Lona kanye igama elithi "uhlamvu" ngesiGreki lisho "isici esihlukile" (ngoba inkulumo ethi "isici somlingiswa" ngezindlela ezithile ngisho ne-tautology), futhi kusukela lapha kuzothatha, njengendlela yomdwebo, isithombe somunye wethu. Namuhla sizokhuluma ukuthi yiziphi izimfanelo zobunjalo, yiziphi ezifana nabafana, nokuthi yiziphi ezishaya indiva, futhi nokuthi ungathola kanjani ukuthi uhlamvu lomuntu luni.
Ubunjani bomlingiswa obunyaka?
Abazali abaningi bakholelwa ngephutha ukuthi ilungu elisha lomndeni liwuphepha elimhlophe ongakuthola noma yini. Ngokuqinisekile, ezinye izici zobuntu zixhomeke ekutheni iziphi izilungiselelo abazali abazinike zona ebuntwaneni, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi umuntu ukhula futhi ashintshe impilo yakhe yonke (nakuba umbono oyisisekelo uhlelwe kuwo iminyaka emithathu), futhi ukuphila kuqala esibelethweni umama.
Ukuziphendulela nokuziphatha
Kukholelwa ukuthi ukuziphatha kunqunywe umlingiswa, kodwa okwamanje lokhu noma ukuthi ukuziphatha (indima) kancane kancane kuholela ekutheni kutholakale ubuningi bomlingiswa. Lokhu kwashiwo ngu-Aristotle. Kodwa-ke, kusenjalo izisekelo zomlingiswa ezivela kithi kusukela ekuzalweni, futhi zithonya ezinye izimfanelo. Kuphathelene nemibono efana nokugxila nokuhlonipha.
Iyini leli gama eliyimfihlakalo lokugcizelela. Ngakho-ke izazi zengqondo zibiza ukuthuthukiswa ngokweqile kwezici ezithile zomlingiswa. Ukuhlukaniswa kwezimpawu zokuthuthukiswa kwemvelo kuye kwakhiwa ngendlela ethile, ngokuvamile sisebenzisa izici ezimbili kuphela:
- I-extrovert. Lolu hlobo lwabantu ngabantu abaqondiswe emisebenzini yomphakathi nasenkampani enkulu abazizwa njengenhlanzi emanzini.
- Introvert. Iningi lokusakaza lokungenwa ngamahloni, kodwa lokhu akulona iqiniso ngokuphelele. Ama-introverts aluthola amandla abalulekile emithonjeni yawo futhi azizwe ewodwa noma ehambele inani elincane labantu.
Ngaphezu kokugxila, izazi zengqondo zihlanganisa izici zobuningi ngamaqembu ngokusho kwemimoya. Cishe wezwa lezi zincazelo: i-choleric, i-phlegmatic, i-sanguine ne-melancholic. Ngaphambi kokuzichaza, ake sizame ukunquma ukuthi yiziphi izinhlobo ezine zobumnene ongabakho?
Ukuhlolwa okuncane: "Uhlobo luni lomlingiswa wakho?"
Le vivinyo iboniswe yi-Bydrstup yomculi ngesimo se-cartoon. Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, uvame ukufakwa ekuhloleni ukuhlola isimo sengqondo.
Ngakho-ke, ake ucabange ukuthi uhlezi ebhentshini, futhi eduze kwakho kuyisikhwama sakho ozithandayo. Futhi ngokuzumayo othile uhlezi ngengozi ngqo ekhanda. Ukusabela kwakho:
fikelwa ukuthukuthela, futhi uphumele ngaphandle kwecala lakho imizwelo yakho (X); Ungasheshi ukuthukuthela: Ekugcineni, isimo siyamangalisa (C); ukucasuka kakhulu, kodwa uzama ukungabonisi imizwelo engenangqondo (M); yenza sengathi yonke into ihlelekile, ungaphenduli i-hatt ethintekile futhi uyibeke ekhanda lakho (F).
Izimpendulo
(X) i-Choleric. "Ngiyikholera" ukuqashelwa njalo ngamantombazane amancane, ngoba ukushintsha kwemizwelo, isinyathelo, amandla kanye nemigomo yilezi zimpawu zaloluhlobo (uma, ezinye izinhloso zichazwe). Okubaluleke kakhulu impilo engokomoya, kungenjalo kuleso slide sakhe sokwehluleka nokufutheka okusheshayo.
(S) Sanguine. Uyaziwa ngokuzijabulisa, ikhono lokuhlangana nabantu ngokushesha, futhi, ngokujwayelekile, ukuvumelanisa nezimo ezintsha. Kodwa-ke, kukhona ukungahambisani nokukhala njalo kwenguquko yokubonakala. I-Sanguine kakhulu kuningi kakhulu, kungani engasolwa ngokungaziphathi kahle.
I-Phlegmatic. Mhlawumbe utshelwe ukuthi unesisindo, noma kunjalo, iqiniso lokuthi awubandakanyeki ngokushesha ebhizinisini elisha akusho ukuthi ngeke liphele. Ngokuphambene nalokho, abantu abathandekayo bavame ukuba nesineke nokuphikelela. Ungavamile ukulahlekelwa intukuthelo yakho, uncike emandleni akho futhi ungathandi izingxoxo ezingenalutho.
I-Melancholic. Unobungozi futhi unamahloni. Uma ubhekana nezinkinga noma, njengoba ucabanga, ukungaboni kahle, ungakwazi ukwehlisa izandla zakho. Sinda ngaphakathi kwakho, eside, kabuhlungu futhi ngokujulile. Bazimisele ukuthatha konke okusenhliziyweni, noma kunjalo, uma uhaqwe abantu abanothando, kukunika amandla futhi kukusize uqedele imisebenzi yakho.
Uhlobo luni lomlingisi okufanele intombazane ithande abantu?
Amantombazane avame ukuzibuza ukuthi yibaphi abantu abathanda ukuzenza, uma kungenzeka, "ukulungisa" izimfanelo zabo. Ukuqonda ukuthi ayikho impendulo engafanele, bheka abafana bakho. Uthanda zonke izimfanelo zabo? Ungamangali uma lokho okucabangela ukungahle kumuntu kungcono. Konke ngoba ukuqonda kwabanye abantu kuxhomeke, kufaka phakathi ukuthi uhlamvu lwakho luni.
Kodwa, yiqiniso, kunezinzuzo ezijwayelekile ezibonakalayo emvelweni wamantombazane. Ake sithole ukuthi yiziphi izimfanelo nezici ezithandwa kakhulu kubafana:
- umqondo wokuhlekisa. Uma uhleka amahlaya afanayo, kodwa usakwazi ukuhleka, khona-ke amathuba akho okuheha abantu aphezulu kakhulu. UGeethe akazange athi "akukho mkhuba wabantu abonakaliswa yilokho abathola khona".
- ukunakekela, umusa. Lezi zimfanelo zithandwa ngabantu ngokwemvelo, ngoba intombazane enakekelayo iyoba ngumama omuhle;
- ukuhlanzeka. Kukhona neze umfana othanda intombazane enenhlonipho;
- ukuphana. Ukuhlukumezeka kuyaphenduka futhi kubambisane ne-pettiness;
- ikhono lokulalela. Lesi yisici esingavamile ukuthi
uhlonishwa yiwo wonke umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubulili bakhe; - "Gwema". Ama-heroes angcono kakhulu avame ukucasula umbono wabo. Ngokungathi umfana uyavuma ukuthi uyathanda isabelo se-bitchiness, noma kunjalo, ngaphandle kwalesi sikhathi sokuphuza okomnandi, ubudlelwane buyinto engafanele.
Ungazami ukulungele wonke umuntu, ngemuva kwakho konke, umphumela womuntu ophikisanayo uthola imithunzi emnandi. Ngakho-ke, ukucabangela kungakhula ibe yintandokazi enkulu, iphumelele - ibe yi-avarice, nomusa-ekuziphenduleleni nasekuzinikeleni komuntu siqu. Yiba ngokwakho futhi uzithande ngokwakho, ngoba uhlukile!