Cabanga ngomuntu ophakathi. Yena, njengabo bonke abantu abakuzungezile, ngumuntu ogcwele ukubuka umhlaba kanye nezici zomuntu ngamunye. Uyakhunjulwa abanye ngothando lwakhe olumangalisayo, oluthinta ithemba futhi anqobe ngokulandelana. Kungani lo muntu ethola incazelo enjalo? Abanye bangasho ukuthi lokhu kuyisimo sakhe sengqondo. Futhi bayobe beqinisile. Futhi abanye bazosho ukuthi kungokwesehlakalo sakhe. Futhi bayobe beqinisile futhi. Ngakho-ke umehluko phakathi kokulingana nokuziphatha? Ake sibone ukuthi le mibono inokufana yini.
Isici nokuziphatha komuntu
Ubuhlobo phakathi kobubele nobuntu buye kwafundwa iminyaka eminingi ngabososayensi abahlukene. Ngenxa yalokho, kwakukhona imibono eyinhloko emayelana nobuhlobo balezi zici ezimbili:
- Isimo sezulu sibonakala ngomlingiswa.
- Isimiso sichasene nomlingiswa.
- Isimo sezulu sibonakala njengengxenye yomlingiswa.
- Isimo sezulu sibhekwa njengesimo esiyinhloko somlingiswa.
Uma sicabangela ukuchazwa kwesayensi kwezingqondo, izici ezihlukile zobuciko bomlingiswa zibonakala ngaphezulu:
Isimiso sinhlanganisela yezakhiwo ze-psyche ezithinta ukuziphatha komuntu nomsebenzi wakhe. Imemori, isivinini sokucabanga, izinga lokuhlushwa kanye nesigqi somsebenzi - ngoba konke lokhu kuhambelana nesistimu yesisindo somuntu, okubhekwa njengento eyinhloko ekwakheni enye yezinhlobo zokuziphatha. Kukhona okungu-4 kubo:
- ama-choleric - kubantu bakulo hlobo ukuhamba kwesistimu yezinzwa kuyisici. Abantu abanjalo bavame ukungalingani. Baphuthuma ngaso leso sikhathi futhi ngokushesha bezolile;
- I-sanguine - abanikazi balezi zindlela zengqondo bavulekile futhi banomphakathi, kepha isimo sabo sengqondo emhlabeni siyisisekelo. Ngokushesha banamathele futhi ngokushesha bangabi nandaba nakho konke okukuzungezile;
- i-phlegmatic - abantu abanalolu hlobo lwezentathuko banikwa isihloko sezinto ezizolile futhi ezingapheli. Bashisekela ezenzweni, bengenandaba futhi bengaphazamiseki;
- I-Melancholic - lolu hlobo luhlanganisa nobungozi obusengozini futhi obuvame ukuvulwa. Bahlala bejwayele ukwesaba nokunganaki.
Umlingiswa - ngokungafani nobumnene, yiqoqo lezimfanelo eziboniswa ngokuphathelene nezinto nezinto zezwe elizungezile. Umlingiswa uphinde wenziwe ngumsebenzi we-psyche, kodwa ngokungafani nobumnene obunikezwa umuntu ngokwemvelo, kuhlanganiswa futhi kuguqulwa kuyo yonke impilo. Imvelo yomuntu ithonywa yizinto ezifana nomphakathi, imfundo, umsebenzi, njll.
Abaningi bezengqondo bezama ukunikeza ukuhlukaniswa okuqondile kumlingisi. Kodwa-ke, ukuxhumana phakathi kobugovu nomlingisi akuvumelekile ukwenza ukuthi izici zihlanzeke, futhi manje izinhlobo ezinjalo zobuningi njengezinqunto eziqinile, ezingokwengqondo nangokomzwelo zixhunyaniswa ngokuqhubekayo hhayi nje ngethonya lomphakathi, kodwa futhi nezici ezingokwemvelo zomuntu ngamunye.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, lo mlingiswa angahle abekwe yilokho okukhona kuzo izici ezihlukahlukene:
- isimo sengqondo sokuzibona (ukuzithoba, ukuziqhenya, ukuthobeka);
- isimo sengqondo kubantu abakuzungezile (ukubekezelelana, ukukhwabanisa, ukuphendula, njll);
- isimo sengqondo somsebenzi (amandla, ukubekezela, ubuvila);
- isimo sengqondo ezintweni ezizungezile (ukuzuma, ukuchithwa).
Ngakho-ke, izici zobumnene nomlingiswa ziqukethe ukuthi zivame ukudideka, zibiza izimfanelo zangasese zomuntu ukubonakaliswa kwe-psyche futhi ngokufanayo, ukuveza izinto ezitholakala emphakathini njengezakhiwo zomuntu wesimiso sezinzwa.
Eqinisweni, kungenzeka ukuhlukanisa le mibono emibili ngokulula. Ubuhlobo bomoya nomlingiswa bungamelwa kanje:
- umlingiswa - isethi sezimfanelo ezitholakalayo, nesimo sengqondo - isisu;
- umlingiswa angashintsha ngaphansi kwethonya lemibandela yokuphila, futhi ukuziphatha okuhlala kungashintshi;
- umqondo womlingisi awunakukwazi ukuhlukanisa, ngokungafani nokuziphatha;
- uhlamvu kanye nezici zalo ngabanye kungenziwa ngaphansi kokuhlola, futhi ukuzithoba akuziboleki kulo.
Isimo nomlingiswa uzohlale udideke nomunye nomunye. Kodwa-ke, ngokwezifiso badala ubuntu obubalulekile, okungahlolwa ngaso sonke isikhathi ngaphandle. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, izimfanelo zakhe zangasese zivumelana njalo noluthola.