhathazeke ngombuzo wokuthi bangakunqoba kanjani ukwesaba izindawo eziphakeme. Okokuqala, unqume ukuthi yini oyikwesabayo, yimuphi umzuzwana - ukuwa kusukela ekuphakameni? Futhi, cabanga ngalokho, abanye abantu abamesabi lokhu, ukuthi bahluke kanjani kuwe. Khumbula lapho okokuqala usinqobe ukwesaba izindawo eziphakeme, futhi ngaphansi kwezimo ezinjani. Ziphendule ngokwakho, njengoba ngokuvamile uvame ukwesaba - gwema noma uziphoqe futhi wesabe. Iningi labangqondo be-psychologists banombono wokuthi ukwesaba kufanele kubhekane nomuntu siqu, okungukuthi, ukwenza lokho okwesaba kakhulu. Ungaziphinde uzithembele umvuzo wokuphumelela emzamweni wakho.
Ukwesaba kwabantu
Esinye isigaba esithakazelisayo kakhulu sokwesaba ukwesaba kwabantu.
Ukuzivocavoca
Ukuze uthenge le mfanelo, thatha amaphepha amabili ephepheni: okokuqala bhala yonke imizwa ozwayo lapho ukhuluma. Isibonelo: ungumngane ongathandeki / ongafaneleki, awunanto yokukusho, ubi kakhulu kunabanye, njll. Esikhathini seshidi lesibini, bhala izingxabano: Ngingumngane othandekayo futhi kufanelekile ukunakekelwa, njll. Bese ukhahla ngesibhamu ishidi lokuqala, ngaleyo ndlela ubeke ingqondo embi ngokwengqondo, futhi ufunde iqabunga kaningi.