Akukho muntu emhlabeni ongazange asabe lutho. Ezinye ukwesaba zikhona ezingqondweni zethu ezingeni lokukhathazeka, ezinye ziphenduke zibe yi-phobias yangempela, ephula ubukhona bethu bokuthula. Kodwa lo mzwelo uvelaphi, okwazi ukuguqula umphefumulo nomzimba, okwenza inhliziyo ishaye kaningi futhi ivuke ekujuleni okubandayo ebusuku? Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, kanjani ukunqoba umuzwa wokwesaba? Ake sizame ukuqonda lolu daba oluphuthumayo.
Izimbangela zokwesaba
Ukuzwa ukwesaba, njengazo zonke ezinye izinzwa ezithinta umzwelo, zihlala ekujuleni kolwazi lwethu. Futhi ngokuvamile kaningi asiqondi ukuthi livelaphi. Ngesinye isikhathi, siqala ukuzizwa singakhululekile, sibhekane nokukhathazeka, bese sithuthumela. Kodwa ukuze unqobe le nzwa, umuntu kufanele azi ukuthi imvelaphi yayo.
Zonke izizathu eziyinhloko zivela ngenxa yokwesaba komuntu:
- Okunamathiselwe ezintweni zezwe elizungezile futhi kuxhomeke kuzo. Sonke sijwayele ukuzungezile nabantu noma izinto, ngaphandle kwalokho esingeke sicabange khona. Ngokwemvelo, ekujuleni kwethu kuphila ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa lezizinto kanye nalaba bantu. Ukunamathela kubo, siba ngabathembeki, futhi sishiya igumbi elincanyana ukuze sicabange ukuthi yonke into ihamba ngokushesha noma kamuva iphela.
- Ukungabi nokholo kuNkulunkulu namandla aphezulu. I-Strange njengoba ingase izwakale, kodwa kubantu abangakholelwa kuNkulunkulu kukhona umuzwa wokukhathazeka futhi besaba kakhulu kunabantu abakholwayo. Lokhu kubaluleke nakakhulu ngezikhathi zenkinga, lapho umuntu enganakekelwa ngokomoya futhi eqala ukwesaba ukuthembela enhlanhleni nasengozini. Ngokuphambene nalokho, amakholwa aphila ngokuthula ngokuvumelana futhi ngokuvumelana. Bakholelwa ukuthi ngisho nasezikhathini ezinzima, Okuthile ngenhla kuvikela imindeni yabo kanye nabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, akhululekile ukwesaba okukhulu kwabantu - ukufa, tk. kuzo zonke izinkolo, abantu bakholelwa ekuphileni ngemva kokufa.
- Ukukhathazeka nokwesaba ukungafinyeleli kwabo. Ezweni, abantu abaningi abangakholelwa emandleni abo, besaba ukuphuma ezimpumputhe bese bezimemezela. Babesaba ukuhlekwa usulu ngenxa yokungakwazi kwabo. Kusuka kokwesaba benza amaphutha ngisho nangaphezulu, futhi umbuthano ononya uvala, ungapheli.
- Phobias nokwesaba okukhulu. Lokhu kuhlukahlukana kuwumkhiqizo wemisebenzi ye-psyche ne-subconscious. Phobias kwenzeka ngisho nasebuntwaneni futhi ekugcineni abe engapheli. Olunye uhlobo lwe-phobia luwumphumela wokuphila emadolobheni amakhulu. Ngenxa yokuhamba okusheshayo nokuhamba phambili, isizungu phakathi kwezixuku nokulahleka ngokwabo namuhla, abantu abaningi banomuzwa wokuthi ukwesaba kungazelelwe futhi maduzane baba iziguli zengqondo kanye ne-psychotherapists.
- Isigaba esahlukile ukwesaba kwabesifazane. Kukhona ukukhathazeka okusho ukuthi kuzalwa kuphela ngobulili obuthakathaka. Futhi zitholakala kaningi. Phakathi kwezinto ezithandwa kakhulu zingabonakala: ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ingane, ukwesaba ukubeletha, ukwesaba ukuguga, isizungu futhi ekugcineni, ukwesaba amagundane, izinambuzane nezinyoka. Noma kunjalo, zonke lezi phobias zihlobene nenjongo eyinhloko yowesifazane - ukuqhutshwa kohlobo lwezinhlobo eziningi futhi eziningi zazo zibeka izakhi zofuzo.
Ngokuqinisekile, wonke umuntu, uma engazi kahle, okungenani uyazi umsuka wokwesaba kwakhe. Futhi lihlala elincane, kodwa likhandla kakhulu ekuhlelweni komzwelo, njengokunqoba ukwesaba.
Ungasusa kanjani ukwesaba?
Kukhona isithi ukuthi uma wesaba okuthile, yilokhu okudingeka ukwenze kuqala. Futhi akusiyo ingxenye ethile ye-logic. Ukubuka kuphela emehlweni ethu wesaba, singawavimbela. Ungakunqoba kanjani ukwesaba futhi ukhohlwe ngakho kuze kube phakade? Kunezindlela eziningana zokwenza lokhu:
1. Zama ukungaqapheli ukwesaba kwakho bese wenza okunye. Zitshele ukuthi: "Yebo, ngisesaba, kodwa ngizokwenza." Ngikholelwa, akukho okungaqhathaniswa nomzwelo wokunqoba oyozizwa ngemuva kokunqoba ukwesaba kwakho.
2. Cabanga ngomphumela omubi kakhulu wezenzakalo ozesabayo. Ake sithi ukhathazekile ngaphambi kokusebenza, futhi awushiywa ukukhathazeka nokwesaba. Ake ucabange into embi kakhulu eyokwenzeka, uma lokho okwesabekayo kuzokwenzeka. Hlela ngokwakho umphumela onjalo wemicimbi nemininingwane yesithombe sokuwa kwakho. Uma nje usenza, ukwesaba kwakho kuzokushiya.
3. Uqeqesha ukusebenza ngezinkathazo zakho usebenzisa indlela ephumelelayo:
- thola ukuthi yiluphi ukwesaba olubaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakho futhi luphazamise ubukhona bakho;
- ziqhekeze zibe yizicucu ukuze okungenani kube nokwesaba okungenani 5;
- qalisa ukunqoba ukwesaba okukhulu kakhulu ezindleleni eziboniswe ngenhla;
- ukunqoba ngale ndlela ezinye izinkathazo ezincane;
- Phindaphinda njalo lezi zivivinyo uma unomuzwa wokukhathazeka nokwesaba.
Abantu abaningi abaye baphumelela esikhathini sabo nabo babhekana nokunqoba ukwesaba kwabo. Futhi bonke bayavuma njengeyodwa: amathuba okuba ukuthi yini esesabayo ukuthi kuzokwenzeka kithi cishe cishe njalo. Vele ulungele noma yikuphi umphumela wezehlakalo, bese uzobona maduzane ukuthi awunakho lutho olwesabayo.