Ubuhlobo phakathi kowesifazane okhululekile nomuntu oshadile kungadlulela iminyaka. Futhi oshade naye ongathembekile, lesi simo ngokuvamile siyaneliseka kakhulu, okungeke sithathwe ngomfazi, cishe, amaphupho omndeni kanye nezingane. Kulokhu, uhlale enombuzo - indlela yokuziphatha kahle nendoda eshadile, waze washiya umndeni.
Indlela yokuziphatha kahle nomthandi oshadile?
Ngokusho kwezibalo, izinyanga ezindala noma ezingekho kakhulu zihola iningi labesilisa abashadile. Kodwa njengoba umgomo wabo oyinhloko kuphela ukwaneliswa ukukhangwa ngokomzimba, "ukushintsha amahhashi esikebheni" amadoda ashadile awasheshi. Futhi aziwa ukuthi ngubani owayelokhu enesibindi - lowo owashiywa ngemuva kobusuku obunye, noma lowo ohlala iminyaka eminingi emlindela othandekayo wakhe ukuba ashiye umndeni.
Enye yezinqubo zesifazane ezivame ukwakhiwa ukuphoqa umthandi oshadile ukuba ahlukanise kuyisihluku. Inkosikazi "ingancika emzimbeni" noma iphule nomthandi wayo aze aphume emndenini. Ngamanye amadoda, asebenza, kodwa kunengozi ukuthi lo mthandi uzongena kwenye.
Inqubo yesibili esebenzayo iqukethe ukuhlela lowo muntu izimo ezikhululekile kakhulu. Inkosikazi kulesi simo kufanele ibe ngcono kunomfazi ovumelekile ukupheka, bheka, ucansi. Kodwa uma umuntu eqonda ukuthi kunoma yikuphi, ukulutha umlutha kwenzeka futhi emva konyaka noma amabili inkosikazi izobangela imizwa efanayo nomfazi okwamanje, akunakwenzeka ukuba ahlukanise.
Esinye isibonelo sokuzala ngokuphumelelayo kwendoda enomfazi ovumelekile kuyaziwa kabanzi. Lena indaba ka-Anna Boleyn no-Henry VIII. Eminyakeni eminingana, u-Anna wasekela ngokuphumelelayo ukukhathazeka kweNkosi, kodwa akazange angene ebuhlotsheni obuseduze naye. Ekugcineni, ngemva kokuphikisana evulekile nesonto kanye nengxenye yamakhosi aseYurophu, uHenry wahlukana. Noma kunjalo, ukuqedwa kwalendaba yothando akude nefu - ukudumazeka othandekayo wakhe, inkosi yamangalela u-Anna ngobuqili yambulala.
Isiphetho kuzo zonke lokhu kulandela kulula - ukwakha injabulo yakho ezinyembezi zenye owesifazane akufanele neze. Yiqiniso, kwenzeka futhi ukuthi kunezinxenye ezimbili ngempela, ezizalwa emphefumulweni nasemzimbeni. Futhi baphile ngokujabula njalo. Kodwa kulokhu, akuyona owesifazane kuphela kodwa umthandi wakhe uzimisele ukudala umndeni.