Indlela yokunciphisa uyise wengane yamalungelo omzali?

Isifiso sikamama sokunciphisa ubaba wakhe wemvelo wamalungelo omzali singavela ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene. Okwamanje, umthetho waseRussia ne-Ukraine uhlinzeka uhlu oluphelele lwezizathu lapho kuvunyelwe khona inqubo enjalo. Kulesi sihloko sizokutshela ukuthi yiziphi izimo, ngokusho komthetho wamanje wezizwe ezimbili, ungakwazi ukunqanda ilungelo lomzali wengane, nokuthi ungayenza kanjani.

Indlela yokunciphisa uyise wamalungelo omzali eRussia nase-Ukraine?

Okokuqala futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi kulawo mazwe omabili, ukulahlwa kwamalungelo omzali womunye wabazali wengane encane kwenziwa kuphela ngokuxhumana nomzali wesibili, umshushisi noma iziphathimandla zokulondoloza enesitatimende enkantolo.

Futhi ngalokhu, kumele kube nezimo eziphoqelekile, ikakhulukazi:

• ukuhlukumezeka okunobungozi kayise wezinto eziphilayo ukwenza lo msebenzi ngokuphathelene nendodana yakhe noma indodakazi yakhe, ehlinzekwa ngumthetho wamanje;
• ukusekelwa kwengane engakhokhelwa isikhathi esithile esimweni lapho abazali behlukanisile khona futhi ingane ihlala nomama ngesisekelo senqumo yenkantolo;
• ukuhlukunyezwa kwamalungelo omuntu njengomzali, okwezinye izimo kungathinta inhlalakahle jikelele kanye nempilo yengane;
• ukungenangqondo ukukhipha indodana yakhe noma indodakazi yakhe esibhedlela, kanye nanoma yisiphi isikhungo sezingane, inhlangano yezokwelapha nokunye okunjalo;
• ukuqaliswa kobudlova obhekene nengane, kokubili ukwelashwa ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, nokuhlukumeza kakhulu, ukuphika ukuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili komfana noma intombazane;
• ukuxhashazwa okungalawuleki kwezinto ezidakayo noma iziphuzo ezidakayo;
• ikhomishana yamabomu yimuphi ubugebengu obubhekiswe empilweni nasempilo yengane yakhe, kanye nomzali wakhe wesibili, kulolu cala - umama.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokusho kwemithetho ye-Ukraine, esinye sezizathu ezingabangela ekunciphiseni amalungelo omzali noma ukuvinjelwa kwesikhashana ukuxhashazwa kwengane nokumcindezela kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lomsebenzi olungekho emthethweni, isibonelo, ukucela noma ukweba.

Ngaphambi kokuba omunye noma ngaphezulu kwezimo ezingenhla, unina unelungelo lokufaka isimangalo neziphathimandla zokwahlulela ngokusebenzisa izimfuno zokwebiwa kukayise wengane yakhe yamalungelo omzali. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, lesi sitatimende sizobe sinezincwadi lapho inkantolo izokwazi ukubona ukuthi ubaba akenzi kahle imisebenzi enqunywe ngumthetho, noma ezinye izimo ezibhekiswe kummangali.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, kungaba okungenakuqhathaniswa ukuletha ofakazi abaningana enkantolo abazokwazi ukuqinisekisa ngokukhona kwabo kanye nesitatimende sokuthi uyise wengane uchitha imisebenzi yakhe, kanye nolunye ulwazi olukhulunywa ngalo enkantolo.