Ulimi lwezandla lungezazela inkulumo yomuntu. Kulezi zibonakaliso ungafunda ukufunda i-interlocutor yakho futhi wazi ukuthi ukhuluma iqiniso noma into efihlekile. Ukuze ufunde lokhu akunzima, udinga nje ukufunda ulimi lomzimba. Okokuqala, kufaka ukuzithokozisa okungekho amazwi - izibonakaliso ezingadlulisela ulwazi oludingekayo.
Ukuthinta okungabonakali kanye nencazelo yawo
Cabanga ngezenzo ezivame kakhulu zabantu:
- lo muntu wenza izinyathelo ezibonisa izintende zezandla - ulungele ukuxoxa futhi uvulekile ukuxhumana;
- Ukuvala umzimba ngezandla noma izinto zakho kusho ukuthi umuntu akathembi umxhumanisi wakhe;
- Amandla ephaketheni lakho akhombisa isimo sengqondo esinobudlova;
- izandla ngemuva ngemuva kokuthi umuntu ngokusobala ukhululekile;
- Ukuthinta intamo nobuso phakathi kwengxoxo kuyimpawu yamanga;
- ukukopisha ukunyakaza nokuzibonakalisa kuyisibonakaliso sokuzwelana;
- Ukuzikhohlisa njalo kukhuluma ngokungaqiniseki komuntu, ngokumthola esimweni esibi noma isimo.
Ukukhulumisana okungakhulumi ngomlomo kubhekiselwa futhi njengokuthinta kwekhanda. Bheka ngokucophelela, umuntu ohlala ephendula ngezwi le-interlocutor - usetshenziselwe ukujabulisa wonke umuntu. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba athole ukwamukelwa kanye nokwazisa jikelele. Ukujula kwekhanda kusuka kolunye uhlangothi kuya kwesinye kungukungavumelani.
Ukubonisa okungezona amazwi okuzwela abantu
Ukuze uqonde ukuthi ngabe indoda izwa imizwelo noma cha, kufanele uhlolisise ukunyakaza komzimba wakhe. Izimpawu zesihawu zihlanganisa lokhu okulandelayo:
- ukuphazamiseka kwezinwele;
- ukudonsa njalo ihembe;
- ukuphakamisa amashiya ngesikhathi ingxoxo;
- Indoda ithinta isisindo, izingalo noma amahlombe womuntu ayithandayo.
Kukhona nokuthinta okungekho okungabonakali okungatshela mayelana nesihawu sowesifazane. Lezi zihlanganisa ukubuka okude eside, ukunqanda izinwele, izinwele ezingenalutho, izindebe ezihlukanisiwe, izindebe zokukhohlisa. Ukuze udwebe iziphetho ezifanele, umuntu kufanele ahumushe ulimi lomzimba kanye nezenzo eziyinkimbinkimbi.