Ebonakala ekukhanyeni, zonke izingane ziziphatha ngokulinganayo: zilala, zidla, ngezinye izikhathi zikhala. Kodwa ezinyangeni zokuqala emva kokuzalwa, baqala ukubonisa uhlamvu, ngoba wonke umuntu unayo eyakhe. Ixhunyiwe ngemvelo kanye nezakhi zofuzo, izimfanelo zayo zibonakala ngokucacile kakhulu ezikhathini zenkinga nokukhula. Izingane eziningi ngalesi sikhathi ziba yinto engcolile, ziphathe ngokuzikhandla. Ake sithole ukuthi yini okufanele yenze uma ingane ingalawuleki, iziphatha kabi futhi ingasabeli nhlobo emazwini omdala. Futhi ngokuqala sizokwazi ukuthi kungani izingane zingalaleli abazali bazo.
Izimbangela zokungalaleli
- Esikhathini sokuthuthukiswa nokubunjwa kobuntu, eziningana eziyinkimbinkimbi, okuthiwa izinkathi zenkinga zikhethwe, lapho umntwana ezwa sengathi amandla abathandekayo bakhe. Noma kunjalo, lesi sikhathi kunzima kakhulu ingane, ngoba ngezinye izikhathi yena ngokwakhe akakwazi ukuqonda izimbangela zezenzo zabo. Ngakho-ke ingane iqonda umhlaba, ifunda indlela yokuyenza, nokuthi akunakwenzeka kanjani nokuthi kungani. Futhi abazali kufanele bafinyelele kule nqubo ngokuqonda, bachaze isinyathelo ngasinye kumntwana onzima.
- Uma unomntwana, kufanele uqonde ukuthi kusukela ukuzalwa kungumuntu ohlukile, ngemicabango yakho nezifiso zakho, ngakho-ke unelungelo lokwenza ngendlela oyifunayo. Futhi wena, bazali, kufanele nje ulungise ukuziphatha kwakhe uma ngabe yiziphi izenzo eziyingozi kuye noma kwabanye, futhi akukho mzamo uzama ukwenza i-robot elalelayo, elawulwayo.
- Futhi ukungalaleli kungabangelwa imfundo engafanele (uma ingane ivunyelwe kakhulu noma, ngokuphambene, konke kuvinjelwe) noma izinkinga emndenini (ukuxabana okuphakathi kwabazali njll).
Kuthiwani uma ingane ingalawuleki?
1. Uma ingane yenza lokho akufunayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi imibhikisho yabazali bayo, kuyisikhathi sokucabangela imibono yakhe ekukhuliseni futhi, mhlawumbe, ishintshe ukuziphatha kwayo. Ungamemeza kakhulu ingane? Uyakhokha ngokwanele?
2. Yakha amacebo akho okuziphatha:
- Ungaphenduki kulabo abahlambalazayo kanye nokucasula ingane;
- zama ukuthula ngaphandle kokuziphatha kwakhe;
- setha imingcele (lokho ingane engakwenza futhi okungenjalo), futhi ubambelele kubo ngokucacile.
3. Ezingxabano nasezingxabaneni nendodana yakho noma indodakazi yakho, ungalokothi uqhubeke negunya lakho: ngalokhu ungaphula ukuthembeka kwengane encane, ngakho-ke kuyoba nzima nakakhulu ukudala ubudlelwane. Kunalokho, thola ukuyekethisa, uxoxisane nengane, umphazamise. Mphathe ngomusa, ngesisa nangothando. Lena yindlela engcono kakhulu yokwenza ingane ivule ukuxhumana futhi.
4. Ezimweni lapho ingane iziphatha kabi ngenxa yezinkinga ezithile ezingokwengqondo, ungayinaki ukuvakashelwa kudokotela. Uchwepheshe uzokusiza ukuthi ubhekane nalolu daba futhi ubuyisele ukuthula komndeni.